Rule 2: Remember You’re Being Examined All the Time

TTO – Everything around us says a lot to others.

The way we dress,

the car we use,

the places we travel,

the way we talk,

the food we eat for lunch,

everything about us can be subject to scrutiny.

This Rule 2 will ensure that these judgments stay positive

and advance your career.

If you haven’t given it much thought before,

this rule helps you to recognize the signs you’re sending “bad signals”

and improve them so people can recognize them.

You can’t get people to stop judging you,

but you can change those judgments

and influence them to your liking.

This rule helps you to be trendy,

confident,

elegant,

well groomed and soft.

Rule 2.1: Dressed

Dress well with the original meaning … dress well.

There is no excuse for being ill-dressed,

sloppy,

ridiculous,

or cheap.

I think this is the most important rule

and it should be strictly followed.

No days off,

no excuses,

no parental permission like in school.

Dressing well is the most noticeable thing about you.

If you dress sloppily for a moment,

people will remember it.

You might as well feel a lot less tired

if you don’t follow this rule

and endure no promotion,

failure,

and weakness

because once you start doing it,

you can’t give up even for a second.

So what does “beautiful” mean here?

It’s just that simple.

For men,

it could be a suit,

collar,

tie,

and polished leather shoes.

For women,

it can be an elegant business suit,

a smart knit top and a pair of high heels.

On the other hand,

you can be a little less “dressed up”

if your company only requires casual dress

and see also Rule 6.3,

but either way,

sloppy dressing is not acceptable.

* Sport shoes

* Jeans

* Dress like you’re on a Hawaiian beach

or a similar “flashy” style

* Nylon clothing,

jewelry or clothes that are too fashionable or too “artistic”

In the past,

I often noticed a young man coming to work.

He was an efficient,

experienced,

intelligent,

good communicator,

trustworthy and honest,

diligent and neat,

but he didn’t get a promotion.

Why so?

Because he ignored Rule 2.1.

Of course he dresses very well at work.

The problem is that to get to work,

he rides a motorbike.

There’s nothing wrong with that.

It’s an effective way to save money

and avoid traffic jams,

which is commendable.

But that also cost him points.

When he entered the office,

he was wearing a helmet

and a bright orange motorcycle suit.

Again,

this is welcome.

It will make other cars avoid your car in the fog

and protect you in the event of an accident.

But that also makes people see him as a “young man”.

Middle-aged managers don’t ride motorbikes to work.

The CEO has long since ceased to indulge in Hondas.

So this young guy won’t get a promotion

as long as he “looks like” a motorcycle rider in whatever form.

When I told him to take off his orange suit

before entering the office

and leave his helmet at the front desk,

he obeyed and was promoted quickly.

He doesn’t have to give up his bike,

simply stop promoting

and he’s still young enough to ride a motorcycle.

Rule 2.2: Cultivate a smile

TTO – Do you remember this poem?

If you can stay calm,

and so on – how do they know you’re calm?

It’s simple, smile.

Smile no matter what.

Smile when greeting colleagues in the morning.

Smile while shaking hands.

Laugh when things start to get tough.

Laugh when things are bad.

Either way,

smile.

So what kind of smile will you laugh?

Be honest and friendly

– and your eyes should also show enthusiasm,

sincerity,

openness,

and happiness.

The simplest way for your smile

to show these things is to have faith in them.

You can’t act with your smile

or everyone will notice it.

To be honest,

you have to be honest.

You must feel happy.

You have to really love your smile

if you don’t want it to look fake.

And if you don’t like to laugh,

don’t fake a forced smile

and get away quickly.

Let’s say your smile is genuine

and it comes from genuine happiness and friendliness.

Now you are “allowed” to improve your smile,

practice it over and over and make it more beautiful.

But the first condition is still honesty.

And we assume you have that.

Look in the mirror and smile.

It might look bad.

It absolutely can happen.

You can only see your face directly.

The photos didn’t help either.

It’s only seen in two dimensions

and there’s a lot of detail you can’t see.

You need to observe your smile from every things.

in three dimensions,

and there’s only one way you can do that,

and that’s on film,

in videotape and things like that.

If you’re afraid to ask your partner

or friend to film so you can enhance your smile,

you have to do it yourself.

Don’t make the same mistake I did.

I used to be a CFO

and was asked to do a session for a supermarket manager.

There was no one at the store

and I had an enjoyable afternoon practicing walking,

smiling,

and preparing my look through the store’s cameras.

I went back to the office and watched the tape again,

correcting the parts I wasn’t really satisfied with.

It’s interesting.

A few weeks later

I was invited to see a special screening for the entire staff.

I actually forgot to delete that tape,

the shop owner found it and showed it to everyone.

I was forced to sit

and watch while my funny friends commented

and pointed out imperfections.

It’s fun and humorous.

If you want your smile to be beautiful,

don’t smile all the way,

let others see your teeth,

but not too much,

make them see you happy and honest.

Practice regularly until you do.

Rule 2.3: Avoid superficial handshakes

– Practice shaking hands

TTO – We often have to shake hands

and often do it unconsciously.

In a typical work week,

how many times should you shake hands?

Did you pay any attention to that handshake?

However, that handshake sends a lot of signals,

so you really need to make it confident,

confident and sure.

When someone shakes your hand,

you need to leave them with a feeling of strength,

confidence,

authority,

and the impression of being completely in control of themselves.

That is your duty.

If you have doubts about the meaning of the handshake,

ask a friend to tell you.

How to improve handshake?

Let’s make it strong.

You can use your other hand to hold both yours

and the hands of your boss,

coworker,

or client.

But don’t overdo this gesture and don’t hurt them.

You can always tweak your handshake

to make it personal and impressive.

My grandfather has a great way of shaking hands,

he only uses two fingers (forefinger and middle finger)

and thumb to grasp and grasp.

You will feel like you are shaking hands with a king.

Shaking hands is ceremonial,

a practice

that has been around for a long time.

Forget about two people clapping their palms together,

jerking their hands like in rock music

or anything like the rap style of street groups.

Stick to the traditional handshake

and people will remember you as confident and trustworthy.

The person with the right handshake will extend his hand first

and shake it gently.

They show their confidence by introducing their names

and reaching out to shake their hands.

It will speak to enthusiasm,

sincerity,

relaxation,

confidence,

and a general impression of assertiveness.

They will also look you straight in the eye

and repeat your name.

We often like to hear our own name

and that would be a good impression.

When introducing,

the first sentence will still be a greeting:

Hello.

You can have a more friendly

and modern greeting,

it’s up to you.

But a Ruler usually says “hello”

before introducing his/her name.

Your name is already formal in itself.

Never say hello like:

“Hi. I’m Dave. From Marketing”.

This greeting is pleasant enough,

quite friendly

but you will not make an impression on anyone,

you will not gain any advantage

and even push you down to the same level

as the “newbies” in your agency.

You’d better say,

“Hi. I’m David Simpson.

I’m the head of Marketing.”

This greeting will set you apart from ordinary people

and put you in a higher position than the rest.

After that greeting is a strong,

confident handshake

and you will conquer them.

Rule 2.4: Show confidence and enthusiasm

TTO – I once gave a talk to a large group of women entrepreneurs about

how to deal with stress.

As I was about to give my speech,

I realized that there was no pulpit to take notes,

and nowhere to stand.

There was only one table and one chair.

If I sit down,

I won’t see anyone but the first row,

and it looks very stiff and too formal.

I could also stand there,

hands behind my back like Prince Philip talking to his courtiers.

Or stretch your arms

or put your hands in front of your hips like a shy schoolboy.

But I’m talking about stress and how to deal with it.

I need to look so calm,

so calm as if I were practicing what

I was going to preach in my talk.

I solved that problem by sitting on the edge of the table.

I can swing my legs and lean back,

forward,

and even down if I want to.

A few years later I met a person who was present at the talk

She said she didn’t remember what

I said but was impressed with how relaxed I looked,

and at the end of the talk I jumped down

and took pictures with the local press.

I don’t remember that gesture at all,

but according to her,

I looked very confident,

relaxed but very strong.

When you walk into the office in the morning,

walk happily

That’s what we’re aiming for.

When you walk into the office in the morning,

walk cheerfully.

Let other people “crawl” to the office with a worried face

or like just waking up,

or like being too tired after a long time on the way to work.

You will arrive at the office fresh and full of life,

ready for a day’s work,

for you a day’s work is just a small thing.

Go fast,

not slow,

that agility shows enthusiasm,

it’s strong,

alert,

full of life with the challenges you can face during the working day.

Don’t push your mood too fast,

or you’ll look like you’re in a hurry.

Everything must be under your control:

no rush,

no slowness,

no fear or discouragement.

In the eyes of everyone,

you must be bright,

young,

full of life and enthusiasm.

Rule 2.5: Develop an attention-grabbing style

TTO – The word emphasized here is the word “style”.

Style here means elegant,

polite,

modern,

sophisticated, educated,

delicate and profound.

You will develop a style that gets you noticed with these traits.

Dyeing your hair red

and wearing only bargains can also be a style,

and it’s definitely eye-catching,

but it’s not for the rules-abiding.

Think actor Cary Grant rather than Boy George.

Think actress Lauren Bacall rather than Madonna.

They all have style and are attention-grabbing.

But trust me,

Cary or Lauren’s style is what you need:

classic,

timeless and quality.

If you want to form a style,

there are many options available to you:

* Pick a feature and make people remember it

– always wear black

or a top with pockets,

wear Armani

or have a bag collection.

Form your “brand” style of clothing,

and you’ll stick to it.

* Buy only the best you can afford.

* Never wear tight clothes

– loose clothes show politeness and quality,

tight clothes show cheapness and poverty.

* Less frills.

You can reduce the amount of jewelry

or just buy or use the best,

most beautiful pieces.

If it’s not expensive then don’t use it.

You’ll find that if you limit yourself to buying expensive stuff,

you’ll get rid of everything you doubted about its quality.

Spending more will make you think and consider more.

* If you wear makeup,

stick to the style that suits you,

the one that makes you look your best.

Don’t change your makeup for just one season

or with what’s in vogue.

Make people remember your figure,

recognize you instantly and be a person of style.

* Well-dressed is always better than undressed.

It is best to be neat and never sloppy.

Rule 2.6: Pay Attention to Your Appearance

TTO – Every morning you need to check to see your best appearance

in the best possible condition.

Every detail is important.

If you overlook a detail,

people will notice

and it can also be the detail that

It makes the difference between promotion and rejection.

Every day you should be as organized

as the day you went to the interview.

Before you go to work,

check:

* Shoes are polished and in good condition

* Clothes are neat,

clean,

not unbuttoned,

not threaded,

not torn

* You have just finished taking a shower

and have a pleasant fragrance

* Hair is clean,

neatly trimmed and has a certain hairstyle

* If you are a man,

you need to shave properly and carefully

* If you are a woman,

make up,

you can wear simple makeup

but it needs to be appropriate,

consistent and beautiful.

* Clean teeth,

fresh breath,

clean tongue

* Clean and neatly trimmed nails

* If you smoke or drink a lot of coffee,

you should check your teeth for stains

(for smokers, check your hands)

and use mint gum to eliminate bad breath.

* Wipe your nose and ears clean

* If you must wear glasses,

choose the right type of glasses for you,

the glasses are strong for you to see clearly,

the frames and eyes must match

and are in good condition

(glasses must not be cracked,

scratched or have broken joints).

Every day you should be as organized as the day

you went to an interview

You don’t have to become obsessed

or constantly look at yourself in the mirror.

Once you’re done,

be comfortable.

I once worked with a woman

who always brushed her teeth after drinking coffee or eating cake.

There is nothing wrong with doing so,

except that people pay too much attention to her,

her colleagues think that she is different

and has an obsessive illness.

Her problem is not in brushing her teeth regularly,

but in brushing her teeth as if to show everyone

get the image that I want to show.

The last thing I want to say on the matter of signatures:

sign big,

signature big

– its owner’s stature is also big.

If you often have to handwrite,

your handwriting needs:

* Easy to read.

Anyone can read your posts.

If it’s hard to read,

there’s no reason to write,

and it also shows how rude you are not to put in the effort to come up

with a decent piece of writing.

* Clear.

No crossed out,

harmonized text and similar features.

* Stylish.

Can write some letters flying.

* Mature.

The writing is sufficient and straight.

* Consistency.

The writing at the bottom of the page should be the same as that at the top.

If you type,

use Times New Roman or Arial,

font size 12,

and avoid bold,

italic,

or underline.

Never use different fonts or font sizes,

people will picture you as unstable,

immature even if you just want to use it

to make your writing more vivid.

* Don’t go out of style

– this doesn’t necessarily mean being trendy,

but applying styles that are not affected by time.

Rule 2.10: Pay attention to how you speak

TTO – Know what to say here?

Will you have to forget your dialect

and speak in a standard accent?

Completely not right.

You can keep your local accent

because that’s not the point.

Learn why we must speak rather than how we speak.

Speaking is to communicate

and exchange information.

Knowing how to speak means doing what is conveyed clearly and effectively.

It doesn’t matter what tone you speak,

the important thing is that you express it clearly.

The word “obvious” here is taken literally.

Things you should avoid:

* Do not mumble

– it is obvious that others cannot hear

and understand what you are saying

* Talk too softly

– again the reason is they can’t hear you

* Using jargon

– people who do not work in the same room,

in the same major cannot understand

* Any kind of speech that can make your listeners see that

you belong to a certain social group such as youth

(using the latest slang phrases),

extreme political

(extremist, mad, too obsessed with ecological,

environmental or dietary issues),

or always superior

(too snobby, too snob or too local).

Not knowing how to speak is

when you need to say one word,

you use another word or similar mistakes.

If you can’t find a difference in words,

use a dictionary

and try to remember the rules.

You should speak in full sentences

and do not speak too fussy.

To improve your speech,

you need to remember these four important criteria:

* Crisp

* Clear

* Simple.

That’s all you need to know.

If you keep these four rules in mind,

you will never go wrong

and people will remember what you say,

and will be impressed with your clarity and sharpness.

Knowing how to speak will make an impression.

If you lazily walk in and mumble your name,

people will think you’re unconfident,

confused,

and unremarkable.

As a result,

they will forget you.

If you walk in confidently,

with a clear name,

people will assume you know where you’re going,

who you are,

and what you want.

Of course they will remember you.

Let’s keep it simple – straight to the point and not wordy.