Habit 3: Today’s Work Don’t Leave Tomorrow
What today is not for tomorrow
This habit will help you create a habit
of organizing work and reasonable hours.
If Habit 2 has helped you identify
what is important to prioritize number 1,
then Habit 3 will help you do it first,
and know to leave the less important
and urgent things for later.
Habit 1 says, “You are the driver,
not the passenger on the ship of your destiny.”
Habit 2 says, “Then decide for yourself
and draw a map of where you are going.”
And the third habit is that:
“Just keep moving forward,
don’t let anything get in the way of your journey“.
Imagine now that you are packing for a long trip:
If you arrange it neatly and reasonably,
you can bring many handy things, right?
If you simply put everything in your bag in a messy way,
you won’t bring much.
So is your life.
you’ll get a lot:
More time for family,
and for yourself.
Which group of people do you belong to?
Are you a bum,
or a beggar?
These people often have no control over what should be done first
and what should be done later.
They often beg until the water reaches their feet to jump.
It was the beggarness that made them always in a state of stress
but still lack of responsibility and superficiality at work.
Are you a father?
These people see whatever needs to be done right away,
but nothing is important to them.
Because they want to please many people,
they always meet all requests.
This personality can seem deceptive
because it makes things seem urgent
so that people mistakenly think it is important.
But in reality,
that’s not the case.
He doesn’t consider it important,
people are right,
who says nothing but nods.
Are you a lazy person?
These people always waste time on excessive things like watching TV continuously,
sleeping in all day,
fidgeting on the phone.
Lazy people are often irresponsible and spoiled.
Or are you someone who knows how to prioritize?
These people always know what is important
and what is not urgent.
Of course, they are not perfect people,
but they know how to consider everything
and prioritize what needs to be done first.
They know to refuse at the right time,
at the right job,
from which they can control their lives,
balance their lives and have a cavalier demeanor.
In each group of people there is enough good and bad,
so you should:
– Less begging times:
Don’t embrace everything
and think everything is important.
– Know how to say “no” to unnecessary things.
– Let go of laziness:
Save time for more important things.
So how to become a person who knows how to prioritize?
You must know how to plan.
To get off to a good start,
I strongly recommend planning.
Don’t think of a plan as a big deal,
you can plan it in many ways:
some notes, decisions,
to-dos are recorded on a calendar,
a small notebook of goals to be achieved.
At the end of the week
or at the beginning of the week,
think about what is the most important thing to do this week.
I call it the Big Rock,
it’s like the small steps on the way to your long-term goal.
It could be finishing a book,
writing a cover letter,
exercising three times a week,
attending a friend’s birthday…
Imagine you have a pot,
you fill half of the pot with gravel,
then add more large stones,
some of the stones will be left over.
Now let’s do it again:
Empty all the gravel in the pot,
put the big stones in first,
then add the gravel,
the pebbles almost fill the gaps between the stones.
Now it’s all in the pot:
the big stones, the pebbles.
You see, if you don’t put the Big Rocks on your schedule first,
you won’t get everything done.
Having made the weekly plan,
now there is only one thing to do with this schedule.
You can tweak it a bit as you go.
Try to stick to what you planned,
but if you can’t get everything done,
you’ll make up for it another time.
Time is something that passes and never comes back.
The schedule helps us to save time
and appreciate every moment of life.
Once you’ve managed your time well,
you need to overcome your feelings of fear
and pressure to regain your courage.
Putting important issues first takes courage
and often forces you to go beyond your Comfort Zone.
The Comfort Zone represents what is familiar to you:
you like to do,
the places you usually go.
risk-free environment is easy,
in which you feel safe and comfortable.
In other words,
making new friends,
public speaking… makes you feel nervous.
Let’s step into the Brave Zone.
everything makes you feel uncomfortable at all.
It’s full of pressure,
and the possibility of failure,
but it’s also a place to look for opportunities
and the only place where you can realize your full potential.
You’ll never get there if you hang around in your Comfort Zone.
That’s for sure.
You may ask: “What’s wrong with liking a comfortable environment?”.
There’s really nothing wrong with that.
In fact, most of our time is spent there.
But it would be completely wrong
if you never ventured into foreign lands.
You know as well as I do that people rarely try new things
or fly out of their comfort zone and their boring lives.
There are many different bad feelings
but the worst is still fear.
When I think about my past failures and mistakes,
I realize that it was all because I was too scared.
Think of the actions of heroes that others dare not do out of fear.
who once fought against apartheid in
He served 27 years in prison before becoming South Africa’s first black president.
Or Susan B. Anthony,
who bravely fought for women’s rights to run for office in the US.
When he became the first person to climb Everest,
mountaineer Edmund Hillary stated:
“It’s not that I beat the mountain,
it’s that I beat myself.”
So you should boldly:
Make new friends,
Get rid of peer pressure,
Give up old habits,
Cultivate a new skill,
Find a solution,
Or you might even be singing in front of a crowd…
Don’t be afraid to fail.
One way to overcome fear is to always think in your head,
“Success is getting up after every failure”.
Many famous people have also failed many times:
Albert Einstein did not speak
until the age of 4.
Beethoven’s music teacher once said,
“There is no hope for Beethoven to become a composer”.
Louis Pasteur always got the lowest marks in chemistry
when he was in school.
Rocket scientist Wernher von
Braun failed algebra in 9th grade.
Chemist Marie Curie was financially broke
before the discovery of the field of atomic chemistry.
“In the forest that splits into two roads,
I will choose the road less traveled.
Because that will make things different.”
Hard times are times when we have to choose
between doing the right thing
and doing the easy thing.
Small difficulties occur every day
such as getting up early
when the clock rings,
voluntarily doing homework.
Great difficulties also often occur
such as having to decide to choose a friend,
having to deal with bad pressure from friends,
dealing with unexpected risks…
If you always anticipate that such things may come
and are prepared for such situations,
you will surely make it through.
One of the biggest challenges is dealing with peer pressure.
To say “No” when all your friends
say “Yes” takes a lot of courage.
However, if you can withstand this pressure,
you can already deposit a large amount into your personal account.
Not all peer pressure is bad, there are good
and positive pressures as well.
If you can find a friend who makes a positive impact on you,
keep hanging out with that person.
You will surely learn a lot of good things.
If you want to be independent,
but still be drawn by your friends,
then you should actively deposit more confidence
and self-esteem into your personal account.
If your confidence and self-esteem are low,
how can you resist the temptation?
Therefore, you should create a “personal account”
by keeping promises to yourself,
You will naturally have the inner strength
to find your own path instead of following others.
Albert E. Gray spent years studying successful people
to find out what determines their success.
What do you think he discovered?
Of course, success is not achieved by dressing well,
or having an optimistic attitude,
but instead, what he has found is:
All successful people have the habit of doing things
that unsuccessful people don’t like to do,
and they know well that doing those things will lead them to their goals.
Sometimes we have to use our will to do something
whether we like it or not.
To do the third habit requires you to be brave.
If you don’t know where to start,
follow these steps:
Set a goal and plan for a month.
Stick to that plan.
Determine what you spend the most time on,
is it necessary to waste time on such things?
If you have homework,
don’t wait until the water reaches your feet before jumping.
Do it now,
a little bit each day,
you will feel lighter.
You must also look at:
Are you a “right father” person?
No matter what anyone says, you nod.
If that’s the case,
have the courage to say “no” when necessary.
Decide now to step out of your comfort zone
to bravely face challenges that make you better.
Are you under any pressure?
Am I doing this because I want to
or because others want me to?