You can! Nothing is impossible!
Chapter 25: Your face
No matter how you feel, get up, dress up and show up. – Regina Brett
Arch Lustberg, a former professor of public speaking at Catholic University
and now a consultant
with the American Chamber of Commerce,
says one of the keys to effective public speaking
is showing off an open face.
Lustberg writes in “Winning When It Really Counts”
that there are three types of facial expressions:
When speaking in public,
your facial expressions have a very important influence
on the message you want to convey.
Instinctively, the audience will assume
that “we can read other people’s thoughts
through their facial expressions”.
A closed face is one that has a vertical line between your eyebrows,
like when you frown.
You have this expression
when you have to think,
or get angry. Lustberg commented:
“It would be horrible if the audience had to see a face like that.”
A neutral facial expression is a lifeless facial expression
– there is no movement on the face except the corners of the mouth.
This facial expression is often seen on TV announcers.
Neutral facial expressions often appear cold and emotionless.
However, it is the facial expression
that many people use when speaking in public.
An open facial expression is one
that has dilated eyebrows with a few wrinkles on the forehead.
The points out that people often have open facial expressions
when they’re engaging in lively stories,
when talking to children,
when playing with pets,
or when they’re telling their favorite story. — Napoleon Hill
It can be said that the most wonderful work of art of nature
is the human face.
The special thing is
that among thousands of people born from the dawn of heaven and earth,
there have never been two completely identical faces.
Another special thing:
the human face always changes over time!
Facial expressions represent a person’s personality and emotions.
To understand someone,
the first thing you need to do is observe their facial expressions.
Although many people have the ability
to hide their emotions,
if you pay attention to them,
you can completely understand their thoughts
and feelings through facial expressions.
In each different moment,
each situation is different,
you can choose for yourself the appropriate facial expression:
closed, neutral or open.
There’s nothing wrong
with expressing your true feelings on your face.
The point is:
an open face is one of the secrets to helping you attract others
to your story
and an indirect way to help you achieve your goals in the negotiation.
Pay attention to your facial expression
because this is the first impression
of you in the eyes of the other person.
It greatly affects the message you want to convey.
Change your face if you find it detrimental
to your communication.
The only way to change facial expressions is to change personality.
Stay positive and practice smiling to get an open face.
This is also the first step to success in life.
Wealth can also be that attitude of gratitude
with which we remind ourselves every day to count our blessings. ― Chris Gardner