Waken the extraordinary person in you!
Part 1: Unlock Your Potential
Chapter 1: Dreams For Our Life
“Mature people believe in destiny,
shallow people believe in luck.” —Benjamin Disraeli
We all have dreams…
We all want to believe from the bottom of our hearts
that we have a special talent.
Capable of change,
able to exert a special influence on others
and able to change this world for the better.
There are times in life
when we all have a vision of a better life
that we wish and deserve.
But, for many of us,
those dreams are so covered with disappointments
and mundane things in life that
we don’t even have the will to try to rise.
With so many people,
dreams are shattered and with it,
our will to make our own destiny is shattered.
Many people have lost the firm belief that
is the sharp element of success.
My life has been a constant quest
to revive a dream and make it come true,
reminding us to remember
and use the boundless energy that
lies dormant within each of us.
I will never forget the day
I was strongly impacted,
the day I really lived my dream.
I was flying in a private helicopter from Los Angeles
to Orange County that day for a presentation.
While flying over the city of Glendale,
I suddenly noticed a magnificent building below
and I flew my helicopter over that house.
I realized this was the same house that,
12 years ago,
I used to keep the gatekeeper there.
At that time,
I was always worried about whether my 1960 Volkswagen would be able
to cover the 30-minute drive to get me to work.
My main concern in life is how to survive;
I feel scared and lonely.
But that day,
as I was flying in the air,
I thought to myself,
“It’s only been a decade,
but so much has changed!”.
I used to have dreams too,
but they never seem to come true.
But now, I have come to believe that every failure
and hopelessness I have encountered in the past
has really laid the foundation
for the understanding that has contributed
to the new life I am enjoying.
I continued to fly south along the coast
and I saw dolphins playing with surfers on the waves.
That is the image that Becky,
my wife and I used to love
and consider as a special gift of life.
I finally got to Irvine.
I was a little worried when I saw that outside the fence
where I was going to give a presentation,
the road was jammed with traffic
and people for several kilometers.
I thought to myself,
“God, I wish what was going on could end soon
so people could come to my presentation”.
But when I landed at the airport,
I saw a new scene in front of me:
Thousands of people were being stopped
by security right where I was about to land.
Suddenly I began to understand the truth.
Traffic is stuck because people come
to my presentation!
We had expected about 2,000 people to attend,
but now there are 7,000 people in a hall
that can only hold up to 5,000 people!
As I walked into the auditorium from the airport,
hundreds of people surrounded me
and demanded to hug me
or tell me how my work has affected their lives.
The stories they told me were unbelievable.
A mother introduced me to a son she had been rated
as “Hyperactive” and “Study.”
By applying the State of Control principles taught in this book,
not only did she not have
to the boy drank Ritalin too,
whose mother and daughter have since moved to California
and here he is considered a genius!
A gentleman told me how he had applied
the techniques of Success Management
and had given up his cocaine habit altogether.
A couple in their 50s shared with me a story
of how they were preparing for a divorce
when they learned the lesson of the Self-Law.
A businessman told me that his monthly income
in just 6 months increased
from $2,000 to over $12,000
and an entrepreneur told me
that he increased his company’s revenue
to over $3 million within 18 months
by applying the principles of Quality Questions and Emotional Handling.
A beautiful young lady showed me a picture of her past,
she has now lost more than twenty kilos
by applying the principles of Leverage in this book.
I was so moved and choked up that
I couldn’t speak while standing in the room.
As I looked down at the audience
with 5,000 cute smiling faces,
I realized I was living my dream!
It is a wonderful feeling to know that
behind the clouds of doubt,
I have information,
skills that can help so many people present
to be able to self- empower yourself to transform your life.
A whole stream of images and
emotions flowed through me.
I began to recall an experience that
came to me just a few years ago.
When sitting alone in my little apartment in Venice, California,
and in my sad solitude I lulled myself
to the lyrical tune of a Neil Diamond love song.
I feel like my life is nothing,
all the events of my life completely control me.
Then I also remember the moment my life changed,
the moment I said,
“Successful! I know I’m worth more than everything
I have in my life right now,
in terms of my mind, emotional and physical”.
So I made a decision
and it was this decision that changed my life forever.
I’ve decided I’ll never be satisfied
with anything below my potential.
Who would have thought that
this decision would lead me to such a magical moment?
I let myself pour out during the presentation that
night and when I left the lecture hall,
thousands of people came to the airport to say goodbye to me.
Tears welled in my eyes
as I thanked God for this happy moment.
Am I living in reality or in a dream?
Still the same guy that
just 8 years ago was always struggling with life,
frustrated, lonely and unable to run his life?
My body is obese, my pocket is empty,
I have a mood that
I don’t know if I can survive or not.
How can a young guy like me,
with only a high school education,
make such miraculous changes?
My answer was simple:
I learned to arm myself with a principle
that I now call concentration of energy.
Many people are unaware of the immense power we can directly control
when we focus all our resources on mastering just one area of our lives.
Centralized control is like a laser capable of breaking
through any obstacle that stops you.
When we consistently focus on improving an area,
we develop unique distinctive ways to make that area better.
One reason so few of us get
what we want is because we never direct our focus:
we never focus our energies.
I believe that one of the important lessons of life is understanding
what motivates us in our actions.
What shapes a person’s personality?
Answering this question will give us the basic keys
to shaping our own destiny.
Throughout my life,
I have been constantly drawn
to a single and pressing focus:
What makes the difference in the quality of each life?
How often do we meet many people
from poor and hopeless environments,
yet they succeed in life
and leave a deep impression on us?
On the contrary,
how many people have favorable circumstances.
The means to success are at their fingertips,
yet they come to a miserable end,
disappointed and often fall into addiction?
What makes some lives exemplary and others a warning?
What is the secret to creating happy, passionate, fulfilling lives,
while other lives become tasteless, boring?
My own magical obsession began with simple questions:
“How do I take direct control of my life?
What can I do today to transform my life and help me and others?
How do I expand, learn, grow,
and share my understanding
with others in a fun and meaningful way?”
From a very young age,
I developed a belief that we are all in this world to offer something unique,
I believe that we are all endowed
with a natural gift especially.
I truly believe that each of us has a hidden superpower.
Each of us has a talent, a gift,
a little bit of genius waiting for us to unfold.
Maybe it’s artistic or musical.
It can be the magical ability to communicate with those we love.
It can be a business
or creative gift to get us into a business or a career.
I believe that the Creator does not favor anyone.
We are all created by our Creator,
each with our own uniqueness,
but all of us are endowed
with equal opportunities in life
by the Creator to live happily.
Years ago, I decided to live my life by investing the Creator’s favor in something
that remained after my life was over.
I decided I had to somehow give my life
so that it would last long after I was gone.
I earnestly invite you not only to try
to read this book through,
but to take advantage of all that you have learned and apply it
to your simple everyday life.
This is a necessary
and crucial step for you to bring results to your efforts in life.
“You’ve got to follow your passion.
You’ve got to figure out what it is you love,
who you really are.
And have the courage to do that.
I believe that the only courage anybody ever needs is the courage
to follow your own dreams.” — Oprah Winfrey
HOW TO CREATE SUSTAINABLE CHANGES
“The trouble with not having a goal is that you can spend your life running up
and down the field and never score.” —Bill Copeland
Changes have real value only
when they are permanent and reasonable.
We’ve all experienced temporary changes,
only to feel depressed and frustrated afterward.
In fact, many people want to make changes,
but with that desire comes the fear
and anxiety of whether their changes are permanent or temporary.
A simple example of this is the case
of a person who wants to start a diet,
but feels hesitant,
mainly because subconsciously they are convinced
that the efforts they make will only bring them back a momentary reward.
All my life I have followed the fundamental principles of organization,
which are the principles of lasting change,
and you will learn about them
and how to apply them in this book.
But now, I want to share with you 3 elementary principles of change that you
and I can immediately apply to change your life.
They are very simple,
but extremely effective if we know how to apply them skillfully.
“When you undervalue what you do,
the world will undervalue who you are.”— Oprah Winfrey
Once you want to make a change,
the first thing you have
to do is raise your standards.
When people asked me what changed my life eight years ago,
I replied that definitely the most important thing was
to change what I asked of myself.
I wrote down on paper everything that
I no longer wanted to accept in my life,
all that I could no longer endure
and all that I aspired to achieve.
History has left us many inspirational examples
such as Leonardo da vinci,
Abraham Lincoln, Helen Keller,
Martin Luther king, Rosa Parks,
Albert Einstein, Cesar Chavez,
Soichiro Honda and many others.
Others have taken the miraculous steps of raising their standards.
The strength that was in them is also in you,
if you have the courage to ask for it.
Changing who you are is a simple first step to changing an organization,
a company, a country or a world.
“Follow your passion.
It will lead you to your purpose.”— Oprah Winfrey
CHANGE YOUR BELIEF OF LIFE
If you raise your standards but don’t really believe you can achieve them,
you’re destroying yourself.
You don’t even want to try;
you will lack the faith that can help you
unlock the deeper possibilities that are present within you.
Our beliefs are like absolute commands,
telling us how things are,
what we can and cannot do.
So, changing our belief system is crucial
to making any sure and lasting change in our lives.
We must develop a firm belief that we can
and will meet new standards before we actually take action.
Without solid belief systems,
no matter how much you raise your standards,
you will never have the conviction to support them.
How much do you think Gandhi could have achieved
if he hadn’t believed in the power of nonviolent resistance?
His beliefs have helped him reach his inner resources
and have helped him face the daunting challenges
to which someone with less determination might have to surrender.
“You have to find what sparks a light in you
so that you in your own way can
illuminate the world.”— Oprah Winfrey
CHANGE YOUR STRATEGY
“It must be borne in mind that the tragedy of life doesn’t lie in not reaching your goal.
The tragedy lies in having no goals to reach.” —Benjamin E. Mays
To stay determined,
you need the best strategies to be effective.
One of my basic convictions is that
if you aim high and you have faith,
then surely you can devise strategies.
You will simply find the way.
After all, this is the theme of the whole book.
It shows you strategies for accomplishing the task,
and I will tell you right away that in any case,
the best strategy is to find a pattern,
someone who has already achieved the results you want
and then delve into their insights learn their ways,
their beliefs and their way of thinking.
Not only will you find this makes you more efficient,
but it will also save you a lot of time
because you don’t have to tinker around long to find your way.
You just have to tweak it,
and maybe make it better.
This book will provide you with the information
and motivation to commit yourself to all three key principles
to change the quality of your life.
There are many people in the world
who know what to do,
but few actually do what they know.
Knowing is not enough.
You need to take action
and if you will allow me,
I will be your coach through this book.
I will show you how to discern the sources of power
to make lasting changes in the quality of your life.
Together, we will focus on the five areas of life that
I believe affect us the most.
Hard roads require will of steel! — Aysa Angel
1- Master your emotions
Mastering this lesson will help you master most
of the methods of the other four areas.
Please pay attention to that.
Why do you want to lose weight?
Is it just because you want your body to lose fat?
Or because you think that if you lose weight,
you will feel more energetic and resilient,
you will become more attractive
in front of others and you will feel confident,
print more when in front of a crowd?
Almost everything we do is change the way we feel,
but most of us have little or no training
to know how to do this quickly and effectively.
It’s strange how often we use our intelligence
to get into useless emotional states,
while forgetting how many innate gifts we all have.
Too many of us have no control,
while forgetting to take care of our emotions,
factors that everyone can control.
The first wealth is health. ― Emerson
2- Master the body
If you have all the things you dream of,
but don’t have the physical health to enjoy them, what’s the point?
Do you wake up every morning feeling full of vitality,
energy and ready to step into a new day?
Or do you wake up as tired as the night before,
exhausted and feeling reluctant to start a new day?
Will your daily routine make you an inactive person?
One in two Americans dies from coronary heart disease;
one in three dies from cancer.
We are “duging our own grave with our teeth”,
as the 17th-century physician Thomas Moffett put it.
We eat our bodies full of fat,
foods with no nutrients,
we start to eat poison covers our internal organs with cigarettes,
alcohol and drugs and we sit passively
in front of the television screen.
This second lesson will help you take control of your physical health
so that you not only stay fit,
but feel truly healthy,
and know that you are in control of your life,
in an energetic body,
and allow you to succeed.
A girl should be two things:
classy and fabulous. — Coco Chanel
3- Mastering Relationships
Aside from mastering your emotions and physical health,
nothing is more important than learning
how to master your relationships.
business and society.
After all, no one wants to learn, grow,
succeed and be happy alone and for themselves.
The third key lesson in this book shows you the secrets
to building quality relationships first with yourself,
and then with others.
You will begin to discover what you value most,
the rules of the game of life,
and how it relates to everyone else playing the game with you.
I have discovered that,
the greatest resource is relationships,
because it opens the door to all the other resources I need.
Mastering this lesson will give you boundless resources
for your growth and dedication.
“Does your money work as hard for you as you work for it?” – Grant Cardone
4- Mastering Money
By the time we reach 65,
most of us are either no longer making money, or dead!
But none of us want to fall into that scenario
when we think about our golden retirement.
But if you are not convinced enough that
you deserve the financial comfort of an effective plan,
how can you make this financial vision a reality?
The fourth mastery lesson in this book will teach you
to go beyond mere survival in the dark of life and even now,
to get there.
Living in society,
each of us has the ability to realize our dreams.
Yet most of us experience financial pressures more and more each day
and we imagine that having more money will relieve us of that pressure.
This is a huge cultural illusion
I can assure you that the more money you have,
the more pressure you feel.
The key is not to make a lot of money,
but to change your beliefs and attitudes towards money,
so that you see it as a means to an end,
not as the ultimate and only goal for best of happiness.
“Money seems to flow to those who give it
the most attention & take responsibility for it.” – Grant Cardone
5- Mastering Time
Masterpieces require time.
But how many of us know how to use it?
I’m not talking about time management;
I mean taking your time and transforming it,
using it to make it your ally,
not your enemy.
First, this fifth mastery lesson will teach you
how short-term judgments can lead to long-term suffering.
You will learn how to make a real decision
and control your desires for immediate enjoyment,
to give your thoughts, your creations
and even your potentials time to bear full fruit.
You will then learn how to outline the strategies needed
to execute your decision step by step,
to make it a reality.
With a strong determination to act,
patience through time stagnation,
and the flexibility to change methods whenever needed.
Once you’ve mastered your time,
you’ll understand why
so many people overestimate what they can achieve in a year
and underestimate what
they can achieve in a decade.
I wrote this book
with the intention of being a textbook action guide
to increase the quality of your life
and increase the source of pleasure you can draw from.
I have a hunch that this book will bring you a little new
and unique distinction of power
to help you reach a higher standard of living.
With all due respect,
I begin this relationship
with you as we embark on a journey
to discover and make our true
and deep potentials a reality.
Life is a gift and it offers us the privilege,
opportunity and responsibility
to give something back to life,
through a better quality of life.
Come on, let’s begin our adventure….
“The greatest discovery of all time is
that a person can change his future
by merely changing his attitude.”— Oprah Winfrey