Overcome fear, open heart and start the journey
We always ask ourselves the question, how to live the life we dream of, forgetting the fact that despite the pain of such a life, we are still hanging around, daily schedules, chores so boring that it almost paralyzes the will to struggle out of it. We want to live differently but still spend too much time watching TV every day, indulge in fun parties to forget the date, still accept to stick with a job that we don’t love, etc.
To have a good life. Like a dream, it’s not enough for you to just desire, covet and do a few single actions, because to live differently requires a combination of many factors.
Live the life you want, author Pam Grout’s book teaches you how to change your attitudes, capture ideas, and develop your hidden power to reach your potential for success.
By thinking big, dreaming big and asking big questions, each of us is sure to make a difference in the lives of ourselves and those around us.
Live the life you want will give you a lot of complete and complete information from the principles to live the life you want, good examples of people living the life they want to be very close close to us, from disabled boys and girls, prisoners of war in Vietnam or even Mozart and Picasso.
Each chapter is devoted to practical questions and exercises so that readers can practice applying it to their own lives. Overcome your fear, open your heart and start the journey!
Chapter 1: What is the great ideal?
Every day you receive many signals and invitations to join a journey beyond any boundaries you have ever known. You just need to overcome your fear, open your heart and start the journey. — Bob Savino
Often people waste their imaginations, hide their love and don’t fully understand the depths of their souls.
Or as the great poet Ranier Maria Rilke once said: “Most people know only one corner of their room, a path they follow every day.”
The book Live Life As You Want It helps you discover the rest of your room.
We all know that people only use 10% of their meager intelligence. What’s worse is that we use very little love, perceive only a small part of our emotions, and often withdraw from our biggest dreams.
If asked, I would answer that the reason 5 out of 10 people in the US don’t like their jobs and 17 million people suffer from depression is because they live “not to the fullest extent of their lives”, and ” They squeeze themselves into meaningless things.
Scientists estimate that the average person has about 60,000 thoughts per day. Pretty impressive statistic until you know it: Only 2% of those 60,000 thoughts are different from yesterday’s thoughts.
Think about what we can do if we use that 98% of our thoughts to generate new ideas, delve into the mysteries of life or solve problems that the world is facing? Most of us waste 60,000 of our thoughts on completely meaningless, trivial things. For example, look at the cover of a typical women’s magazine:
“Losing 3kg before Christmas”
“101 Ways to Regain Boost”
“How to satisfy that person in bed”
Don’t we have anything more interesting to read? If instead, Ladies’ Home Journal’s seven million readers were all asking themselves, “How can I hone my thinking” or “How do I make school a place of love?” big problems that we fear will be solved within a year. 7 million people focused on such issues will become an invincible force.
Instead, however, we focus on trivial matters. We are only half alive. If we can live to the fullest, we can create many miracles. We are completely ignorant of our power, of the fact that the beating of the Divine heart is evident in our veins. Instead of joyfully welcoming the new day, we try to sleep in for another 15 minutes. That is the source of all our problems.
Live Life As You Want It is a book about how to access the remaining 90% of your brain, cherish every little part of your soul, and be ready for the wildest dreams.
I used to think that living the life you want meant being on the Late show with David Letterman. I used to worry that I would never find something to inspire the producers when they called me. I knew full well that I would never be an actor, my chances of going to the Olympics were 1 in 285 million and my pets would never be able to do any of it even if I did. How hard to train.
And then I realized that once I looked more closely, I found that a lot of the people who appeared on the talk show weren’t as talented as I thought they would be. Yes, some of the TV actors we idolize are living the lives they want, but a lot of them are just as small and scared individuals as we are. And similarly there are hundreds of people whose names you have never heard of who are living great, noble lives.
Live the life you want also telling stories of simple people doing extraordinary things. It brings visionaries, daredevils, daredevils, who give up the comfort and charm in a warm little house to have a different life.
They are participating in a modern-day crusade. They save the world clean up polluted oceans, preserve ancient cultures, revive outdated political systems. They aspire to bring a spirit of adventure to a society that has almost forgotten how to smile.
However, there are people who just want peace. Although the mission or vision is different, the individuals in this book know how to appreciate life, that “No” is not the right answer, and that they can personally create difference. Or at least an echo on this earth.
And although Live Life As You Want It may seem like a book about heroes and other people, it’s also a book about you. About what might exist inside of you.
The individuals in this book don’t do things you can’t. You need to remember that. They simply accept and use their abilities. I hope that their inspiration will serve as the foundation for your own great life.
That their passion will help you find your life purpose and mission.
We all have a purpose and mission.
The first step to living the life we want is simply to realize that it is possible, to realize that people have repeatedly crossed their limits to achieve extraordinary things.
So what does it mean to live the life you want?
Living the life you want is not about making a lot of money or having a big house, but having a vision that delights others, daring to look at the miracle of life instead of looking away from fear. Living the life you want means having the courage to find your own beat and sing your own song.
Unfortunately, many of us still march to a song we learned decades ago. Or we still sing along to the old song that Madison Shopping Avenue composed to entice us to buy their products. If you haven’t looked far and wide, you probably still think that there are many things out there trying to control us.
Living life the way you want it to mean going beyond mere control in life. It is synonymous with flute dancing while everyone else is doing the waltz. It means showing concern when you’re not sure how the other person feels. It means stepping outside the little boxes that paralyze our souls. Living the life you want means having the courage to speak your truth, having the courage to read the poem written on your heart. Read loud enough for everyone to hear.
We are all responsible for finding the passion that makes us want to climb the table and dance. The poet Walt Whitman once said it was the duty of every individual to write his own Bible. My dream when I wrote the book Live the life you want was that each of you would write not only your own Bible, but also your own autobiography and dream list.
Because, frankly, I want to know who you really are.
It is true that you are wearing a black leather jacket and riding a motorbike like everyone else but who are you behind all that? What makes you jump and scream with joy?
I want to know. But more importantly you need to speak. We all need to talk.
So the steps to live the life you want are quite simple:
* Find your passion.
* Run after your passion.
Instead of saying find your passion, maybe I should say master your passion, embrace it, embrace it like you’re seeing a loved one again. So a lot of us think we’ve figured it out, but what makes us happy is still out there somewhere. However, etched in your soul is a prepared script for your passion. The point is not to go around to find it. Or read a certain book, hoping it will show you how to find it. Let’s remove the outer layers and see what is still there.
You know you’re close when you feel a little euphoria, when the very meaning of it makes you feel really excited. Not to mention you won’t be scared. Or you don’t feel like running away when it’s time to execute your idea. Fear is essentially a prerequisite of the soul. I remember once telling a friend that for me, to write a book about living the life I want to like writing a book about Newton’s laws. But then I thought to myself, “What do I want to do more than anything else in the world?”
Live the life you want. Accept your destiny.
Yes, there are impostors who are always trying to convince me that I am small, that my ideas don’t matter. But there was another voice, and this voice was louder. That’s another part of living the life you want – making a difference. All my life I’ve talked about wanting to spend my life working toward greater goals.
My greatest hope is that this book will make some impact on the perception of the world. If we limit ourselves only to the current rut, we will never solve the problems of the world. And there are so many problems to solve, so many big things to do.
Now children are carrying guns to school. Currently, tropical forests are being destroyed on a large scale. Nowadays, there are people who are so lonely that only Jay Leno is friends.
So I need to ask the question, How are we going to do this? We can’t just sit down, press the remote and say, “Wow, that’s unfortunate.” We must act. We have to go beyond our small, shy and apathetic lives to take any action.
As long as there is prejudice, the environment is still destroyed and people still call each other by bad names. We are not allowed and cannot be small.
The answer to your problem and the world’s is the same.
And that answer is you. It’s us. It is the present.
Chapter 2 : CHANGE YOUR OPINION, CHANGE YOUR LIFE.
The greatest discovery of my generation is that people can change their lives by changing their perspective. —William James
Basically, the size of our lives is the result of our perspective. Our perspective affects everything from relationships to health to our thinking when solving crossword puzzles. If we want to follow our passions and live the life we want, we have to improve our perspective.
Unfortunately, most of us live with opinions that limit us. Perspectives make us small. Humanities researcher Buckminster Fuller once said, “We are held back by the thoughts we are programmed to think.”
We accept our point of view without giving it much thought. We get it from our family, our culture, or from the ubiquitous “They say so” phrase. We never even thought we could choose a different point of view.
The first perspective we need to have is that our lives depend on ourselves. We are responsible for designing our own lives.
Most of us believe that our main task in life is to create boundaries, identify what doesn’t fit, and get rid of them.
People who treat us badly?
Parents don’t behave like Ward and June Cleaver?
This view completely negates who we really are. It’s like signing a contract to buy a new home, walking through the front door and rushing out because there’s no furniture in the house. Only one person can furnish the house. The ability to create the life you want is in your hands.
So we often get angry when we look at our lives and say, “I deserve better than this.” Right. You deserve more than this. But it is your own responsibility to create “a better life than this.”
Yes, you may be in a bad relationship. You have a wrong job. However, who has the power to change these things?
Calling in a search team to find the next guy, next job, or next skill book is like calling the fire department to blow out the candles on your birthday cake for you. You don’t need the fire department. You don’t even need a fire extinguisher. You have enough power to blow out the candle. You have the power to fix everything that doesn’t make sense in your life. First of all, you have to improve your perspective.
John F. Kennedy posed a challenge to American citizens: “Ask not what your country can do for you, but what you can do for your country.” That’s the essence of living the life you want.
Don’t ask what life can do for you, ask what you can do with your life.
Living the life you want is about finding your potential in the present.
It means telling yourself, “I accept what I have. And this is what I can do with what I have.”
Stop searching. Accept what you have.
Accept the relationships you have.
Accept the work you are doing.
Accept the house you live in.
And turn them into beautiful things.
We must regain our strength. We must say, “I am a man overflowing with love, a man of strength and power, and nothing in my life cannot be fully restored. It is all up to me, and only me, to make that happen.”
Chapter 3 : OPERATION PRINCIPLES
The illusion that is confused with the truth is the pavement beneath our feet. — Barbara Kingsolver
In the chapters that follow, I will present 7 BIG perspectives that serve as second nature of people who live the life they want. The good news is, these are the views you once had. These are the views that emerge from your childhood, the views that are ingrained in you.
Live life the way you want it to argue that childhood views are the big, important things in life, views we all had before we were taught to get dirty and jump, bed is wrong.
Let’s go back to childhood when anything was possible. When we learn to “stop laughing” before being taught to “be on the lookout,” “be careful” or “stay away from strangers.” Aside from drinking eight glasses of water a day, most of the “they say” is wrong. Or at least irrelevant, unnecessary, and ineffective for living life the way you want it to.
Marianne Williamson tells the story of a little girl who submitted a picture of a purple tree to her teacher. That teacher said, “I have never seen a purple tree.” The girl replied, “I’m sorry. Pity.” And although it’s “sorry” that you may also have forgotten about the purple trees and the meaning behind them, “it’s good” that you’re here and ready to remember those things.
1. Think Big : A Perspective on Boldness, or Why It’s Not Necessary to “Be Careful.” Before starting school, most of us have heard the saying “Be careful” hundreds of times. Basically, it’s the instruction a mother needs to warn her every time her child runs into the gym, joins the soccer team, or goes after the guy she likes.
Instead, we should encourage children to ignore caution.
“Let’s get out.”“Take a risk.” “Do something to embarrass yourself.”
Caution doesn’t help us. If Martin Luther King, Jr. cautiously, he never had a dream about a day when people wouldn’t be judged by the color of their skin. If Christopher Columbus had been cautious, he would never have made it to the New World. Anyway, to his parents’ understanding, the world was flat and he was in danger of falling off the edge.
The 1st perspective on Living the life you want is think big or take a bold perspective. People who live their lives the way they want to are not cautious. They did not settle down. They don’t feel like they have to do something as simple as their parents did. Or because someone else does. People who live their lives the way they want don’t care what other people think. Like Nike says, they “just do it.”
2. Giving a lot : Perspectives on helping, or why there’s no need to “always look for number one.” “They say” must always pay attention before and after, must protect their own space. But ironically the defining, turning point of the Great Men in this book is the moment they decide to “get over themselves.” Andrea Campbell met 20 disabled children from Russia while sitting in the doctor’s office and realized, “Well, what do I have to worry about?” As for Patch Adam, it was a feeling of empathy for a lonely guy without friends. James Twyman outdoes himself when working with homeless AIDS victims.
The 2rd perspective on living life as you want is giving a lot or helping perspective. It’s about being able to give everything you have without expecting anything in return. You don’t have to have extraordinary intelligence or extraordinary talent to be important. However, you have to get over the banal thinking that “looking for number one” is a wise move.
3. More Blessing : A Perspective on Kindness, or Why You Should “Chat With Strangers.” Since learning to walk, we’ve always been taught to stay away from people we don’t know. “They say” it’s best to be cautious until we get a letter of recommendation.
After all, according to them, “there are a lot of crazy people out there.”
But you know, 99.9% of the people in this world are really kind. For every lunatic on the news, 5,000 people are willing to give you their coats. When we appear suspicious, distrustful and unwilling to converse with strangers, we only promote suspicion and distrust, furthermore we miss the opportunity to meet a great group of friends.
So, in my opinion, “Let’s chat with strangers.”
In fact, chat until no one is a stranger.
If you need a letter of recommendation then please use my letter below
LETTER OF INTRODUCTION FOR
(You can fill in the blanks with names like Tom, Dick or Harry, whatever. I don’t care if the person is homeless, disabled or incarcerated.)
Najmul is a good man. With a little love and empathy, he/she can do great things.
Sure he/she may have made some mistakes, maybe done some stupid actions, but he/she still has a lot of love to give and a lot of ideas to change. change the world.
Love this person by all means.
Consider him/her” as a friend and confidant as soon as possible. Do not wait. Don’t hesitate. There’s nothing to worry about. This person is a treasure.
The 3rd view of Living life as you wish is the blessing or kindness view. It means connecting with others. Spread love and kindness. Each of us has been assigned a place in the vast cosmic garden. We can happily tend it or watch the weeds grow.
4. Make a Difference : A Perspective on Commitment, or Why You Shouldn’t “Watch Too Much TV.” This is perhaps the biggest barrier to a happy and fulfilling life. This is passivity.
We become spectators instead of doers. Recent studies show that Americans are, on average, three to four times more likely to sit and watch television in the evening than they are to chat with family and friends. Waiting time is from 4 to 6 hours. That time makes up 1/3 of our waking time. I don’t mean to offend anyone, but watching too much TV is the most useless thing I’ve ever seen.
And so, little by little, we give up our legacy.
We give up the ability to think for ourselves, to create, to imagine, to plan, and to dream. Within each of us is a master chef, inventor, writer and leader. All the heroes, giants that exist in our souls are tired of having to witness “every day of our lives.”
Maybe we all know about every famine in Africa, the results of every sporting event and every detail of the latest crime. But what do we do?
“Just sitting and watching TV.”
An Amish woman from Southern Pennsylvania once told a pollster about modern amenities: “We don’t want televisions because they keep us from visiting our neighbors. How can we care about each other if we don’t know our neighbors?”
The 4 th element of Living your life the way you want it to is making a big change or a commitment perspective. It means choosing an ideal, leaving a legacy. It means standing up and taking action, believing in the power of an individual to make a difference.
5. Rich Imagination : A perspective on creativity, or why you should never “Go in line.” The problem with this much-talked-about advice is that no one knows where the line is. And the pretenders are definitely showing you their way. So that’s good for them. But that’s not your line. Almost anything is possible and you are free to use any instructions you choose. But there is no way.
French naturalist John Henry Fabre performed an interesting experiment on the moth Thaumetopoea pityocampa. They lined up and marched with their eyes closed. It doesn’t matter if the first one is approaching the cliff or under the tire. The docile little caterpillars always follow the line. Fabre filled a large flower pot with soil. Around the wall of the pot, he placed 15 caterpillars. Sure enough, they followed each other in a circle until it was impossible to tell which one was first and which one was behind.
In the center of the flower pot, he placed a lot of pine needles, the main food source of the caterpillars. Unfortunately, the caterpillars marched in circles for 7 days and 7 nights until they passed out from hunger and exhaustion.
I think that’s what we’ve been doing. We forget who is the leader and who is the follower. I don’t mean to blame anyone but perhaps following the line is leading us into a purposeless, tiresome and moraleless march. We need to step out of the line and show who we really are.
The 5th perspective of living life as you want it is the rich imagination or creation perspective. On the day you were born, God gave you the ability to create. That’s the ability the whole world needs. Rich imagination means opening the door to magic, profound possibilities that fill your soul.
6. Get Involved: A Perspective on Happiness, or Why You Should Never “Stop Laughing.” “They say” we shouldn’t allow ourselves to be distracted by stupidity. Our job is to “work” and “contribute to the development of the country.”
Silly, they say, is a waste of precious time.
I replied, “Lo-to-to.” In fact, we need more than stupidity, we need to be willing to make ourselves look more like weirdos.
The word silly comes from the Middle English word sillig which means “happy.” If we were all willing to do three silly things every day, like put on the left side of our jackets or sing loudly in traffic jams on the freeway, we would surely get more happiness. We will be liberated to forge new paths, find new adventures. As people who live the life we want, we are not here to do things that have already been accomplished.
Maybe we should all relax a little bit and take our dreams to a silly star.
The sixth aspect of living life as you want it is full engagement, or as i call it the happiness perspective. It means seeing life as a great adventure, treating each day as an exciting and unusual experience.
7. Love more : It doesn’t matter if you have a soulful perspective, or why you “always wear clean underwear” or not. There is a small problem with this advice. Clean underwear focuses on material things. It implies that if you have the right underwear or the right furniture or the right car, somehow life will become easier. In case you don’t understand, material things don’t bring us happiness.
In fact, I would venture to say that the blind pursuit of material things is what makes us unhappy and stressed. No matter what kind of underwear you wear, it makes no difference. What matters is the dream written on your heart and how much love and compassion you can spread to others.
The final view of living life as you wish is loving much or soul view . You are not helping anyone by playing a small role. Loving a lot means realizing who you really are and why you exist.
THERE’S MORE …
To each point of view, I added 3 sections: Biographies of People Who Lived the Life They Wanted, 3 Big Questions, and Soul Training Camp.
People who live the life they want:
Without a doubt, a small team of compacted citizen can change the world. That is the only thing that ever changes the world. — Margaret Mead
Those who want to paint, learn from Picasso. Those who want to play the piano learn from Mozart. We, who want to live the life we want, must learn from the people who live the life we want.
Throughout history thousands of people have plucked up the courage to pursue their own vision. People like Mary Colte, a revolutionary architect who started her business in 1902, 18 years before women had the right to vote. People like Osseola McCarty, a laundromat who has raised hundreds of thousands of dollars in college scholarships for African-American children. People like Jimmie Davis, who briefly served as governor of Louisiana and successful western and country songwriters. People like C. J. Walker, who became America’s first female millionaire by manufacturing and selling hair care products.
Living the life you want means joining a powerful brotherhood. That is facing Joan of Arc, Michael Jordan, Eric Clapton. That is, following Shakespeare, Rumi, and Oprah Winfrey, who once said, “I always knew I was a big star waiting for my time.” That means joining a group that includes a lot of proud members from anywhere and at any time.
The people who live the life they want to be in this book are still living. They are the people I met during my time as a reporter. There’s someone I know well. Some people I just read biographies in magazines. Others, I just follow them because they inspire me to “make my life extraordinary.”
All are great examples of what is possible. Scientists understand the importance of examples of learning and behavior. A semanticist named Alfred Korzybski called this ability to learn from others “time bound.” Knowledge gained from others binds us together, if one person can do it, so can we.
You’ve probably heard of the 100th Monkey Theory. Monkeys on a remote island have mastered the method of picking bananas from trees. Before long, monkeys on other islands also began picking bananas in this way, although they had no contact with the first monkeys to master the method. This theory holds that if enough members of a group (in this case 100 monkeys) acquire a new knowledge or skill, it will be unconsciously transferred into the group and all members will acquire that knowledge or skill.
When one of us increases the voltage then we all see more clearly.
Those who can quickly tap into the knowledge of others and who can acquire new skills, new perspectives, and new behaviors will gain an important advantage in life. Martin Luther King, Jr. study Gandhi’s life. Many of Gandhi’s great ideas came from Tolstoy. Robert E. Lee imitates George Washington. The Wright brothers were inspired by a French inventor. John Wooden, a former volleyball coach at the University of California, Los Angeles, says that Purdue University volleyball coach Ward “Piggy” Lambert taught him everything he knows. Einstein learned from Newton and Newton learned from Galileo. And so on.
We are all connected. Being able to decide to live life the way you want it to be becomes a decision that changes the balance. Maybe you are the 100th monkey.
3 big questions
Find the best things in yourself. — Lundbergh
Sam Keen once said that the quality of life is directly proportional to the questions we ask. If we ask important questions, we will get important answers. The universe will bring us many questions, will answer everything we ask.
So why not ask big questions, think big thoughts? Ask the question “What if?” daily.
Instead of asking, “How am I going to spend this salary for the rest of the month?”
we should ask, “What can I bring to the table that makes me so happy that I can sing?”
Instead of asking “What was the closing price of the Janus Worldwide fund?” or “How much is the filet at Safeway?”
then we can ask, “How can I become a loving, wise, inspiring person to others?”
For each Big Perspective, I’ll pose three Big Questions, what I call magic questions. I hope you will spend some time thinking about these Big Questions.
Everything is possible, but we have to imagine it first.
The more big questions we ask, the more we dare to say, “What will it look like?” and we will become even greater. Putting your attention on something makes it real. We can truly reshape and redesign our lives by asking bigger questions.
Soul training camp
To change your life: start immediately; do it outstandingly; no exceptions . — William James
I know what you’re thinking. You want to read a book, want something to put on the bookshelf. But if you really want to live the life you want, you have to take action. You have to do something.
In fact, the fundamental problem with inspirational books (yes, including this one) is that they are read while sitting down. The only thing these books require is mental activity.
Do not misunderstand me. A rich and profound spiritual life is the number one key to opening the life you want. But once you start asking and answering the big questions, you can’t help but get up and become a greater person. Living the life you want means taking action.
Good news here. Soul training camp, if practiced with discipline, is guaranteed to remove any calluses from your heart. It is guaranteed to change every petty behavior. Take simple actions at the end of each chapter for a set number of days and you’ll be out of your rut forever.
As a training sergeant, I have to warn you first: Soul training camp has some pretty bold requirements. At first, they may seem a bit outrageous, but they’re not. All of the Training Camp exercises are things we should do anyway, things we shouldn’t need a reminder book to do.
Some of the requests may seem intimidating at first. Who wants to break out of old habits, especially if it means conversing with strangers and making fun of themselves? But I guarantee that if you follow through, the boredom and sluggishness will disappear. Your life will become fun and interesting. You will become someone who lives the life you want.
There’s nothing a normal person can’t do. In fact, the big surprise is that the average person hasn’t done these things yet.
The exercises in the Training Camp are all free of charge. No exercise takes too long. You don’t even need to wake up at 5am. All you need is a willingness to do something ‘out of the ordinary’.
Isn’t that what we are finding boring, feeling insignificant.
Well, I know maybe you would rather write some affirmations, visualize some more goals, and voice some positive thoughts.
But Living life the way you want it to be is a completely different brand. It certainly doesn’t look like your mom’s Oldsmobile car. But keep in mind. Once you’re out, once you’ve completed the basic training you’ll be so amazed at your new self that you wonder why you didn’t do this ten years ago.
Trust me. You will become happier, more energetic, and more certain of who you are. Freedom comes with risks, stepping outside the small line that society considers “normal.”
Basically, it’s Living the life you want.
You should fasten your seat belt. Or better yet, remove your seat belt. Let’s open the window. Shout out, “Hey, here I am and I’m ready to live the life I want!”
The time for the trip of your life has arrived.
CHAPTER 3 : Think Big: A Perspective on Courage
In the present view, not daring to dream bold dreams turns out to be irresponsible. — George Leonard
When you were five years old, you knew you were the Queen of Sheba. In your head, you have no doubt that you will do great things and your life is very important. You march around the house like a brave human being and harass your parents, forcing them to look at you.
Unfortunately, at some point between the ages of 7 and 13, most of us stop doing so and decide to go shopping.
Living the life you want means regaining that 5 year old audacity. It means finding the courage to stand up and say, “Here.” You must be brave in your actions. Be bold in your dreams. And remember that you are capable of anything. Believing in anything else is self-denial.
Some may object and think that boldness is brazen, that humility is the virtue to strive for. Yet humility is just a pretense that we learn.
Robert Fulghum’s famous essay I Learned All I Know Since Kindergarten was recently adapted into a play. In the first scenes, the kindergarten teacher asks her new students who the dancers are:
“I. I.” They all shouted excitedly.
“And how many are singers?” the teacher asked.
Once again all raised their hands.
Lots of hands waving.
Add more arms.
In fourth grade, another teacher asked the same questions to the same number of students. Now only a third of students want to be dancers, singers, painters, writers. In high school, the number of students who are willing to admit their artistic talents can only be counted on the fingers. So where did their confidence and enthusiasm go?
Some parents or teachers may have said that they are not painters. Some aptitude tests with fancy names give official scores that say students should give up their wishful thinking of becoming a writer. Try an accounting career. Some counselors report that only certain people have artistic abilities.
From an early age, we try to control things beyond ourselves. The coach tells us if we’re good enough to make it to the baseball team. Music teachers tell us if we have the talent to sing in choirs. Teachers give us certain grades so that we know if we are smart enough to get a good grade, smart enough to get into college.
The art teacher makes a rule: The grass is green, the sky is blue.
Why do we listen to that? How does anyone know what color your grass is? How does anyone know what note you want to sing on? They know what’s right for them. But how do they know what is right for you?
Only you know that. And you know well. You don’t need a seminar, a book, or divination. By stepping forward, even if you’re not sure you’re ready, you will find inspiration, power, and magic. Your path will become clear. Sometimes we feel doubtful about our purpose, not sure what we want, and that’s because we’re too shy to get out of our rigid “turtle shell”.
When we are bold, when we dare to challenge the status quo, in ourselves and in others, the answers to all our questions appear in the blink of an eye.
Courage is simply declaring who you are. Say it out loud, “Look what I can do!” simply acknowledge the real you.
I’m not great because I’m Pam Grout, writer, tennis player, 177cm tall mother from Kansas. I am great because I am human, part of a noble and proud tribe that includes members like Gandhi, Shakespeare and Martin Luther King, Jr. The heartbeats of Picasso and Thomas Edison also beat inside of me.
Any of us can be anyone we are brave enough to admit. That’s why we see many people with paralysis of both limbs still drawing beautiful pictures or brushing their own teeth. That’s why we see many blind people still skiing in the mountains. The only thing holding us back is ourselves. Opportunities appear from all sides. But many of us are too shy to see them.
When we refuse to be brave, when we forget to say “I’m important,” we should give up. Without courage, life is just a rote lesson.
When Walt Disney was in elementary school, a teacher stared intently at the flowers he had scrawled in the margins, patted the boy on the shoulder, and said, “Hey Walk, these flowers are beautiful, but flowers are absent.” Walt turned around, looked the teacher straight in the eye, and announced loudly, “My flowers are.”
This is the courage we need in life. We need to refuse to listen to anyone or anything but the urges in our souls. As with Walt Disney, his flowers are definitely present. In Alice in Wonderland, his 18th animated film, flowers are not only present, but also voice, opinion, and choir that captivates Alice with the song: “In the Golden Afternoon.”
People who live the life they want. — Samuel Mockbee
If we can build the present, we will survive.
We must challenge the status to have a better future. — Samuel Mockbee
Samuel Mockbee was successful. He owns an architecture firm. Many of his designs have won prestigious awards. He is involved in many international projects. He has enough spare time to draw and pursue other interests. However, something bigger was calling to him.
As the fifth generation of Alabama, he understands the dilemmas of race and poverty in his state. And while many of us would shrug our shoulders and say, “It’s a pity, but what can I really do?” Mockbee brings its ability – design – out to help.
As a professor at Auburn University, Mockbee not only wanted to put money and time invested where he cared, but also wanted to make sure that his first love – architecture – was used to a noble cause.
He started Rural Studio to help students understand the essence of architecture. He believes that people should live in harmony with their surroundings. He believes that architecture can satisfy social values as well as technical and artistic values.
The idea for Rural Studio arose in 1993 when Mockbee was frustrated by student projects built only to be demolished, he had a bigger idea. Why not build real houses where people can use them? Why waste time thinking up theoretical designs when we could use that time designing more useful things?
He and his students headed to Hale County, Alabama, one of the poorest counties in America, where 36% of the population lives below the poverty line.
Surely they might need some unique housing ideas. Who knows, maybe we can build their homes and experiment with innovative architecture at the same time? Who knows, maybe we can build our own homes for those who can’t afford it for free?
Needless to say, one needs to think outside the box to come up with such an idea. And in fact, Mockbee and his students completely broke the rules inherent in building houses. Instead of following the old rule that “Houses are made of wood, brick and stone”, they come up with creative designs, using novel construction materials such as old tires, hay, bottles. and even discarded license plates.
Suddenly people who had lived in subprime homes all their lives now own homes that are not only safe and warm, but are also referred to by Mockbee as “houses with a soul.” A home, as Mockbee says, should be a refuge for both mind and body. His students do everything themselves – from design to nailing. They spent almost the entire semester living in this impoverished district even though it was only an hour’s drive from the nearest movie theater.
Mockbee thinks Rural Studio is a far cry from the usual college life where you go to class with other students a few times a week. At Rural Studio, they live together, cook together, eat together and create amazing homes together. The studio was built from a farmhouse dating back to the 90s of the 18th century.
Over the years, Mockbee students have built churches, basketball courts and several homes including an 80 square meter house made of hay. Alberta and Shepard Bryant, the two proud owners of this new home, used to live with their three grandchildren in a run-down shack with no plumbing until Mockbee and his students showed up.
The students also built smokehouses from shredded concrete slabs and colored glass. For just $20, the smokehouse where Shepard smokes fish is truly beautiful as the light shines through the colorful glass. As Mockbee puts it, “We turn the ordinary into the extraordinary.” His purpose? “I just want to jump into the dark and see where I land.”
That is the only way.
People who live the life they want. — Bruce Poon Tip
Leave no footprints, leave a legacy
I was born to be an adventurer. That’s for sure. I cannot do anything to make myself happy. — Roy Chapman Andrews
Ten years ago when Bruce Poon Tip decided to start his own adventure travel agency, he decided or could focus on the fact that the 23-year-old was, essentially, just a “baby” in the eyes of others. most potential customers. Or he could focus on the fact that he had just been fired from the only two jobs he had ever had – the one at Denny’s when he was 16 and at McDonald’s a few months later. Or you may remember that with the business you tried, the company that sold bookmarks with weather forecasts was shut down by the principal himself because all his classmates had dropped out of school to do it.
But instead of “facing reality,” the brave entrepreneur said, “I knew I could” and set out to build a company that would later become a leader in the burgeoning travel industry. .
Poon Tip’s Toronto-based G.A.P Adventures not only tops in sales ($16 million last year and consistently ranks on Canada’s Profit 100 list, a ranking of the fastest-growing companies. ) but also implements the philosophy of social responsibility it promotes.
“Leave no footprints”, the popular mantra of ecotourism operators, is not enough for G.A.P. Yes, Poon Tip limits the number of tourists per trip to 12, uses only public transport – train, horse, canoe – and selects only motels and guest houses, he guarantees. that his “footprint” made a tangible change in the lives of the people he worked with. Thanks to the Poon Tip, the Pimpilala Indians, a small tribe living in the rainforests of Ecuador, were able to purchase the sacred land of the tribe. Not only did this tribe not have to live off of cutting firewood, but they were also able to prevent mining and oil from ravaging their land.
All G.A.P clients have the opportunity to “adopt” a child from the country they visit.
And if the tours don’t follow Poon Tip’s social, ethical, and environmental guidelines, he’ll get rid of them no matter how successful they are. The gorilla trail tour to Uganada, one of Poon Tip’s most popular tours, was canceled because it was clear the tour operators he worked with didn’t take his principles seriously.
Another time, he withdrew from Burma when some government agencies did not instruct him to work directly with local people through intermediaries for profit.
At the office, Poon Tip also lives by noble point of view. All 75 employees start work with a 4-week vacation. Everyone gets one free travel per year. And in keeping with the low-impact philosophy, each employee receives a free bus pass or is encouraged to walk, printed paper is used on both sides, and Poon Tip pays almost twice as much for branded coffee. fair trade.
Poon Tip’s decision to live life the way he wants came from his travels to Thailand.
“First of all, the expensive five-star car tour makes me believe that in Thailand there are many rich people and many luxury hotels. The next time, I went “backpacking” at $5 a day and found small villages and hill tribes. I see a real Thailand. I realized that on my first trip, I was stuck in a Western environment. I thought maybe other people wanted to see what I saw too.”
You were right. The company grew with exponential revenue within 10 years. And while it may rest, Poon Tip has just launched an adventure drama series based on a 10-day trip through Borneo at the Bampf film festival.
Young, brave and unwilling to follow the path, Poon Tip is a man of great vision and he has contributed to making the world more beautiful. He is a consultant for the World Bank in Washington and his convictions won him the Ethics in Action award last year. Poon Tip made a difference, left a legacy, made the world a better place.
People who live the life they want. Bev Sanders
Help Annie Oakley sing the song
“You can do anything…”
In life, we don’t have a lot of opportunities to create change so should take them as opportunities, instead of barriers.— Bev Sanders
When Bev Sanders was in high school, her father let her do an office job at his driving school. “Forget about college,” he said. Girls do not need higher education. What will you use your degree for after you get married?”
Although he loved his father very much and understood that he had the old-fashioned views of the previous generation, Bev left his shirt and chose the path to the west.
She found a job teaching skiing at Lake Tahoe, a passion she had since childhood. That brave act, the decision to give up old-fashioned thinking, set her own path and step into the new world created the premise for a life as she wanted it to be.
Not only did she set up one of the first companies to design and manufacture snowboards, but she did her best to change the way women see themselves – especially in sports.
“Look at the advertising,” she said. To this day, 99% of ads show men playing sports. Where are the women? My mission is to level the playing field.”
Even with her own company, Avalanche Snowboards, a business she co-founded in 1982 with her husband, Chris, getting people to know women’s skiing needs is fraught with obstacles. She had to work very hard to convince Chris and the other designers to create skateboards for women. She also worked tirelessly to get $20,000 in initial mold making costs. Even the most passionate female skiers say, “This is what my boyfriend said I should try.”
Finally, after much determination, Bev convinced Avalanche to launch Sanders 148, the first snowboard designed specifically for women. In just one year, it received the award for best freestyle skateboard and created a trend in producing skateboards specifically for women.
“People often tell me you are just a small individual,” she said. How can you influence the whole world? I believe I can.” She certainly influenced the sport of skiing. When she and Chris started designing snowboards on the back of napkins, skiing was still a “rebellious” sport. Most ski areas do not allow snowboarding on the slopes. Bev and Chris had to try to find a place to “test” their product.
Of course, snowboarding is ubiquitous these days, and in 1998, 16 years after Bev first firmly believed that snowboarding was possible, it became a sport in the world. Olympic. However, she and Chris sold the company in 1995.
“When MTV started showing snowboarding, I knew it was over for me,” she said. Maybe the clothing company GAP also sells skis.”
Her current passion is the all-girls surf school she founded on the northern beach of Puerto Vallarta, Mexico. According to Bev, called Las Olas Surf Safari, the company’s mission is to empower women through surfing and snowboarding.
“Women stick together in a special way,” she said. I especially enjoy seeing the appearance of businesswomen. Within 24 hours they were all mixed up, I always joked that I was running a complete school in the opposite direction because I turned women into girls.”
The seven-day program, described as a mix of a girls’ slumber party with an empowerment workshop, combines yoga and massage with daily surf lessons. For Bev, it’s a way to help women reclaim their power.
“We need strong women,” she said. Women are the ones who will stand up for the environment, will do what needs to be done. We need the power of women to change the world.”
After years of snowboarding, Bev discovered his passion for surfing through his courage. She and Chris booked a plane ticket to Milan. When the plane sold out, the two went to the next counter and there was a flight to Maui.
“We don’t even have swimwear,” she said. We checked into the hotel, I checked the phone book and saw in the yellow pages an advertisement for a dog on a surfboard. The ad says: “If dogs can surf, so can you.” We went to buy surfboards and returned after 7 days. That changed my life.
“I feel honored to be the initiator of two different things: first to snowboard and now to bring more women to the sport.
Our way of life requires new thinking. — Albert Einstein
Have you ever wondered if anyone wants to do unimportant and uninteresting things? However, let’s see how we spend our time. Look at the headlines in the magazines we read. Let’s look at the TV shows we are addicted to watching.
We think we care about things that we don’t really care about. I don’t want to be the one to tell you this but you really don’t care what perfume you’re wearing, you know the secret of 60 minutes of orgasm.
You care about what happens to our children. To our ocean. To the beautiful American dream of freedom, equality, and unlimited possibilities. You care about your soul, about God, about how you make a difference in the world. Yet somehow, we get lost. I don’t know why that happened. I’m not even sure we need to know. Why we get lost is one of those unrelated issues that we spend so much time understanding. It doesn’t matter at all.
The only thing that matters is: “How do we get back on track?” How can we shift our focus away from trivial and unimportant things to bring it to the right place?
When we focus on less important issues, we give up on who we really are. This is a big broblem. That’s why the pharmaceutical company Eli Lilly makes a lot of money from the antidepressant Prozac. That’s why an average of 40 people commit suicide in an hour.
We are all stupid false saints. We pretend to care about things we don’t care about. It doesn’t matter how much money you make or what car you drive. You do not care. It’s like when we play “pretend to believe” just sometimes we forget it’s just pretend.
The only thing you really care about is how you can make a difference in the world, how you can share the love with your brothers and sisters. We all recognize this fact, whether we admit it or not.
It’s still that little voice that constantly nudges us in the ribs, the discontent within us when we pause long enough to ask ourselves, “Is that all?”
The little voice will never be silent. It’s like a rabbit battery. Or dandelion. You cannot escape it. So why don’t we put our arms down, surrender and admit it.
We all really love each other. We all want to do great things. We can save our world. It’s never too late.
3 big questions
I always tell myself what is the most important that we can think in this magical time. — R. Buckminster Fuller
Before Native Americans made important decisions, they asked themselves: “How will this decision affect my children and the next seven generations?” When it comes to making important decisions, most of us just want to know how it affects our bank accounts. Perhaps instead of that, we should ask the following questions:
1. What would I do if I knew I couldn’t fail?
2. How can I step outside the small line that society considers “normal?”
3. What can I do today to bring clarity and wonder to my perception?
Soul training camp
Make fun of yourself at least once a day
Humans need a kind of craziness, otherwise one will never dare to cut the rope to be free. — Nikos Kazantzakis
Exercise: Every day for the next 7 days, do something you have never done and something that you feel you simply cannot do.
How many times have you had a good idea just to keep to yourself for fear of looking like a freak? How many times have you wanted to run up and hug someone and tell them you love them but you didn’t because you were afraid they wouldn’t feel the same way? Or they might think you’re the crazy person that “people” warned about.
It’s wrong to be afraid of looking silly. Worrying about what others think will only spoil your joy and the good ideas our planet needs.
The solution to this “disease” is to force yourself to do silly things. Ingrig Torrance, who starred in the movie Double Jeopardy with Ashley Judd, said: “I used to be very insecure. I faced my fear by doing things that made me feel uncomfortable.” C.W.Metcalf, a humor consultant to many Fortune 500 companies, said he cured himself of a “serious terminal illness” by forcing himself to do things like go to the airport without being present. shoes or socks. Or stand in an elevator and talk nonstop. Pay attention to your reaction. Do you find yourself thinking, “I will never be able to do that!” Don’t worry, it’s this resistance that gets you stuck.
Your exercise is to do something silly every day for the next 7 days. One thing you’re sure of “I could never do.” And must be open to others. And it has to be something out of the ordinary, something that can make people laugh.
But, but… what if the other person laughs?
Please bow. Thomas Sydenham, a seventeenth-century physicist, once said: “The appearance of a good clown will have more beneficial effects on the health of the townsfolk than 20 full-loaded donkeys. medicine.”
Everyone likes to laugh. They need to laugh. According to Patch Adams, “People crave laughter as much as they crave essential amino acids.” And since everyone on the planet wants to get out of the rut just like you, they’re sure to enjoy your madness. And they will certainly be jealous, wishing it was them.
But I guarantee that they will not abandon you. You might even inspire them. Everyone longs for someone who allows them to be themselves. Maybe you are that person.
Chapter 4: Giving a lot: perspective on helping
We are tourists on this planet… during the travel period, we must try to do something good, useful with our lives. —Dalai Lama
A vacation on the Riviera, a Chrysler PT Cruiser, or an anti-aging cream isn’t the secret to happiness. There is only one thing that can open the door to inner peace. Make a purpose bigger than the face you see in the mirror every day. Give everything you have to create a better, brighter and more beautiful world.
Most of us don’t know how to give. We live with a secret exchange system. You do this and I will do that. You scratch my back, I’ll scratch your back. Whether you admit it or not, we all give what we hope to receive in return. It doesn’t have to be money. Many of us seek appreciation, love, or a pearl necklace from Tiffany’s. But as long as we keep that kind of scorecard, we’ll get bogged down in fear.
When you live your life expecting someone else to do something for you, even if it’s just perceiving everything like you, you’re acting like a victim. You are receiving, not giving. True giving also means giving up the role of the victim.
You protest, “But I’m not a victim!” Every time you deny your responsibility in any situation, you are playing the victim. If you’ve ever believed that someone, some circumstance, or some objective reason made you do a certain thing, you’re playing the victim.
Take a look at the statements below.
“I can’t. That’s who I am.”
“You don’t know my childhood was terrible.”
“I’m fed up.”
“Why does this always happen to me?”
My life will never be the same.”
“The world is crazy these days.”
“Humans are so insensitive.”
You need to “grow up and get ahead of yourself.” When we truly become great to serve, to give without expectation, our sense of personal power, peace of mind, and our capacity to love and trust There will also be major changes.
Albert Schweitzer is a perfect example. He is a famous organist, writer and expert on Bach. But when he read about his poor health in Africa, he couldn’t “live for himself” anymore.
He enrolled in medical school, despite the opinions of family and friends, who thought he was crazy to give up his successful career to go to Africa. They said, “You are unreasonable. Britain should stay in Europe. You can donate money for medical care here.”
But he replied: “We should not ask whether a purpose is reasonable. We must act on our inner urge.”
The urge inside him said, “Go.” He founded the Lambarene Medical Center in the only building he could find – a chicken coop. In just 9 months, he treated 2,000 patients. For the next 50 years, he worked in the forests of Africa, saving lives and inspiring millions of others.
Even when he won the Nobel Peace Prize in 1953, he used the $33,000 prize to set up a leper colony. He repeatedly said that as long as there is still even one person who is hungry, sick, lonely or living in illness, that person will be his responsibility.
“People have to find their inner urge,” he said.
People who live the life they want. – Mary Guthrie
Her passionate love creates miracles.
I hate the rules. I am the world’s worst rule-follower.—Mary Guthrie
If anyone had reason to feel sorry for themselves, it was Mary Guthrie. She joked that in high school, she was supposed to be “definitely going to reformatory.” She ran away from home to follow her lover at the same school when she was 16 years old. Her second child died of sudden death syndrome SIDS at the age of 2 months. The sudden death of her son sent her young husband into a depression; he couldn’t go to work and often cried by the child’s grave.
He beat Mary to relieve stress. Today, she still has a large scar on her left arm, a result of the time her husband cut her arm out of anger.
Two days after the birth of the third child, a beautiful second baby girl, her husband grabbed the newborn’s leg and smashed it against the wall, causing the baby to have a hearing disorder and require a hearing aid.
Despite having two children, one just a few weeks old and the other just two, Mary decided to take them away from home and never return.
When Mickey, the second child, was 4 weeks old, Mary went to work at a discount store to make a living.
After 1 year, she met another man and quickly got married. Although the new husband owned a successful construction company, he was also an abuser and was arrested and put on trial in Louisiana for drug addiction.
And yet, her fourth child, Allen, now 26, was born with unexplained developmental delays and a seizure disorder. “Experts” advised her to let the baby live in a charity facility.
At the time of Allen’s birth, she was 24 years old and already had 2 daughters, aged 6 and 2. She has no money, no insurance. Most people think it is best for Mary to seek help.
And for a time she did. When Allen was 15 months old, she took the baby to a program for children with special needs
But the show wasn’t right for him,” she said, withdrawing Allen’s name from the program after six months.
She started paying herself to take Allen to therapists, physiotherapists, even karate lessons. She didn’t stop until Allen could ride a tricycle and then a bicycle. Today Allen can drive a car.
And finally on April 20, 1990, year 40, she had the courage to say goodbye to her abusive husband and follow her heart’s call. She wanted to share what she learned about raising children with special needs.
“I call it my independence day,” she said. I tried to explain to myself the reason for not leaving my husband by thinking, “I have two children. Who would want to love me again?” And finally one day I said, “I want to love myself.”
What if you are a housewife without a degree? What if you don’t have a college degree or a certificate in special education? What if you don’t have a trust fund to buy expensive monitors and oxygen devices?
She decided to take what she had – the will and willingness to see a soul with much potential behind every child the doctor deemed “hopeless”.
Although life has tested her many times, she still chooses to give, making a real change in the lives of the 35 children who participated in the special needs program at Lee’s Summit in New York. Missouri. The center is called Giant Step and is run by Mary, Mickey’s daughter, who has overcome the obstacle of deafness and is working as a nurse, and her son Allen, who works as a transportation director. load.
“My business card says I’m the program director,” says Guthrie, “but I was actually a single mom in 1973. I believe you can focus on doing anything if you really want to.”
As a special needs information center, her phone rarely stopped ringing. She can fluently read the phone numbers of the Spina bifida Foundation, the Down Syndrome Foundation, and more. She was the coach of the Special Olympics for 9 years. “One day, they called me to ask if I wanted to coach for this year’s Special Olympics again,” says Mary. I said I’d be happy if we could practice around 3 to 4.30 a.m., which is the only time I’m free A combination of Erin Brockovich, George Carlin, and Mother Teresa, Mary has tried anything to help sick children, from Down syndrome to autism, seizures and Prader-Willi disease. “My idea is just to help people get to know each other. We all want to be loved and accepted.”
Whether it’s sewing a costume for a child with Down syndrome or assisting with a performance of “Smoke on the Water” for a child who is mute, she is always looking for new ways to reach children. She tells them jokes and calls them nicknames, a refreshing change in the serious world of children in need of special care.
“My motto is: It doesn’t matter how long you live, it matters how happy you live,” she said.
Initially, when establishing Giant Step, Mary’s company only had one member, Nicholas, a baby who, according to doctors’ diagnosis, was lucky to live only 3 days. Now, Nicholas is 7 years old, going to school and challenging life.
As the list of children grew, when after Nicholas there were Lauran, Jacob, Jenner, Tommy and many other children, Guthrie moved out of the house where she lived and dedicated the place to serving children.
“If we followed the books, we wouldn’t have done it,” she said. It’s amazing that we’re here. Maybe someone really wants me to do this.”
Giant Steps isn’t the biggest establishment you’ll find (Mary says, “To my mind, Abe Lincoln was born in a cabin in the woods.”) and amidst the bureaucracy and rules of government, she was always struggling with a problem.
“What happens in your real world doesn’t mean it will happen in my real world,” she said.
But when you commit to your dream, all doors mysteriously open. For example, Mary enjoys being a freelance writer. While everyone knows it’s “impossible” to sell scripts for big TV shows, especially when you’re 40 and live in Nowheresville, Missouri, she approaches her new goal the way she approaches everyone. other things in life. “Most people see the stone wall step. I also saw a stone wall but immediately looked to see where I could pole-jump to get over it.
The money she made from selling scripts for TV series such as Roseanne, In Living Color and Murphy Brown was used to fund Giant Step.
Writing the screenplay for Roseanne was purely coincidental. In fact, it all started with defiance. Her daughter came to visit and while watching an episode of the popular sitcom, Mary began to say a few words about the ending.
A comedian and joke teller by nature, Mary says: “I could have come up with a better line than that. Movies can create more laughter.”
The daughter said to her, “All right, big boss. If you think you’re funny, why don’t you try writing an episode script?”
That night she sat down to write (she didn’t even have a typewriter or proper script format – what was that?) and started writing an episode. 14 hours later, she finished writing.
“Do I think I will be a screenwriter? I’ve always been the comedian, the center of parent-teacher conferences, but I’ve never considered writing a profession.
In fact, my famous story is 10,000 words long that a Catholic nun asked me to write over the weekend in high school. The theme was: “How can I be a better Catholic” and that was punishment for something I did.” For that exercise, she asked her brother to take 10 pictures of herself in the various gates and pews of the church and taped them with the title: “A picture is worth a thousand words.”
She eventually learned about the proper scripting format and succeeded in selling scripts for every show she wanted. “But my heart was, is and will always be with the children,” she explained. Even when she had a minor stroke and was hospitalized, wondering where the reconciliation with mothers was, she checked with Mickey to make sure Lauren, one of the children with Down’s, had coins in socks to do the “weight training” exercise.
Nothing can stop Mary Guthrie. She overcame ovarian cancer in 1991. She is currently battling lung problems from inhaling mold too much from her rehabilitation projects.
“People often ask me, ‘How do you do that? How did you learn about those disabilities?’ And I answered them: ‘You learn in turn. You learn to love each child. You try each method.”
Today, at 50, Guthrie is probably the happiest and most capable person I’ve ever known. She doesn’t make much money. In fact, she’s pretty proud of the fact that she can live on less than $20,000 a year. She understands that life is not about what you get, but how much you can give.
Instead of lamenting her fate in life, grumbling about the loss of her child, she took what she had – a great heart, a sense of humor and a lot of experience working with children in need. her special needs – and make her life extraordinary.
Mary Guthrie knows who she is. She knew she had great things to do, that her life made a difference. And she found that out by giving so much.
People who live the life they want. — James Twyman
Sing and pray for peace in the world
This is the moment we’ve all been waiting for. We are ready. —James Twyman
Growing up as a devout Irish Catholic, James Twyman has always felt a deep relationship with God. He persuaded the priest to let him celebrate when he was old enough. He joined the Franciscan priesthood as soon as he graduated from high school.
But after 2 years, he became disillusioned and decided to return to the mundane life. He went to college, got married, had a daughter, and sold handmade beds. Like many others in the mundane life, Twyman felt discontent. The marriage broke up. He experienced 5, 6 years of mental breakdown.
Finally he reached St. Catherine’s Catholic Worker in southern Chiago, home to the homeless and AIDS patients. There, while working with those in need, he said, “I finally stopped thinking about myself.”
It was the turning point in his life, the change in perspective that made his life great.
When he was a kid, he wanted to be a rock singer. When he was 12 years old, he learned to play the guitar, honed his skills in playing music, and sang for family and friends.
While working at St. Catherine’s, someone happened to give him a collection of prayers from the 12 major religions. “I find that all religions have the same purpose,” he said. The common theme is mindfulness.”
Almost as soon as the prayer began, music began to flow through Twyman’s head. Instead of rejecting the whispering voice within, he sat down and wrote guitar music for each peace prayer.
From that moment on, Twyman knew exactly what he wanted to do. He will become a peaceful troubadour. He will sing his songs of peace to those who are willing to listen. He will share his music in places of violence. He will hold a prayer for peace. Britain will plant peace posts in conflict zones.
“Music has a power of its own that cannot be found anywhere else,” he said. I feel like people can hear music and prayers they don’t hear from politicians – it’s time to return to peace. I decided to go to the places that needed peace the most.”
But… but… who allowed him to do that? What organization does he work for? When you find your passion the last thing you need is permission. And if no other organization is doing what you feel you need to do, you create your own.
In February 1998, when he was interviewed on a British radio station and did not think anyone would take his idea seriously, he made a silly comment that he wanted to sing an Islamic peace prayer for Saddam Hussein. At that time, war with Iraq was imminent. A British ambassador to Iraq overheard the interview and within two days Twyman was on a plane to Tehran. He held a concert for peace that was broadcast nationwide and emailed everyone to send his feelings of peace while he performed.
Millions of people around the world have responded. Three days later, the peace treaty was signed. The following week, James was invited to Northern Ireland where peace talks in Belfast were stalled. Once again he sang and again he sent an email asking people to pray to focus on Northern Ireland. Three days later, a major breakthrough occurred in the negotiations, allowing a peace treaty to be signed a month earlier than scheduled.
On November 13, 1998, nine months after the Iraqui Peace Concert, the press reported that negotiations with Hussien had been broken down. America prepares to attack at any moment. James, along with several other great writers and thinkers, organized an Internet prayer campaign. “We didn’t know that the day we held our vigil around the world was also the day President Clinton ordered the attack,” he said. The plane was already in the air waiting for orders to drop bombs. Within hours of the night of prayer, Clinton ordered an unprecedented retreat, calling the plane back not once but twice. As far as I know, this has never happened with the attack command.”
While there is no definite scientific method to study the relationship between millions of world peace prayers and the signing of peace treaties, there must be some connection.
In 2000, Yassir Arafat commented that it would take a million prayers for peace to come to the Middle East. So Twyman did what any peace troubadour would do. He ran a huge campaign on the Internet to collect a million prayers. And when he gathered enough he began to move to the Middle East and give it to Arafat himself.
Just one person? Make a huge difference.
According to Twyman, the message of peace can be shortened to a simple question:
Are you ready?
Yes I’m ready.
People who live the life they want. – Susan Krabacher
From Playboy Mansion to Haitian slums
You can’t stop their tears for 1 second just by stepping closer. you can not do it. —Susan Krabacher
On the surface, Susan Krabacher leads a glamorous life. Blonde, pretty, married to a wealthy Aspen businessman, she has everything most of us could wish for. She modeled for 16 years, appeared on the cover of Playboy magazine, lived in the same affluent area as Kevin Costner.
But in October 1994, while contemplating whether to open a second antique shop, she was shown a television program about poverty in Mongolia. She said to her husband, “God, I want to do something to help these people.” She writes to several charities, and although they are happy to accept her money, none of them want her to help “hands-on”. They said she was ineligible and untrained.
She replied, “Okay, then I’ll do it myself.”
Richard Dusseau, a friend who works as a management consultant in the church she frequents, suggested that she go with him to Haiti. “This country is 10 times poorer and is on the same hemisphere as us,” he said.
Within a month, Susan was on the plane. Within a week of going to Haiti, she thought about not returning home. And in just 7 years, her Global Charity and Sharing Fund has funded 5 orphanages, 6 schools and 2 medical clinics, helping about 1,600 children each year.
“I can’t imagine living without them,” she said. And although Susan has returned to her residency in Aspen, she spends four to six months each year in Haiti, singing to babies, some of whom die in her arms – cuddling children who are bedridden from illness. disabled and brought food to hundreds of children whose main food came from nearby trash cans.
In turn, she suffered from head lice, scabies, and encephalitis. She has to fight gangs that steal her device and put a gun to her head, she has to fight hurricanes, and she defies government officials who only want bribes to allow her to care for her baby.
“They wanted $300 per child,” she said. That’s more than double the two-year salary in Haiti. I told them, “Okay, I’ll take the kids home tomorrow morning.” And I never saw them say anything again.
Dusseau was right about poverty. Haiti is known as the poorest country in the Western Hemisphere. 70% of the population is unemployed. The lucky few have jobs that earn an average of only $150 per year. The housing is so small that family members have to take turns sleeping. On her first trip, Susan, who was used to the happy life of Aspen, insisted on spending the night at Cite Soleil, a slum of more than 4,000 square meters, where a million people live. She shares her shack with 17 Haitians. Dusseau said: “The next day I didn’t dare hug her because she smelled so bad.”
Ever since living at Hugh Hefner’s mansion in Los Angeles, Susan has always given poor children special affection because of her difficult childhood. At the age of 8, she was abused by her grandfather and sent to a child care center at the age of 12, she understood what poverty was. Although she was allowed back to live with her family at the age of 14, she was turned away again at the age of 17 after a photographer sent a picture of her in a bikini to the Playboy mogul.
Claiming to be older than her actual age, Susan was transported in a limousine from her hometown of Utah to her Los Angeles mansion. “I hid there for three days,” she said. I was very scared, worried that I would see orgies.” She eventually befriended other models and joined the nightly circus at Hef’s house, where she continued to live for about a year.
Despite all the fun, money, and notoriety (she was the center of Playboy magazine in 1983), Susan has low self-esteem and suffers from anorexia. In 1984, a brief marriage brought her to Aspen, where she met Joe, her current husband, the lawyer who handled her divorce.
Although her marriage to Joe was very happy and she enjoyed the antiques business, she didn’t really find her true mission until she went to Haiti and saw 100 tiny cradles with babies. was dying in the abandoned children’s center at the government hospital Port-au-Prince.
The friend who invited her to Haiti said: “I think she’s going to get there, write a check, pick up a few kids and hit the road. I don’t think she wants to stay.” Susan said: “I don’t want my tombstone to say: ‘She was Miss May 1983’
Ways to be great
WE MAKE A LIFE ON WHAT WE GET; WE CREATE LIFE WITH WHAT WE GIVE.
The world is full of problems so finding your own niche can be a daunting task. I mean, how can I alone solve world hunger? How can a single mother like me deal with the AIDS epidemic? It’s true I can’t. But I can bake cookies for a starving homeless child. And I can give a back massage to the neighborhood artist who has AIDS. And every time I give a little, the world becomes a little sweeter, a little closer to heaven.
Not all of us are Jonas Salk. But we would make a big mistake if we believe that our contribution and giving, no matter how small, is not important. 365 days a year, rain or snow, Diane Heinen wakes up, drives to a gas station on the main road in her hometown, Valley Falls, Kansas (with a population of about 1,200). She used white shoe polish to write “Happy Birthday” in capital letters to those who had birthdays that day. She has a list of the birthdays of every resident in town and she even remembers the birthdays of people who used to live in Valley Falls – even though they now live in Timbuktu.
Small thing? It’s not small if you ask the people of Valley Falls, who have a great sense of community.
Last year’s Valentine’s Day, my friend Kitty was unemployed. The next day, she had to pay the mortgage. She didn’t know how to pay for food for her two dogs, Grace and Maggie, let alone pay the $1,000 mortgage.
According to “they say” it would be wise to spend all day sending out resumes looking for work.
But Kitty decided to defy “they say”. She spent the last $15 on Valentine’s cards and toys for the children’s party. In the recipient section she wrote “To my friend” and signed below “From your friend”. She tied red ribbons around Maggie and Grace’s necks, put them on her Meazda Miata, and drove out. She sends Valentine’s cards along with a small bracelet or a plastic toy plane to 40 children, most of whom are hospitalized with pacemakers. She would walk into the hospital room and say, “I’ve been looking for you all day.”
At first, the parents looked at each other in shock. They thought, “Who is this strange person?” But the kids know.
According to Kitty, it was the best Valentine’s Day she’s ever had. Yes, according to them, she should lament her lack of boyfriend or job. But thanks to her sense of humor and love, she is remembered as a great person.
Service to humanity can take many forms, but it always includes the act of spreading love, planting people, and making children smile. Above all, it’s the only thing that will make you happy.
3 big questions
Compared to what we should be, we are only happy soon. our fire fire is damp, our buff is person. We are using a small part of our mental and physical resources. —William James
In a recent poll, 21% of North Americans said they often feel depressed. You feel the same way, so what’s the big deal? But as Helen Keller once said, “No pessimist has ever discovered the secrets of the stars or sailed to new lands or opened new horizons to the human soul.” Ask yourself: “How can I open up new horizons for the human soul?” with the following questions:
1.What is the meaning of my life?
2. How would I live if I was the only one in the world?
3. What do I do better than others? How can I share that with others?
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If we do what we can, we will surprise ourselves. —Thomas Edison
Exercise: For the next 7 days, do what constructive living people call a “secret mission.”
We look everywhere—advertisements, self-improvement seminars, or on the psychiatrist’s couch—and we still wonder what the meaning of life is.
After 20 years of searching we still don’t know our purpose. We thought it could be a successful career, a penthouse overlooking the seaport, but God, when we finally get there, the hole is still there, still asking to be filled.
Finding out who you really are and why you’re here includes helping others. No other way. Helping can take many different forms, but always includes spreading love, planting people, and making children smile.
For the next 7 days, try out the secret mission, a popular exercise for people who do Constructive Living, this is how to see the world in action and avoid the tendency to over-analyze our circumstances and feelings, but only to act.
Secret missions, big or small, must be carried out without the knowledge of others. You can mow the lawn for your neighbors when they go to work. Or leave cookies on someone’s doorstep. Remember that no one should know you are the doer. This takes away our need to score points or look good in the eyes of others.
Helping simply and without fuss is a natural inclination of the soul, a natural inclination that many of us inadvertently forget. And while we can help others, the main reason we help our brothers and sisters is because it reminds us of a larger reality, it helps us identify the reality that we bigger than your neurosis, or as you learn to help and give, you quickly realize that you are more than just a number, not just a speck of dust in a big, cold world.
Even when the drug addict is put in prison, even when the elderly woman is dead, even when Trevor gives up on his plan, Trevor’s act of kindness bears fruit. This child started a movement through which people love each other, protect and care for each other. This chain of kindness and generosity goes on endlessly and never ends.
Kindness is so simple yet so profound.
Somebody Loves You, Mr. Hatch, one of my daughter’s favorite books, is about a lonely man who used to get up at 6:30 a.m. to walk the next eight blocks. shoelace factory, where he worked. At lunchtime, he sat alone in a corner, drinking coffee and chewing cheese and a mustard sandwich. After work, he stopped by the store to buy paper and fresh turkey wings. After dinner, he read the newspaper and went to bed early so he could wake up early and everything would start again.
On a Saturday, the postman brought him a parcel, which was a box of candy with a small white card. Inside the card was written: “Someone loves you.”
Mr. Hatch was shocked. As he dusted the house, he checked the candy box over and over to see if the card was still there. Who really loves me? Who could that be?
Finally he put on a yellow tie with blue polka dots, sprayed on perfume, and went for a walk outside. He waved to everyone, a change that made the neighbors “fall back”.
At work the following Monday, he went to the canteen and shared his box of chocolates. After work, he offered to look after the newsstand so the owner could see the doctor by appointment. Instead of reading the newspaper after dinner, he bakes cakes and shares them with the neighbors. He even dusted his harmonica and played a few tunes he knew as a kid.
This cheerful atmosphere continued for weeks until the postman returned to his house with a shy look. He stammered, “Ah, do you remember the parcel I brought on Valentine’s Day?”
“Yes,” replied Mr. Hatch hesitantly.
“I’m afraid I’ve delivered the wrong address, and if I don’t, my boss will fire me.” stammering postman. Mr. Hatch returned the box to the postman even though the candy had already been eaten by Mr. Hatch’s new friends. Suddenly he realized: “It turns out that no one secretly loves me.” He went back to his old t-shirt, his habit of eating cheese and mustard sandwiches alone in the corner. He forgot to talk to the butcher and the newspaperman.
People began to wonder, “What happened to Mr. Hatch?” The postman told the story and everyone showed up in front of his house one morning with a big sign that read: “Everybody loves you, Mr. Hatch.”
He cried with joy and stepped down to join his friends.
A small act of love can make a difference in Mr. Hatch’s life. A tiny box of chocolates and a few words card. Someone loves him.
Outside there are thousands of people like Mr. Hatch and they are waiting for these little words.
The people of northern Russia know the phrase “soul dialogue.” It means speaking from the heart, talking about HUGE things. Grandparents sit under an old oak tree with their grandchildren and say, “Let’s talk about great ideas. Let’s talk about our souls, about what matters.” These conversations can last for hours.
In the United States there is not even a phrase for “soul dialogue.” Parents are too busy with the daily rhythm of life to have time to sit down and talk to their children and say, “You know, I believe in this. I come from here. This is what you used to do when you were your age. She hopes this for you.”
According to an article in the New York Times, the average parent spends about 10 minutes a day talking to their child. Even stay-at-home mothers spend less than 15 minutes talking to their children.
Regardless of the time you ask questions like, “Did you clean your room?” and “Did you do your math homework?” there is less than a minute left for a brief kiss or to say, “I love you. And what does that mean?
“I love you.” Do we sit down next to our children and tell them about love? Or do we let them make their own assumptions from the messages they get on television, from the movies where handsome men look into the eyes of beauty queens lovingly and instantly find love.
Instead of just saying it in words, maybe we should sit down and tell our children what love is. Love is when the beauty queen gives birth to a boy and the boy is there at that moment to hold her hand. Or when he comes home late but she decides to trust him anyway. We need to spend more time talking about things like love.
About great ideas. About big dreams. Not: “How did you do on the spelling test?” or “Where is the TV remote hidden?” It should be conversations about inner hopes, failures, politics, God, your body, your daughter, or your favorite jelly.
Children need many hours of conversations with people who are willing to set an example for them to follow. They desperately need to look into that mirror’s untouched soul.
Your child needs to talk to you, to hear what you think, and to know who you are. Do they need to know what you accept? They need to hear from you that a great idea is much more important than a big beautiful car, that a big dream is much more important than a leather jacket.
Perhaps that’s why H. Jackson Brown’s Life’s Little Instruction Book is so successful. The book was originally just a small gift for his son to go to college and included 511 reminders on how to live a happy and rewarding life, but later it was published and sold millions of copies.
Basically, Brown is having a “soul dialogue” with his son. “I respect you so I want to share with you what I think,” he said. When he advised his son to “assess the neighborhood by the kindness of the people who live there, not the property value,” “singing in the shower,” “do not be miserly when using running tools.” electricity,” “reading Leadership is the Art by Max Depree,” he never said: “This is what I know and believe.” Our children need this kind of soul dialogue.
Those who have seen Bull Durham will surely remember Kevin Costner’s speech to Susan Sarandon, a four-minute prayer about believing in “the soul, the waist, the tee shot in baseball, food fiber, good Scotch, that Susan Sontag’s novels are selfless and mediocre.”
He continued, “I believe Lee Harvey Oswald acted alone. I believe that the Constitution should be amended to prohibit artificial peat. I believe in voting, in chocolate chip cookies, in sweets, and in opening presents on Christmas Day, not Christmas Eve.”
All Sarandon’s character Annie Savoy could say was, “Oh my god!” It is a spiritual dialogue.
Marry, my former roommate, and I used to have “souls” conversations for hours on end. Many nights we started at 10 p.m. and talked about everything from politician Walter Mondale, pollution in the Kansas River, to whether her blue shirt would match my patterned dress. . We would prolong this spiritual dialogue our thoughts, more accurately—through 2 or 3 a.m., until one of us resolved to say, “I think we should go to sleep. stop. Otherwise we won’t be able to get up and go to work tomorrow.” These conversations energize us. They expand our souls. They stir our hearts. They make us greater people.
We need to talk about important things. It’s easy to forget what’s important in this culture of cable television and automatic garage doors. It’s easy to forget to wave to our neighbors, let alone talk from the soul. We no longer sit in our front yard and shout “Hello” to our neighbors. We no longer trust our leaders, or decide to trust others.
What’s worse is that we don’t even realize the sadness of the things we’ve lost.
People who live the life they want. – Julie And Bruce Madsen
Give up everything to spread the good news
I started to question: will we do it like this with our marriage, resetting the roof, bringing the Gara assistance, or recognizing the house? – Julie Madsen
Bruce and Julie Madsen once lived the American dream: they had a luxurious five-bedroom house in Shaker Heights, a wealthy suburb in Cleveland, successful careers, money to do almost anything they wanted.
But one day, after 10 hours of work at her private center, Julie lay flat on her bed and said to her husband, “Is that all?”
Both work long hours. Julie is at her success consulting center, and Bruce has been a manager at General Electric for the past 26 years. It seems their promising two-year marriage is starting to get boring. They barely had time to have dinner together, let alone discuss the important issues that brought them together in the first place. Along with that boredom comes the nightly news. Surely cynicism and indifference are not the only thing happening in America, they think.
“It suddenly became clear to me that I no longer wanted to sit within four walls and do nothing but listen to Dan Rather bring bad news,” Julie said.
At that moment, the duo hatched a plan. They would quit their jobs, buy an RV, and travel the country in search of stories that the nightly news had missed. A story of hope, faith and courage. The Story of the American Dream.
“A lot of my clients are depressed. And how can they not be depressed when they have to listen to the desperate news from television and newspapers all day?” “We decided to let people know that there’s still a lot of great things going on and that America is still a good country,” Julie said.
In just four months, they bought a Sunnybrook pickup and trailer. They quit their jobs for $120,000 a year. They put their suburban house for sale. They also sell fine ceramics, antique furniture and their oriental tapestries.
Julie says: “We never made a living writing before, but so what? We decided to become journalists.”
In April 1995, the time that terrorists blew up the federal building in Oklahoma City, the two began their strange mission. The bomb explosion that killed 129 people made them even more determined build hope and find good things. They call themselves bounty hunters, the bounty here being “happiness.” They quickly acquired a weekly column in several newspapers in Ohio. They persuaded the RV lending department at Chase Manhattan Bank to launch a website about their American adventure.
So what if gippi journalists only make $1,100 a month, which is 90% off their original salary? They are following their hearts, thinking bigger than the upper-class lifestyle they work so hard to make ends meet.
Their first stop was the RV park in Maggie Valley, North Carolina. They invited everyone there to eat with them. They say, “Bring a dish and a touching story.”
Great success has come. A month later, USA Today became aware of their unusual assignment and printed their email addresses with each article; The stories started pouring in. For the next three years, the couple lived in a 76-square-foot mobile home with only a few laptops, a modem, a mobile phone and a printer, but they became “collectors” good things”. They traveled to all 50 states across the United States, collecting stories for their new columns and eventually writing a book of 59 stories of hope.
Just as they thought, the two found great news and stories of good people everywhere – a priest filling a swamp to build a soccer field for children, a disabled man riding a hot air balloon, a woman Plays the piano in the sanatorium, a painter makes crosses for unnamed graves.
They don’t even have to search hard. “Stories ‘self’ find us,” says Bruce. We see them lining up at the post office or the laundromat.”
“We call these stories coins from heaven,” says Julie. They rebuild our faith in America and our zest for life. I think if I hadn’t made that trip, I might have lost most of my ability to love.”
Today, the Madsens live in San Francisco, write books, and prove once again that if you dare to step out of your shell and commit to living the life you want, the world will be better off. will “nod in agreement” and support you.
People who live the life they want. -Andrea Campbell
Say “Yes” to every possibility
To create the life you want, you have to pursue it. You create your own universe. Whatever step you must take to create your universe, you must let go of your previous timidity and fear in order to move on. Don’t let shame keep you from pursuing what you want. That will only set you up for failure. The worst that can happen is you get rejected by someone else – so what? You still have other borders and other territories to conquer. Always remember that. That is the most important thing. — Georgette Mosbacher
Andrea Campbell pasted the above statements in front of her computer. So far it has been very effective. If she let shame weigh on her ability to pursue what she wants, she would never have become a flight attendant, house builder, tea house singer, monkey trainer, life exchange advocate. member, forensic scientist and now successful writer.
“I follow my passion wherever it leads me,” says the 52-year-old mother of two grown sons.
She thinks big in all circumstances. And she can do this because, according to her, “she knows how to get over herself.” Everything happened during her second facial reconstruction surgery. Not only did she have a very rare Pindborg tumor, which destroyed 40% of her jaw, but the doctor also had to remove part of her hip bone to rebuild her jaw, so she had to learn how to walk again. She mastered the steps twice – as a baby and when she was 22 after breaking her ankle at flight attendant school.
She said: “I was riding my bike when it overturned. I look down at my feet and the soles of my shoes look at me.” She had to wear a bandage for 6 months and due to the pain, she was forced to use and become addicted to morphine. After the bandages were removed, she had to not only practice movement, but also learn to walk and detox from morphine.
So she was missing part of her hip bone and would have to do it again. Only this time, due to the lack of jawbone, her face was deformed, not to mention that she and her husband had to re-mortgage the house to pay for the surgery costs. Needless to say, she was devastated.
She said: “When you are injured, you look at other healthy people and get a little jealous: “Why me?”
She was sitting in the waiting room for surgery in Dallas when the “oh” moment happened. The doctor here specializes in surgery for children with birth defects, subject to lifelong disfigurement. Sitting next to her were 20 Russian children with major deformities.
She said: “One girl had only one eye on her forehead, another boy had four nostrils, and all of a sudden I thought: What was my problem? I no longer feel sorry for myself.”
It was really a big turning point. She realizes that outwardly, power and sex, which most of us value in today’s culture, are meaningless.
And she spent the rest of her life proving it. One of the things she does is dedicate her heart and soul to writing. Her books (the seventh book coming out this spring) cover a wide variety of topics from great party games, self-help through journalism, and the criminal justice system. the.
While writing for a children’s career magazine, she discovered her main passion. While interviewing M. J. Willard, a primate researcher who founded a nonprofit called Helping Hands, she became interested in the monk monkeys that a group was training to support those quadriplegic person. Similar to the program helping the blind, Helping Hands trains monkeys to comb their hair, play video tapes and microwave food.
According to Andrea, the most important thing is that they know how to hug. In just eight months, Andrea became the adoptive mother of Ziggy, a monk monkey born on Discovery Island at DisneyWorld. She said of Ziggy, the monkey that came to her when she was 5 weeks old, smaller than the palm of her hand: “Jane Goodall went to Africa to study primates. I study a primate right in my hand.
Primates are very special. I know this sounds weird, but they really change your life. They make you a better person.”
First of all, they don’t care how you look or how much money you have. In fact, if you want to have a role model for the life you want, study primates. Andrea said: “Monkeys are so adorable, there are no preconceptions or conditions. A monkey loves you because it loves you. Simply that.” People are different, they become uncomfortable, uncomfortable around people with quadriplegia.
That’s not Andrea. She became a passionate advocate for people with quadriplegia. She spent four years traveling across the country and talking about their plight and how monkeys like Ziggy could help them. Andrea said: “Can you imagine a day without being able to feed yourself, brush your teeth, dress yourself, walk on your own and not be hugged? A life with more promise suddenly exists with different rules. I call quadriplegics silent and deeply traumatized.”
Andrea says no one knows how their gentle words and high ideals will manifest themselves.
“All I know is that the world is a wonderful place. And the more you use it to renew yourself, the more beautiful your life will become.”
Are you kidding? I don’t have time to “bless much.” I’m trying to get the laundry done.
That’s the interesting thing about Blessing. You don’t have to go anywhere or sign up for something new. You don’t have to volunteer. Or take more time. All you need is to open your heart to the people around you. People who show up every day in your life. Some of you already know. Others you will meet tomorrow.
But remember this. Blessing the people in your life is as simple as cursing them or worse, ignoring them. “To the world, you may be just one person…but to one person…you are the world.
When Aimee Bentlage worked as a training officer at Drake Law School, she remembered every student’s name and face so much that when they stopped by the office, she could greet them by name. One small thing? Not at all, especially for a law student.
Aimee is now a financial planner, and instead of looking for clients who want to save a lot of money, she looks for clients who want to use their money for good. And not only that, but she also comes up with many interesting and unusual ways in which customers can use their money. One of them is to take every teacher, from kindergarten to high school, to dinner at a nice restaurant.
Minas Demetrious owns an antique store at 43, Ninth Avenue in Manhattan. He sells everything from Italian zebra-patterned tiles to Austrian crystal salt. However, the real reason people visit this antique shop is because they love Minas’ great spirit and warm heart. With a Greek accent, he greets everyone, knows each customer by name, and if you visit his one-of-a-kind store, you’ll soon be no longer a stranger.
I have 7 chairs that are not for sale. They’re for the 89-year-old retired shoemaker who still comes here every day, they’re for the homeless woman who still visits him at least once a day.
His shop, Thrift and New Shoppe, is a meeting place for writers, lawyers, salesmen, and sword swallowers. They are people from all walks of life, with all different ethnicities. And Minas takes the time to make people feel like family. Every Tuesday, “patrons” bring their entire family to the store to meet their friends.
“It’s nice to be a good person,” Minas said.
Another thing we can do is look into our own hearts to see where we are still not doing well. Instead of getting angry and thinking, “Why would they do that?” When we see headlines about policemen beating innocent people or employees bringing guns to work, we can look at the unhealed wounds in our own hearts. When we feel angry, we want revenge because someone broke up with us or said, “You’re not the one I’m looking for.” Instead of giving in and wondering, “Why would anyone do this?” We must ask, “Why can I do these things?” How can I punish myself for eating an entire box of waffles? Or blame yourself for not being more social, not jogging today or not (fill in the blanks yourself)?
When do I feel hurt by my own violence? This is a question we can ask ourselves.
And when we ask questions, we can keep helping strangers carry their bags, keep buying 29-cent cards for kids in the emergency room, or keep delivering our lunches to those in need elderly people living in nursing homes.
3 big questions
Either way, progress in life comes from adaptation, not audacity, from conformity, not blind lust. — Henry Miller
The average square footage of a newly built home in the US has increased by 33% over the past 13 years. Do we need such a big house? Maybe we should strive to have a 33% greater heart. Other magic questions include:
1. What can I do to make my family’s life brighter?
2. If I only had one day left to live, what would I do?
3. What wish could I make for others today?
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Have a good chat How to overcome the syndrome “Fear of people”
My goal is to say or do at least one bold thing each week. —Maggie Kuhn
Exercise: For the next 7 days talk to at least 3 strangers every day.
This week you will be in contact with people who come within 1 meter of you. You can laugh, wink or ask them which character they like best from the comedy The Three Stooges.
You have to talk to at least 3 new people every day and wave to every car you see.
Sound silly? Anyway, do it. If necessary, remind yourself that the root word for silly is sillig, which means “happy.” And the “silliest” thing is that 3 simple acts of connection have the power to solve depression, cure disease and end world hunger. Think!
Most adults in the United States are very lonely and isolated. Your bright smile and polls may be the only conversation they have for the day.
Leo Buscaglia tells the story of an evening with friends at a bar in San Francisco:
The conversation was very lively. We share our reactions to the entertainment of a strange day. I see the man at the next table sitting alone, staring at his half-empty cocktail. I said, “Why don’t we invite him to join us? He looks lonely. I know how lonely it feels to be in a crowded room.”
“Leave him alone” all the others agreed
Chapter 6 : Making a Difference: A Perspective on Commitment
We all are social activities what we know or not. — Julia Butterfly Hill
School violence has increased by 41% over the past 5 years. Every day 4,000 people die of starvation, the equivalent of a jet plane crash every 15 minutes. Every 24 hours, 3 species disappear from life. 13 million African children have lost their parents to AIDS.
By the time you finish reading this chapter, a person in America will have taken his own life and similarly, a rainforest the size of 200 buildings in the city will have been burned and destroyed.
So why are we sitting here? I write. You read this book. We must act.
But, but… what can I do? I read things like this in the newspapers every day. Every night I hear it on the news. There’s nothing new.
What’s new here is that there’s no reason why these tragedies should happen. What’s revolutionary here is that we – you and I have the ability to solve these problems. And what’s even more amazing is that we can sit here and watch everything happen. Is it because we think we can’t do anything? Or because we believe it’s someone else’s business? If each of us chooses a reason, believing in our power to make change, we can erase all these tragedies and all the problems in the world within a year.
For example, with world hunger. Balbir Mathur, an entrepreneur in Wichita, Kansas found a simple plant whose leaves are so nutritious that it’s almost like a magic potion. The leaves of the moringa tree (the name of the plant) contain seven times more vitamin C than an orange, three times more potassium than a banana, and four times more vitamin A than a carrot. A single tree can almost eliminate that problem in a small village in a developing country.
Not only that, the seeds can purify water, the bark and roots are also edible, and the plant can grow easily and quickly on nutrient-poor soil. Since 1984, Mathur has planted 30 million moringa trees in poor countries around the world. “Miracles can still happen because people create miracles,” says Mathur.
But, but… I’m not causing problems. Why do I have to?
Just like my old second grade teacher used to say: It doesn’t matter who opens the jar of glue, we are all affected if we don’t put the lid back on.
But, but… shouldn’t the government or social services do something?
Government and social services cannot solve all of our problems. How can they be held responsible for all the accumulated damage caused by millions of individuals?
That’s bad news.
The good news is we can. We. Me and you. One person truly has the power to make a difference. If we still need to reform healthcare, improve education and make other things better, we still have work to do.
But, but… I’m not the type to work in a soup kitchen.
Who says you have to work in the soup kitchen? Cathy Runyan-Svacina makes a difference with marble. That’s right, marble. She is known in her hometown of Kansas as the “marble woman” and she uses her collection of millions of marbles, the largest in the world, to spread love. She didn’t just write a book called Knuckles Down! with 35 marble games, but also developed the “Shoot Marbles, Not Drugs” program, which she introduces in schools around the world and creates “Kindness Marble” (roughly translated: Marble of compassion) is distributed around the world.
After her daughter (1 of Cathy’s 5 children) broke her neck in a car accident, Cathy and her daughter made hundreds of Compassionate Marble available in a variety of colors, no two are the same and packaged them as “The Legend of the Compassionate Marble.” According to legend, the person with the Marble of Mercy must start the day with the marble in the left pocket. Whenever he does a good deed, he can move the stone to the right pocket. And according to Cathy, no one should go to bed without the stone in the right pocket.
Although the marble collection, even the largest in the world is not a big deal, Cathy learned that “it is through small and simple things that great things can happen.”
But but… I don’t have any money.
Maizie DeVore, an 82-year-old woman who became a grandmother in Eskridge, Kansas who outlived both her husbands and one of her four children, also had no money. But that didn’t stop her from thinking of the big idea of building a public swimming pool for children in a town of only 500 people.
For 30 years, she resolved to collect aluminum cans and scrap metal, knit bed covers and make jam from wild berries, all of which she sold to raise money to build a swimming pool. Two days a week, she rummaged through the trash cans and scoured the streets of town in search of discarded cans. When she worked as a back-up actress in the Hallmark Hall of Fame’s Sarah, Tall and Simple, starring Glenn Close, DeVore –in response to an advertisement for a rural woman with a weathered face in the local newspaper, even convinced Close to donate $2,000.
Finally, in July 2001, DeVore’s dream of building a local children’s pool came true. The swimming pool with the size of 12 x 22m was opened right opposite her house, and she wore a swimsuit bought at the age of 40, was the first to open the lake.
Talk about money. The great activist Buckminster Fuller once said that if the money in the world were divided equally among everyone, each of us would have $1.3 million.
But, but… I don’t have time.
I don’t deny that most of us are over-committed, over-stressed and exhausted. But I have to ask the following question:
Do you really need a weekly manicure? Are episodes of the sitcom Seinfeld really that important to your happiness? Gandhi once said that if he had a busy day, he could simply add meditation to his to-do list. Otherwise he would never get things done.
To have time, you just need to spend time daydreaming. Bring your own magic. When your soul is filled with mystery and passion, you can’t help finding the time.
But, but… I’m too young, too old, too ugly
Nkosi Johnson is only 7 years old. The boy has terminal AIDS and weighs less than 14kg. But every day the boy still talks about the importance of love and acceptance. He opened a shelter in Johannesburg, South Africa for children who had lost their parents to AIDS.
Doris Haddock was 90 years old when she walked from Los Angesles to Washington, D.C. to support the financial reform movement. Despite dehydration, snow, ice, arthritis and lung disease, she walked about 16km every day until she reached the steps of the Capitol and persuaded members of Congress to stop accepting money from interest groups, special benefit. “We have a responsibility to look after each other and we created government for this reason,” she said. If we lose control of the government then we lose the ability to take care of each other.”
The number of years doesn’t matter, except for cheese.
But, but… I only have one.
All the people who live the life they want in this book are also alone. One person can make a big change. We must never forget that fact. Marian Wright Edelman says: “When trying to think of how to make a big difference, we must not overlook the many small everyday differences that we can make and that over time add up and make a difference, big difference.”
People who live the life they want. — Julia Butterfly Hill
Refusing to leave the 55-meter-wide bird’s nest to save a 1,000-year-old tree
Never underestimate the power of one’s actions. — Julia Butterfly Hill
Julia Butterfly Hill was only 23 years old when she decided to live the life she wanted. It was not a conscious choice at first. She had just been in a terrible car accident, her skull hitting the steering wheel and making it difficult for her to walk, talk, and do many of the things most of us take for granted. When she was finally able to do those things normally, she realized it was time to get out of her old life in Arkansas. She decided to seek enlightenment in the Far East. Before she got there, she met a group of tree-huggers in California, as she called them back in Arkansas. As she wandered the lost shores of California, she began to feel empathy for the giant redwoods. She was moved by their beauty and strength. She begins to hear a voice suggesting that instead of going to India, her fate lies somewhere in the middle of this jungle.
When she heard that Pacific Lumber was planning to turn this entire thousand-year-old redwood forest into someone’s backyard, she decided to take action.
On December 10, 1997, at the age most other girls would start a business or start a family or even become a mother, she kissed the ground goodbye and climbed 55 meters up a giant redwood tree. By the time of the full moon, using rock climbing equipment she had never seen before, let alone used, she had climbed the equivalent of 18 floors to reach a platform 2x3m wide. She vowed to stay there until the Pacific Lumber Company and its parent corporation, Maxxum, agreed to let the tree live.
She sat alone on this platform for two years and eight days. She uses a block of margarine as a toilet, uses candles for light, and uses a single propane stove to cook.
Her only companion is a small group of support personnel who every few days walk about two kilometers over rough terrain, using pulleys attached to a bucket, providing her with essentials. and let her know about the growing anger of the corporation.
She defied strong winds of 145km/h, freezing cold, police with loudspeakers and, above all, threats of eviction from the mighty Maxxum Corporation, which seemed to claim to have cleared the giant redwoods. is their economic right
What about the trees that were here before Christopher Columber was born? What if only 3% of the 8,000 m² giant forest survived? On January 1, 1998, clearing caused a landslide that destroyed 7 families’ homes? What if they broke the 250 articles of the California Forest Protection Code? Chile has announced that it won’t allow the cutting of aclerces, California’s redwoods, no matter where they grow? We are Americans and making money is our basic right.
But Julia Butterfly Hill is also an American and she has the right to follow her heart, taking civil disobedience if she has to.
At first, having to live alone on a tiny platform with nothing but tarpaulins seemed lonely and scary. She keeps herself busy by writing poetry on the back of her food container, exercising by climbing tree branches. She claims the tree she named Luna became her best friend, chatting with her, instructing her on how to “bend and droop”, and even cry out loud with sap while looking at her siblings. was murdered because of mass consumerism.
Hill’s refusal to live a small life became a springboard for others. She has attracted many celebrities such as Woody Harrelson, Bonnie Raitt and Joan Baez, who have walked more than 3km to the forest to visit her. She eventually became a celebrity in her own right, receiving interviews about solar-powered phones from Newsweek, CNN, and many other organizations. George magazine also named her one of the 10 most influential people of 1999 and Robert Duvall bought the film rights to her book, Luna’s Legacy.
When we decide to live the life we want, a lot can happen.
From Hill’s act of love, as she called it, she saved Luna’s life. When she finally landed on the ground on December 17, 1999, Maxxum Corporation agreed to let Luna live with more than 11,000 square meters of land around the tree. To continue her work, Hill founded an organization called Life Circle that promotes living in harmony with nature.
People who live the life they want. — Maureen Kushner
Always looking for the greatest potential
There will never be peace in the world if humans don’t receive the science, miracles, warmth, and beauty of every child. — Shlomo Carlebach
Maureen Kushner has a theory. If you talk about your work after hours are over, you’ve probably found your passion. If you can’t wait to get home, checking your watch every 5 minutes to see if it’s 5 o’clock, maybe you should keep looking.
She said: “Artists and dancers always talk about their work. And that’s how I feel about teaching. I love teaching.” Kushner has truly found his passion, not simply teaching, but spreading big dreams to children who don’t have many opportunities.
For 25 years, she taught drawing and creative writing in the heart of New York City – first in Harlem and then in Washington Heights, a crowded school where students often pass by shops, drugs with weapons and saw a shooting scene while going to class. One of her students said, “This is not Mr. Roger’s area.”
Because many of her students come from immigrant families and English is a second language, they don’t rank well on achievement tests. But by the time they were taught by Maureen, 90% of the students were ranked in the top ten nationally in reading and math, a leap that shocked administrators so much that they had to double-check them over and over to make sure they weren’t. mistake. Many of her students receive scholarships to prestigious schools for gifted students at the other end of the city.
The teacher openly shared: “I walk into every classroom and say, ‘What is the greatest potential here?’.” Her enthusiasm and love of beauty spread everywhere.
To discover that potential, she is often forced to think more, more breakthrough. In Washington Heights, for example, she taught children to read and write by founding the Comedy Club. While teaching in place of one of the most difficult classes in school, she discovers a caricature that someone has carved on her desk.
“It’s vandalism but the painting is amazing, so detailed, so precise and so expressive,” Maureen said. She immediately found the “saboteur” and appointed the student as a cartoonist for the new Comedy Club and found many other students who also enjoyed drawing, writing stories, and acting. Under her enthusiastic guidance for 12 years, the Comedy Club produced 18 comic books, including an anti-drug coloring book, an inverted dictionary and the Alf-Laugh book. -a-Bet, a grammar book for tourists, 15 shows and countless murals and posters.
Their Comic Parade for Peace, a 12-meter-long mural featuring cartoon characters from around the world, appeared at the United Nations and Moscow. After being personally invited to RCA radio to watch a Whoopi Goldberg movie, the kids in the club wrote a book called Whoopi’s Whoppers about the comedian’s strange hair. Not long after, 400 kids wanted to join Kushner’s club.
Kushner, who requires children to read at least 20 funny books a year, more than they have to read in English class, says: “The kids are so happy they don’t even realize they’re studying. Humor helps them achieve a new steady state, inspires, responds to a higher calling.” When Maureen first arrived at City College in New York, she thought she liked the international relations department best. Her parents insisted that she take a few credits in teaching just in case she needed it. To get her graduate education, she started tutoring in New York. She was amazed at what she found there, so fascinated with the potential of her students that she changed careers almost immediately.
“Sometimes you find a child boring,” she said. And then, if you do it right, you will see the world within them. Behind the depressed-looking faces is a whole world of hope.”
For Kushner, teaching is an art and she has dedicated her life to nurturing children’s great potential.
And while she’s proud of the dramatic changes in test scores, she’s also proud to have given her students a cause to believe in whether it’s cleaning up the Hudson River, which a class of her 4th graders did with Pete Seger’s small boat, Clearwater or conflict resolution, something she repeatedly did through games and skits.
In 1994, the Israeli Ministry of Education asked her to come to children in Israel. Using her personal savings to buy stationery, she walked or rode the bus to schools across Israel to present her creative “Peace with Humor” workshop to Jewish children, Arab, Druze and Bedouin. She teaches them how to express themselves through drawing, coloring and telling jokes. An exhibition of 45 children’s works took place across 40 cities in the US, including Philadelphia during the 2000 Republican National Convention.
No one hoped that “Peace Through Humor” could resolve the conflicts in this war-torn nation but by letting children be creative to express their feelings, by teaching them tolerance and understanding through jokes, as Maureen puts it: “If one of these kids remembers this experience years later,” who knows…
“Once you start laughing and getting creative, you forget about throwing food around the room,” says Maureen. You forget about selling drugs. You forget your mortal enemy. I don’t change people. I just took them somewhere more meaningful and different.”
“When children listen to their hearts and discover the best part of them, peace can happen,” she said. On February 19, 1995, the day an exhibition of children’s paintings was opened at the Knesset, Israel’s Parliament, terrorists blew up Jerusalem bus number 18, killing most of the people on car. Seven heads of state, including King Hussein and Hosni Mubarak, who pledged to attend the ceremony, did not show up. Maureen wondered if the grand opening would take place.
She was pacing the floors of the Knesset as a large bus loaded with children from all over Israel arrived, children from her program, children from all different races and cultures. She cried as she watched each child holding hands and getting out of the car.
Yes, the children’s parents may not like each other but the children, who are enlightened by Maureen’s vision of “the limitless possibilities of a better and brighter world”, can create a distinctive.
10 good people
In the Bible there is the story of Sodom and Gomoraah, two cities that once existed in the Holy Land. It’s a pretty impressive story. There were parties (too many according to God) and people were turned to salt (this happened to Lot’s wife when she turned around to see the fireworks). When God told Abraham that God was going to destroy the two cities, Abraham begged for mercy.
Abraham said, “What if I find 50 upright people?”
God said, “Okay. Then you can keep your city.”
A few days later Abraham came back and asked, “Is 45 or 40 people okay?”
Again God agrees.
Finally, after much searching and begging, Abraham begged down to 10 people.
God agrees to save Sodom and Gomorrah if Abraham can find 10 good people.
I like to think about that story when the world seemed too much for me to bear, when I heard about 16-year-olds shooting at their peers, 6-year-olds being raped by their grandfathers. When I started to wonder what difference someone like me could make. All I need to remember is that if I can find 9 more good people then we can save the world.
I dare you to stop following the crowd. Join a noble ideal. Let’s start a crusade.
3 big questions
This is the real joy in life, been used for a purpose that you decide a good purpose. Life is not a short candle. It is a beautiful short that you must keep and burn before giving to future generations. — George Bernard Shaw
In 1999, 400,000 Americans had to spend money on liposuction. In that year, 12 million people died of starvation. Perhaps instead of asking, “Where can I find a liposuction doctor?” then we should ask the following questions:
1. How can I open my heart and love others more today?
2. How can I be more honest with myself?
3. How can I see life more clearly and create more power in my life?
Soul training camp
Choose an ideal, any idea we are in the mist but some of we know look up to the stars. —Oscar Wilde
Exercise: Pick a hero, someone like Balbir Mathur or Julia Butterfly Hill and learn everything you can about their cause. Record it for later use, check it out on the Internet, go to the library.
In Canada there is a scouting organization called Beaver Scouts. Their slogan? I promise to love God and take care of the world.
What a noble gesture. What would our world be like if we could take care of our little world. If we take on the responsibility of getting to know everyone who lives in our neighborhood or apartment complex. A person who lives the life he wants will know the names of every child and every pet in the neighborhood he lives in. It doesn’t take long to make a change. Invite the single mom in your neighborhood over for a cake. Teach her children the lyrics to the songs you knew as a child. Invite them over to play cards. Tell them about your child.
Chapter 7 : Rich Imagination: Perspectives on Creation
If your heart pulls you in a direction that contains mysteries and wonders, trust and follow it. — David Wilcox
Although I like Saint Francis of Assisi very much, I must say that I prefer the crazy ones. Tree-huggers, Harleys riders, nose piercings. People with different mindsets. Despite this unusual craving, most of the time I still feel like tasteless gelatin. It’s true that I want to rebel, but I also want people to like me. So I follow the rules. Cut the grass in the yard. Watch your feet as you step to know you’re on the right track.
One day I woke up to find that my bold and creative self had given way to a lonely stranger. Instead of following the wolves, I rowed with the lemmut. My foolish ideas, my odd dreams were left to wither on the green grass of the suburbs.
I don’t know how it happened. It’s like frogs and water. You can’t throw a frog into the water while it’s boiling. It’ll jump out of the water before you can say, “Fried frog legs.” But if you boil the water gradually, the frog will not realize that it is being boiled alive.
Similarly, if some force tries to “boil” our uniqueness, we take immediate action. But if we do it gradually, we will agree to obey, giving up everything that is interesting and unique and “who we really are.” Rich fantasy is groundbreaking, jumping out of the boiling water no matter how long you’ve been boiled. It means saying, “I’m here.” Say, “I am important. I represent something. I have never been and never will be invisible.”
We all have a lot to show off. We have many thoughts in our heads, many burning dreams. But instead of expressing ourselves, we buy Hallmark cards and let others speak for us. When the people we love the most graduate from high school, to celebrate a holiday, we rely on “experts” to express our love for this once-in-a-lifetime event. Do I mean what’s in the floral card or in the blue plaid card?
When we don’t express ourselves, when we suppress our anger, fear, and joy, we separate ourselves from the life of our lives.
Rollo May once said in his famous book, The Courage to Create: “If you don’t express your original ideas, if you don’t listen to yourself, you’ve betrayed yourself.”
It doesn’t matter if your creative efforts are never published. It doesn’t matter whether you win awards or become famous. It is important that you are willing and able to express who you are and how you feel.
We all have feelings. That’s why you feel lightheaded when you see a beautiful picture or read a novel that speaks to the heart.
I believe that much of what we call depression is due to unexpressed creativity. Instead of being expressed, our creative energy, our life force, makes us explode.
Creativity has the power to transform not only individuals making art but also society as a whole. Often when we want to become “deeper” we think about things like being kinder, more understanding, praying more. But to fulfill our mission as brainchild, we must also become more creative, more open-minded.
Why don’t we appreciate creativity?
First of all, we run the risk of being alienated. Although many people idolize famous movie stars and writers who appear on Good Morning America, they do not appreciate the people who can write poetry or play the piano, close in their lives. When we are creative, we are often alone, in another world. Because people often feel threatened.
They will say, “Okay” and “Go on” when something of yours is published or you get a role in a play, but before that they will look at you unfriendly, raise their eyebrows as if you were an alien.
When you’re creative, you make yourself vulnerable, throw away caution, and hold nothing back. Phil Collins likens it to going on stage without pants. As long as you keep quiet, nod your head at the right time and follow the rules of do’s and don’ts, no one will laugh, disagree or judge you.
But when you write, speak or draw, the mask disappears. Everyone will know. And that requires courage.
You also need to be brave to face your fears and face the truth. As you surrender to your imagination, you may find that the truth is the opposite of the character you present to the world. As Faulker puts it, “The book is the secret life, the evil twin of the writer.”
You may find that you don’t want to do the things that society thinks you should do. For example, Emily Dickinson discovered that she did not want to marry and have a home like her mother thanks to literature.
And it certainly takes courage to stand up to the voices that keep telling you, “You are boring,” voices that insist, “You have no talent,” and “If you write or draw, you run the risk of falling into financial risk.” You need courage to fight them, to move forward when they constantly get in your way. You need the courage to keep going when the work doesn’t meet your expectations. Either way, you still have to keep working hard.
You will encounter many rejections, there will be times when people will say, “Sorry, I don’t want to.” We must have the courage to keep going.
Ironically, we read self-help books. We complain about our weaknesses.
However, when we have the opportunity to change, become a “bigger person” that fate decides, we shrink and hide.
Think acorns. Inside the tiny bark is the germ of the great oak tree. It can roll around all year long, lying in a squirrel’s nest or a boy’s trouser pocket. But when the conditions are right, when planted in the ground, with enough water and sunshine, it will grow into a tall oak tree.
People who live the life they want. — Berry Gordy
No mountain is too high
“You cannot tell a dream people: “be careful.” you can only say: “think a lot, love a lot and pray a lot and if it still doesn’t, look so much.”—Robert Bly
In January 1959, a 13-year-old Detroit school dropout borrowed $800 from his family’s savings to buy a house—an odd goal for his age. But this young entrepreneur has a further vision. You’re going to use that two-story house to start a record company.
That boy was of course Berry Gordy, his record company was Motown and the plan, let’s say it worked.
Between 1959 and 1972, Gordy’s Motown company released 535 singles, 75% of which entered the music charts. From a recording studio barely larger than a double bed, Gordy produced 60 chart-topping songs before moving to Hollywood and selling Motown to MCA Records for $61 million. .
I tell you this story because it demonstrates the power of embracing greater possibility. Berry Gordy can rest in peace with her fate. The black boy, who dropped out of school when he was only 8th grade, failed in his boxing career and could not play an instrument or read music.
But he has a dream. He wants to compose songs. And if no one made them, he would make them himself. Pursuing our dreams is the starting point for all of us. We have a vision. We hear the heartbeat. We wonder if “we can”… compose songs, compose poetry or become a new person. We are ready to say, “Maybe.”
But even Gordy didn’t know that when he recruited 19-year-old Smokey Robinson and his school quartet, the Matadors (later renamed the Miracles), he was creating one of the biggest musical phenomena of his time.
When we first start following our dreams, we don’t know where they will lead us. If we see the end result in advance, we get scared, stop and think, “Oh, that’s too big.” Fortunately, all we can do now is take that first step, the first foot out the door.
Another thing the Motown phenomenon shows is talent that often goes undiscovered. If Berry Gordy was satisfied with his job at the Detroit auto plant, one of many he tried before he founded Motown, he would never have given Diana Ross, Stevie Wonder, and hundreds of poor black children. another miserable escape from the slums. If Diana Ross hadn’t had a vision, she might just be a bag seller on Ninth Street; Stevie Wonder is just a blind child living on welfare. Thank God, they have the opportunity to tap into the creative spirit within them. If Gordy hadn’t turned the house at 2648 West Grand Avenue into a meeting place, songs like “Hearing on the Grapes,” “No Mountain Is Too High,” and a thousand other songs would never have been written. out.
For example, I will get a completely different education. If it weren’t for the Four Tops song “Stretch Out and I’ll Be There,” I would never have danced with Andy Gilmore at Jim Rinklemeyer’s party. I would never have known he wore Brut perfume, never knew he smelled like mothballs, a discovery that was undoubtedly due to the tweed shirt he stole from his brother’s closet, and you’ll never know what it feels like to like someone when you’re 13. Unfortunately, I don’t have the courage to talk to you again.
How many of us don’t have the courage to study the creative spirit within us? How many of us don’t dare because we don’t have a vision yet? The talents that Gordy finds in his students are also hidden in the people we meet every day. They’re hidden because no one is looking, no one is saying, “Hey, let’s see what we can do.” They are hidden behind thoughts of unworthiness, behind the “masks” we wear.
Each of us has the same creative spirit. But no, you might think Detroit is different. The list of superstars is still long – the Temps, the Tops, the Vandellas, the Supremes. But you know what? Gordy could easily open that record company and succeed in Cleveland, Chicago, Omaha or Nebraska, for example. There are Temps, Tops, Vandellas, Supremes everywhere. There are talented people everywhere
so. The only thing they don’t have is Gordy’s vision. I don’t mean to deny the great talent in Detroit at the time. What they did with the three-song recording system at Studio A could be compared to sitting in front of a bus.
But it happens only when one is ready to step up, ready to say, “I believe.”
People who live the life they want. — Brandon Sherwood
His magical art awakens the child within us
If you listen to your heart everything will be meaning. — Brandon Sherwood
Bradon Sherwood lives in his fantasy world. He entered this world, a joyful world where everyone was noble and beautiful, immersed in it and aroused it to rid a society that had lost its morale.
His resume states that he is an artist, furniture maker, woodcarver. But he knows who he is. A missionary is distributing love, happiness, and possibility. His real job is to introduce people to the world of fantasy, the world we used to know and delight in immersing ourselves in during childhood. To him, that world is like the painful, heartless illusion we all believe in when we grow up, get jobs, and become complacent.
“Imagination sets you free” is his tagline and the whimsical works he carefully carve out of pine are truly the work of his soul, small pieces of a magical forest telling us. “Here anything is possible.”
Every time someone buys cabinets, beds, antiques, mirror frames or other outlandish sculptures, they’re buying a piece in Sherwood’s woods, a seed of harmony he hopes they’ll nurture.
His clients, which range from Dan Fogelberg to John Denver, couldn’t be happier. A former CIA agent recently sold his Colorado home with its furniture but refused to sell the P. J. Trickster rabbit he bought from Brandon.
A philosopher and artist, Sherwood engraves the universal message of freedom and imagination into each of his works. For example, a grandma’s watch engraved with gnomes, bears, and dragons might include the message: “Time is precious, don’t waste it.” One day, he hopes to write a children’s book with the characters from Sherwood’s Forest.
Although he sells his work at festivals, art fairs and galleries across the country, he says, “I tell people, “You don’t have to buy it. How does that make you feel?”
“People need to listen to their hearts” he said. Find out their purpose. Part of living is adventure. So a lot of people are just living and existing.” His mission is nothing but rekindling the fire within. He hopes to be able to connect people with their childhood passions.
As for me, I hope I never grow up. At the age of 39, he loves taking care of his family, children and his wife, Dee, is also an artist who works with him, he is also a responsible man but he is still a child by nature, a child with a burning passion.
“People say to me, ‘I’d love to do art, too, but it’s not very realistic,’ to me, it’s not realistic that spending eight hours a day working that you’re not passionate about, makes the soul,” Sherwood says. you are withered and exhausted.”
The artist from Salina, Kansas, grew up in a family of three boys. His father, a builder and woodcarver, introduced him to wood when he was a child, and since he was a child he has enjoyed crafts.
When his father restored an old 1950s English restaurant in McPhearson, Kansas, he asked Brandon if he would like to try carving table legs. Brandon said, “Yes,” and since then, sculpting has become his passion.
The determined artist, who makes a living showing art at art exhibitions and receiving commissions, says: “I have never had to compromise or make sacrifices.”
Jay Nelson, owner of a gallery that sells his work, says: “Brandon is really interesting. He has the fervor of a revolutionary, the ideals of a monk and the energy of a 12-year-old.”
Brandon said: “I support the journey into the fantasy world. Step into that world and you will find euphoria. You will fly up.”
People who live the life they want. — Jan D’Esopo
She crosses the ocean to pursue her passion
Some people born in the rich family. I was born with an old tree in my hand. — Jan D’Esopo
Jan D’Esopo was a single mother when she packed and moved her children from Hartford, Connecticut to San Juan, Puerto Rico. She didn’t know a word of Spanish, but she knew the light and energy of Old San Juan was the perfect choice for her artist dreams.
“I didn’t think about being scared at the time,” she said. Part of being an artist is being brave and that means creating the life you want for yourself.”
Within 12 hours of landing in San Juan, D’Esopo found a 200-year-old old Spanish house with affordable rent. It was true that the house was very old and in poor condition, but D’Esopo saw potential in it. Once the residence of an artillery captain, the house was very large, with many private balconies, ocean views and most importantly, all the little nooks and crannies where she could paint.
She paid to hire some local kids to clean up the trash and within a few months she and her son and daughter had a wonderful place to stay. With her two children, it will take her two years to restore this place.
But today, after 40 years, the old Spanish house has become a popular holiday home, her children are married, and the artist with a passion that never goes away, who could have rested, continues to create.
In fact, her Galeria motel just north of Old San Juan is where her individuality comes from. Known in San Juan simply as Jan D’Esopo’s home, the house with its quirky architecture, secret gardens, winding stairs and uneven floors is home to artworks from the past. D’Esopo’s past four decades. She laughs: “My son and daughter are very artistic, but my stuff is already hanging on the wall and lying on the floor so they have no room to show it off.”
With four art studios, the lodge is home to artists. Original paintings, silk screens, terracotta relics and busts of Abe Lincoln and semi-nude statues of volleyball players are used to decorate guest rooms, wine decks and stairs.
“I used to paint in every corner of the house,” says D’Esopo. I think guests don’t like clutter. But in the end everyone came here and I decided to take over the whole house. Creativity belongs to the right hemisphere. Talking uses the left hemisphere of the brain, so I thought about using both hemispheres at the same time.
And in doing so, she inspired others, made them braver, ready to pursue their artistic ambitions. As she puts it, “the decision to create the life we want is entirely up to each of us.”
And according to her, anyone can. They just need to believe. “Most of my guests are painters or antique collectors,” she says.
She also receives a lot of letters from past guests thanking her for giving them inspiration. “They wrote letters and said that their visit was a turning point for their creativity,” she said.
D’Esopo won her first drawing award at the age of 9, she took her artistic talent and used it to make her life more useful. She makes every little corner of life beautiful. If it weren’t for her, the busy historic neighborhood of Old San Juan today would never have been renovated. When she arrived in 1961, much of the area was in disarray. She convinced the doubtful Thomas that Old San Juan deserved a renovation. She painted the brilliant colors , and doing so has led to numerous discussions with skeptical building owners.
Today she mainly does other sculptures. “I have always loved sculpture, but it was only after a major exhibition of my paintings at the Bronx Museum of Art in 1985 that I devoted myself to sculpture. Perhaps when raising children, I think leaving an easel and painting around is better than a giant sculpture studio. At least the paint is ‘friendly’ to the kids.”
At one point, she offered portrait packages of lodgers that five-day guests were willing to sit as bust models. Today, she is too busy with community activities. She recently placed a nearly three-meter-tall bronze statue of Barbosa in front of San Juan Medical Center. She also participated in the construction of the Columbus Fountain in downtown San Juan.
What about the color pictures she drew when she first pursued her dream in Puerto Rico? They are in private collections worldwide.
Not so bad for a single mom with big dreams.
People who live the life they want. —Wyland
Paint the world’s oceans
You can’t rest while you’re busy. —Wyland
It’s wonderful that the book Live Life As You Want it to mention the artist who appeared in the Guinness Book of World Records as the person who painted the world’s largest mural. That’s Wyland, the 390-meter ocean mural in front of the Long Beach Convention Center, and his story is apt to demonstrate what a man with big dreams can accomplish.
Wyland was born 45 years ago with a limp in one leg. At the age of 7, he had to undergo 11 major surgeries. It was this that caused his already very difficult family to move 13 times in a year. For many years, he was in a cast and could not enter the water, which was difficult for the boy who adored Jacques Cousteau’s Underwater World.
While the boy’s brothers were out playing volleyball, Wyland stayed at home to learn to draw. He seemed to have a gift, and his mother and art teachers at school encouraged him to make use of it. Before that, he used to swirl some house paint, hide under the bed and paint murals behind the headboard. At the age of 16, he received his first public mural contract, an Alpine landscape at Dairy Queen in suburban Detroit.
In 1971, his artistic vision became clear when his family visited a relative in Laguna Beach, California. After asking his aunt to drive him to the beach, he stared into the sea and suddenly in a moment he will never forget, two California gray whales appeared on the water.
“At that point, everything changed for me”, says Wyland.
“Immediately I knew what I wanted to do with my life. I knew I had to do everything I had to do to make it happen.”
It took a lot of effort at first. After all, Wyland was just a 23-year-old boy when he met with city officials in Luguna Beach with a proposal to paint a life-size mural of mother and baby whales on a 43×8 wide wall. m by the sea. It took two years of legal wrangling and bureaucracy, but because the mural idea received such a positive response, he set a goal to paint 100 public murals within 30 days in the next year.
So far, he has completed 86 paintings. One of the majestic life-size murals is “The Whale Wall” and he devoted all his time and energy to it, no small dedication, as each wall required at least 3,785 liters of paint.
His aim is to call attention to the beauty and importance of the world’s oceans. “I drew not only whales, but also their wonderful spirit,” says Wyland. I think if people can see the beauty of nature then they will help protect nature.”
The six million square feet of public art he’s created so far appear everywhere, from the old warehouse, the 16-story building to the National Zoo in Washington, D.C., the National Maritime Museum of New York. Zealand and a wall in Portland that he completed in just over 3 days.
Wyland said: “I will keep looking for great walls.”
He hopes that the 100th wall will be the Great Dealer in China with its width able to break his current world record. Wyland, a big thinker, big talker, and big personality, says, “Big things fascinate me. Maybe because I like to focus on the big picture.”
His artwork reaches far beyond the whale walls. With over 200,000 collectors in 70 countries, this maritime artist Michelangelo is the most recognized oceanic artist on the planet. He has written five books and is currently collaborating with the Scripps Institute of Oceanography to create an art and science curriculum called Clean Water: The Twenty-First Century, which will reach 67 million children at school age.
“I absolutely believe that one person can make a difference,” says Wyland.
What do you think?
My friend Greg Tamblyn, a talented musician, wrote a funny song that is also the title of his first CD. The song is called: “Shoot-Out at the I’m OK, You’re OK Corral.” It starts like this:
I can see it’s not just an argument between two lovers
When she told me to force her and blame my mother
I shouted, “I’m not the only one.”
And so the quarrel began.”
The song is quite funny because he and his girlfriend start insulting each other with sentences taken from the latest self-help books. She said, “I have Peter Pan syndrome. You will never grow up.” And he replied, “Look who’s talking, the woman loves so much.”
The song continues as follows:
I know she will argue with me to the end
When she mentioned Dear Abby and quoted Dr. Ruth.
Although the song is quite humorous, it also touches on something quite sensitive. We don’t look into our hearts. We are busy quoting
Dr. Ruth or Marianne Williamson or any of those famous new writers that we forget to quote our own words.
What do we think? Most of us don’t know. We look for answers from the outside. We look at others without seeing ourselves.
Unfortunately. Life is being wasted. We are not happy. We don’t create the beautiful things we could have done. We do not live, we do not celebrate. Instead, we follow rules set forth by some writer we’ve never met. I don’t care how smart the author of the next bestseller is. They don’t know the secrets of your life.
Only one person knows. What do you like? What is important to you? Do you know?
Your first priority should be to get to know yourself. Only then can you sing your song. You have to find within yourself a new individual, someone who is different from the others. Find yourself. Find your good stuff. Then you will be liberated.
Just like an acorn waiting to grow into a tree, the creative life force is within you, waiting to grow into a great person. That’s right, you can wait. Put it in the squirrel nest. Tuck into the bag. But eventually it will find the right conditions. It will grow. Next time an idea whispers in your ear, take the time to listen. Say: “Yes, I am willing to try.”
3 big questions
If you know, you can dance. If you know, you can be hot. — Zimbabwean proverb
In the past five years, the number of cosmetic surgeries in the US has doubled. Perhaps instead of a good plastic surgeon, we should ask ourselves:
1. How can I develop my passion, intuition, and vision?
2. How can I bring miracles to life?
3. When I was 8 years old, what did I want most?
Soul training camp
Put creativity on your to-do list
My little light. I will make it shine. — Christianity
Exercise: Do something every day for the next 7 days. It could be a poem (a haiku with only 17 syllables), a paper hat or a pot of soup. Maybe you want to compose music for a product you use. Or draw a new hat for the Hat Cat. But no matter what, you must exercise your creativity every day for the next 7 days. Jay Leno says it’s like weight training. And just as your biceps get bigger with each lift, your creativity and imagination get better as they are exercised.
You don’t have to spend hours, but do something every day. You can’t think of a day without brushing your teeth or showering. Isn’t it less important to follow your dreams?
The SAT tests whether you are smart enough to get into college, the LSAT tests whether you can get into law school, and the MCAT tests whether you can get into medical school.
But this is the best known quiz to test human creativity which is completely free.
Go get your pencil
Chapter 8 : Participating fully: Perspectives on happiness
I want to run, I want to capture the greatest time in human history to live, to use all my senses, to see, to touch, to listen, to smell, to taste and to hope that others will run with me, chase ideas and be chased by ideas. — Ray Bradbury
One of the most basic things a person can do is see life as a fun time. To make the decision to become happy. But make no mistake. Living the joyful life is a revolutionary act. It requires vigilance. Although no one, except perhaps comedian Niles Cranes, will tick the box “No” after reading the answer: “Do you want to be happy?” but only a few of us believe we have a choice. We think it’s fate, it’s fate. Do we have charming parents? Does our spouse choose romantic birthday gifts? Does our job pay overtime?
But those are not important. Whether you are happy or not is entirely up to you, never mention the word fate here.
Maybe I should repeat: You have the choice to live happily. You have the power to choose how to infuse your happiness model into all your thoughts, feelings, and actions.
The problem is that the pattern that has existed for the last 5,000 years has been essentially: “Life is suffering and then you die.” We are trained from a very young age to wear gray glasses and see the world through the lens of failure and pain. We get extra points when we find more problems.
Focusing on the good things in life and assuming the best outcome will sound as dangerous as “not facing reality.” People are biased towards optimism and happiness.
Pioneer Leo Buscaglia, who teaches a college class and wrote the best-selling book on love, says people accuse him of being too naive” when he enthusiastically declared that the world was beautiful.
“They’ll think I’m crazy when I say ‘Hello’ and ‘Have a nice day’ to people,” he said. On the day my flight was cancelled, I said to the passengers: ‘Great, let’s stay together. We’re going to have a big party.’ They ran away from me like I had the plague. They are too busy being angry to have a good time.”
Naturally, the media considers it their duty to deliver touching headlines. Reporters are rewarded for finding disaster, deepening suffering and telling us about ugliness.
Even therapists, who are supposed to brighten up our lives, encourage us to dig up the past. They pat us on the back for realizing where we are stuck, for noticing our suffering. If we want to live our lives the way we want to, we simply have to stop focusing on what’s wrong. Especially when there is so much beauty and love in the world.
Is one person who blew up a building more real or believable than hundreds of people who spent 24 hours digging through the rubble? Are the “needs to improve” marks on your job evaluation more accurate than the “doing well” areas of your work? Why do we insist on looking at the negatives?
We are so used to living in the “Life is suffering” model that we never thought there could be another reality, a happy reality. We live in a context of pain, loneliness and fear. We are so immersed in our suffering that the concept of life as a joyful adventure seems unnatural or impossible.
Of course we can believe that happy events will happen. In fact, we expect things like holidays, birthdays, and holidays. But to always believe that happiness is possible is quite a requirement for most of us.
But remember that’s what we’re trying to do here. Require. Become greater.
In fact, the “Life is full of suffering” model is just a bad habit, a rut we’ve been following since our parents first asked us to “act our age.” Seeking suffering is just an irresponsible way of looking at the world.
I don’t mean that negative events won’t happen. Life is full of challenges. That is what makes it so rich. But we always have the choice whether to look at our situation from a possible perspective or with an “Oh, so what.”
Consider Victor Frankl, an Austrian psychiatrist. He was thrown into a Jewish prison camp at the best time of his life. His parents, brother and beloved wife were all killed at the hands of the Nazis. Except for his sister, he lost all relatives. In addition, he suffered near-daily torture and countless humiliations, not knowing whether today or tomorrow he would be sent to the furnaces or spared his life so he could shovel his ashes. who just got into the furnace.
One day, while naked and alone in his filthy room, he suddenly thought: No matter what the Nazis did to him, they couldn’t take away his human freedom. This is a direct quote from his book, Man’s Search for Meaning: “Everything can be taken away from man but one thing: the ability to choose an attitude in any situation, to choose my way of life.” You have the right to choose!
Mozart is a surprising example of someone who Participated in spite of the circumstances. For most of his life, he was penniless, unemployed, and sick. His young children starved to death. However, despite these problems, he still chose to live a happy life, continuing to compose beautiful melodies. During his seven years in captivity in North Vietnam, Captain Gerald Coffee, who wrote a book called More than Surviving, maintained his stance on Dare to Show. Instead of focusing on what he doesn’t have (and he really doesn’t), he takes responsibility for his own pleasure, even creating his own entertainment. He sang every song he knew, bringing back the memories associated with each song. He practiced as a naturalist by studying rats, cockroaches, ants, and flies.
Dare to express ourselves is an attitude that we can develop. By living with gratitude, approaching life with a sense of adventure, we can discover and cultivate a sense of well-being about being alive. It all depends on where you shine your light.
Please say yes
People like to count their troubles but don’t count their joys. — Fyodor Dostoyevsky
Before entering a TB patient’s room, visitors must cover their entire body. They are required to wear surgical gloves and masks.
None of us object to this seemingly overly careful behavior.
Either way, we don’t want to get sick with TB. It is a very contagious disease. Why don’t we take extra care to avoid getting infected?
Yes, we never protect ourselves from the bad news we see on television, but the horrible article we read in the press. I would be surprised if what you see on the evening news is what you encounter in your own neighborhood. The news presented by the media badly distorts reality.
And unfortunately the picture of “Ugly America” is as contagious and harmful as the TB germ. Poet and writer Cloud Angelou has called this negative poison. She is very vigilant in protecting herself from negative conversations. If someone said something negative about her house, she would ask that person to leave. If she hears a “malicious comment” out of the world, she will “get out of there,” and she doesn’t feel the slightest bit of guilt.
“If you allow it (negativity) to enter your home, your mind and your life, it will control you,” she says. So when rude or cruel words are uttered, I will say, “Get out of my house now.” Negative words climb the walls, cling to the furniture in the house and soon they will appear on my skin.”
She liked what Paul said in his letter to the Corinthians. They wrote to him to complain about older men pursuing young women, about church members refusing to pay offerings. He wrote back and said: “If there is nothing good to report, talk about it.
One of my favorite stories is about a guy who went to his therapist to complain about his wife.
He said, “Doctor, I don’t care what to do. I want my rotten wife to suffer. I will leave her within six months but before that I will do everything I can to make her suffer. What should I do?”
The therapist said, “Oh so easy, every night for the next six months tell her she’s beautiful. Praise her talent. Tell her how much you love her. When he left her after six months, she was devastated. It will make it difficult for her to continue living.”
Six months later, the therapist reunited with a former client at a party.
The doctor tapped him lightly on the shoulder: “Hey buddy, nice to meet you. Did you get rid of that rotten wife yet?”
The customer was offended and said, “Sorry. My wife is very beautiful. She is the most amazing and talented woman in the world. You must be mistaken for someone else.”
Your thinking is amazing. There is no thought that goes unnoticed by the universe. No matter what you think or feel, the great cosmic energy stands up and says, “I support.”
Why shine your lights in dark corners? Why focus on the negative?
Of course bad things happen, but there are good things too.
The Course on Miracles says that there is no such thing as idle thinking. Our thoughts about ourselves, the world, and our relationships make up our reality. In a landmark physics experiment, researchers hypothesized that curved light waves found curved light waves. And what about researchers who think light waves are straight like Billy Graham’s? Can you guess? Billy Graham straight light waves have been found.
So if you really want to know what you think, look around your world. Who needs a psychic or a psychologist to dredge up the unburied subconscious? Everything is fine. If you have unusual relationships, always have financial difficulties or a world full of scornful salespeople, that’s what you take the time to think about. Actually, think comes first.
Change your mindset and focus and you will literally be able to change your world. A friend of mine who lamented her dating history decided to implement what she calls “my wacky thinking principle.” She started thinking about how the phone would ring. She spends 15 minutes a day thinking about male voices saying, “Hello” or “What are you doing this Friday night?” Within a week of testing. Suddenly both her ex-husband and her ex-boyfriend called her. By the second week, when she started receiving pornographic phone calls, she felt she had gone a little too far, but she was convinced. Thoughts create our reality.
It sounds unbelievable at first. I mean how can I think of a passionate relationship when my husband spends all his time watching football, drinking beer and playing golf? Refuse to think about anger because you will only feel more angry. Think about the good times you had in the past. Or fantasize about the wonderful things you will have in the future.
Norman Vincent Peale once told the story of a woman whose husband wanted a divorce.
Needless to say, the woman feels a little uncomfortable about the realities of her life – especially when her beloved husband doesn’t come home from work anymore. But instead of believing in “negativity”, she decided to try a small experiment. Every night, she would sit next to her husband’s chair in front of the fireplace, imagining her husband was there telling her stories about work, about childhood – like when the two were still “in love”. At dinner, she still sets the plate for her husband (even though her husband is not there) and continues to think positive, loving thoughts.
And when she finally looked up, her husband was there. Her beloved husband has returned and loves her as much as before. The phrase humm ba la shaki – you know, the phrase magicians use to pull a rabbit out of a hat – is actually an Aramaic phrase that when translated means: “I will created while speaking.”
From now on, remember that everything you say and think works miracles. Choose to think about great things, beautiful, noble and true things
People who live the life they want. —Patch Adams
Smile to get well
Wearing a red rubber clown nose everywhere has changed my life. — Patch Adams
One of my mentors was Patch Adams, whose life was made into a film starring Robin Williams in 1998. Patch not only turned the medical profession upside down, but at the Gesundheit Institute, his innovative medical center in West Virginia, he took the most expensive service in the US, medical care, and provided it for free.
Patch calls himself a student of the school of life, a happy life. He spent most of his adult life developing a philosophy of happiness, its importance, and how to create happiness.
But it wasn’t like that before. In fact, after just two weeks in a mental hospital, he found his calling.
He was born into a military family, moving to a new school every few years, a new country. At the age of 16, his father died suddenly, leaving him in a state of complete depression. His mother moved the family back to suburban Virginia, where he relied on his uncle, a lawyer and independent thinker in a society full of religious believers.
At school, he turned grief into rage, writing scathing commentary on isolation, war, and religious hypocrisy. He also wrote many silly long poems. He joined jazz clubs, went to cafes and played beer.
Towards the end of his senior year at school, Patch developed an ulcer. The illness wasn’t too severe, but the next year, when he was in his freshman year of college, the uncle he considered his father committed suicide and Patch’s girlfriend left him. He dropped out of school and became obsessed with suicide.
Every day, he went to the cliff near the school and wrote a powerful poem to his girlfriend who had broken up. He composed many touching lyrical poems, find the most flattering words to convince his girlfriend to realize her mistake and come back to him.
“I would have jumped off the cliff when I finished my poem,” Patch said, “thankfully I was too wordy.”
Finally, after unsuccessfully persuading his girlfriend Donna, he trudged nearly 10km in the snow to his mother’s door.
He told his mother, “I am trying to commit suicide. I need to go to a mental hospital.”
Two weeks in a locked cell in Fairfax, Virginia was a turning point in his life. But according to him, the people helping him are not the doctors but friends and family and most importantly Rudy, his roommate.
Rudy is an incurable case. He had three wives, 15 jobs, and he told Patch long stories about his infinite loneliness. For the first time in his life Patch felt empathy for others.
In fact, Patch realized what he called “a great personal truth.”
“Happiness is a deliberate decision,” he said. I have to open myself up to love.”
He devoted himself to learning everything he could about love, happiness, friendship, and developing a life full of joy. He read many great literary works. He devoured every work he could find by Nikos Kazantzakis, Jean-Paul Sartre, Plato, Nietzsche, Walt Whitman, Emily Dickinson, and many other great writers.
But according to him, his best reference books are from contact with people around. He searches for happy families and learns how they foster joy and happiness. He tries to be friendly by creating to-do tasks for himself – like calling 50 numbers in his phone book, see how long he can keep them talking on the phone. He took the elevator to see how many floors it took before he got the people in the elevator to introduce each other and sing. Once he went into a bar and refused to leave until he heard the story from the doorman.
Not long after leaving the hospital, he decided to pursue a career in medicine. Because he was in a mental hospital, the admissions officers treatment delayed his admission for nine months so that he could “completely control his emotions.”
In the meantime, he decided to apply his newfound happiness theories. He found a job in the mailroom at the Maritime Federal Trust, a less-than-optimistic workspace. Can you turn your clerical work into a memorable experience?
He and his friend, Louis Fulwiler, decided to turn boring, boring work into an event. They drive to work with kid’s pilot helmets and noise generators. When people asked for the files, they sang in a Gregorian voice: “Which file-oh?”
“Nurtured by love and fun,” he said. I am like a flower in full bloom. I defeated all the demons inside of me and became the person I am today. My confidence, my love of wisdom, and my desire to change the world stemmed from the brief period of time, from late 1963 until the fall of 1964, when I was lifted out of despair and reborn.”
People who live the life they want. — Hobart Brown
Pursue your happiness
One of the things I learned. Never limit yourself, in the race as in life. You may not win any team or any race but every event brills glory. — Hobart Brown
Hobart Brown, a metal sculptor, was nominated for the 1998 Nobel Peace Prize. Why? He turned his profession into happiness. And as he put it, by “following my heart, doing the things that seemed the most enjoyable at the time, and not doing the unpleasant things, I think I lived a rewarding life.” Right. Not only has this quirky artist put Ferndale, California, his hometown for 39 years, on the map, but his invention and race of dynamic sculpture have inspired millions to stop taking life for granted too serious, as Hobart puts it: “It seems to solve the problem of how to have fun as an adult.”
When Hobart moved to Ferndale in 1962, this small community of 2,500 residents was almost a ghost town. Victorian homes are very cheap and city chiefs are considering demolishing them and replacing them with more modern structures. There are major disagreements between the farmers who have lived there since the late 18th century and the artists who are turning cheap Victorian architecture into vibrant studios. At that time a bar had a sign that read, “Hippie hair, $5.” Hobart’s passionate brain eventually turned the Arcata World Championship into the Ferndale Dynamic Sculpture Race, bringing a quarter of a million people to the town every Memorial Day weekend, providing over two million dollars. -la for the economy and really reconciled the disagreement between farmers and artists.
Furthermore, the dynamic sculpting race has spread to 11 states, Poland and Austria, bringing laughter and joy to both the sculptor and the cheering audience.
In short, moving sculptures are works of art that can be moved. The works are diverse in shape, from giant bananas, a 20-ton dinosaur, a flying wheelchair to a 23-meter-long iguana that people can pull and push. They are made from broken bicycle parts, discarded lawn mower gears, sewage tanks, old bathtubs, lawn trimmers and just about anything the inventor can come up with. Each machine is a testament not only to childish imagination and technical intelligence, but also to artistic ingenuity, friendship and even madness.
The race, a quirky endurance contest on roads, sands, lawns, the River Eel and Humboldt Bay, began near Arcata at the noon whistle and finished 61 kilometers on Ferndale’s Main Street.
Contestants climb on dunes, wade in swamps and with luck they can travel at a speed of 19km a day. “It’s the perfect human test,” says Hobart. To do something you don’t think is possible. After all, our joy is based on problems. They give us goals. So I designed a race filled with problems. In short, I designed a disaster. But I know inside every racer is the desire to live and conquer that disaster.
Humboldt artists work for months on their moving sculptures. They spent up to $12,000 and spent about 560 hours. June Moxon is famous for using her 2m snakeskin pump to get to work at the Redwood Bootery.
Naturally you would call someone like her a fanatic. Moxon, her boyfriend Ken Beidleman, and their Border Collie dog Scratch spent two and a half years carrying their animated sculpture around the country. Leaving Ferndale with $200 in their pocket (along with a $5,000 donation), the couple traveled 6,456km in the 11m-long and two-ton dynamic sculpture. Although their original destination was Kitty Hawk, North Carolina, they had a double schedule in Alabama after Ken broke his ankle.
Despite the trauma and the fact that they have to sleep in a 3m wide trailer behind the sculpture, travel more than 2.8 km in hills and depend on the goodwill of the locals, they both insist. memorable trip of a lifetime.
Surely they will end up in the Museum of Dynamic Sculpture, Ferndale’s “Celebration Building” with about 30 retired machines. Other award-winning specimens can be seen in front gardens, garages or even in the living rooms of locals.
Duane Flatmo, an avid competitor, says: “Remember the game of Mouse Trap we played when we were kids? It was a childhood fantasy turned into reality.”
Hobart has always lived in his childhood fantasy. At the age of 25, he began to study metal sculpture.
“I decided to either starve or become an artist,” he said.
He was almost starving to death or at least he was about to lose his car when he approached an art collector in Ferndale and offered to sell the metal sculpture he had welded the night before.
“The next day the collector came,” he said. The random sale that not only saved Hobart’s car but also led to a friendship led Hobart to purchase a sculpture studio, Hobart Galleries, on Ferndale Main Street.
Hobart’s scandalous race was shown on Good Morning America, CNN, and Discovery. The race started in 1969. One day, Hobart decided to decorate his son’s tricycle.
Before long, the bright red car had a seat for Hobart and a seat for his son and was nearly two meters tall. With five wheels (Hobart added two more so it wouldn’t topple over), it got the name “five-wheeler” and rocked the town.
Jack Mays, neighbor and sculptor, jokes: “I could do more than that.”
“Play always.” Hobart challenged him to a race on Main Street.
On Mother’s Day in 1969, Hobart and Mays held their three-building friendly race in front of hundreds of people. Unfortunately, both cars broke down before reaching the finish line. Instead, another competitor finished in the shape of a giant tortoise laying eggs, releasing smoke and making an obnoxious mating sound. Since then the race has been held once a year.
Like Hobart, the prize is also crazy. The Golden Dinosaur Award (first machine that broke after the starting line) received a wall-mounted plastic Godzila. The Golden Flipper Award (best machine to reach Humboldt Bay) received a yellow painted flipper. The grand final prize (this is the highest combined score of speed, engineering and art) was a check for $14.5. The most coveted award is the Mediocre Award (for a dead center moving sculpture), which is usually a 1972 Vega hatchback (with new windshield wipers) or a bus pass round trip to Lawton, Oklahoma, birthplace of Hobart Brown.
The rules in the contest are also a reminder that life is for fun. Rule 1.0, for example, states that “assistance from water, sun, wind, gravity and friendly aliens is allowed if presented to the jury first.”
Regulation 9.01, also known as the mother’s rule, states that if a candidate is pregnant and about to give birth, a reasonable period of time off (about an hour) will be granted without penalty. However, the contestant must return with a photo of the newborn baby to use for advertising purposes. And Regulation 10.0 of the sculptural race can be summed up about the race and why Hobart was nominated for the Nobel Peace Prize:
“All sculptors, pilots, crew, spectators, law enforcement officers and even innocent passersby must all strive to have fun because their madness keeps us in good spirits strong.”
Hobart, who just turned 67, said: “So I have to ask myself: ‘Have I wasted my life and time having fun?’ Now I can say that I really don’t think so. ”
Hobart, I don’t think so either.
I don’t care what the reason is, you are the only one who can decide whether your glass is half full or half empty. Childish, intoxicating pleasures are not something you need to give up when you grow up. One of the best ways to help your fellow citizens is to find ways to enjoy yourself and make others understand that enjoying yourself is a good thing.
Make a promise today to approach your life vividly. Decide that you will only look for the good and focus on the beautiful.
When you decide to take the happiness perspective, boredom turns into exploration. Canceled flights turn into parties. Queuing becomes a good opportunity to meet new people. Vacuuming the floor will be a ballet performance. And of course a rainy day will be the reason to organize an indoor picnic with five cheeses.
Implement this revolutionary change of opinion now. Your joy of living will be contagious. You’ll probably be on the news at six o’clock.
3 big questions
If you haven’t made some people angry, raised some eyebrows, you haven’t lived great enough. — Erin Brockovich
Last year we spent 40 billion on weight loss products, 98% of which didn’t work at all. With $40 billion, we can provide one million dollars a day for a cause for good over the next 85 years. Perhaps instead of looking for the next weight loss regimen, we should ask the question:
1. What makes me want to dance on the table?
2. I have a headache because of what?
3. How can I make my day surprise, fun and crazy?
Soul training camp
What are the best and worst things in your life and when will you deal with whispering or screaming them. — Ray Bradbury
Exercise: Each day for the next seven days learn and sing a song. Once you’ve sung well, find someone (maybe your family?) to sing with you.
At this point in your adult life, maybe you’d rather cut your hand in the bathtub than sing in front of a crowd. Maybe in the shower, but to you, musical ability is like the legendary turtle: it left you in the sand of the mallow years ago. Furthermore, what does singing have to do with it?
That’s what people who lived before the 90s of the 16th century thought about reading and writing. Back then, the idea that everyone should be able to read and write was absurd. That’s something only the elite do.
Singing, especially with other people, has nothing to do with asserting your power and making use of who you are. Singing simply expands who you are. David Darling, former cellist in the group
Musical Paul Winter Consort says: “Music is simply the creation of happy tunes that celebrate movement and dance. It’s part of a life that honors ritual.”
We cut our favorite part of singing just like many other parts. Our well-meaning teachers say our mid C is out of tune and our tone doesn’t match the quartet. Again, we cut out that part.
Singing is a way of regaining our senses. It’s a way to connect with the parts we’ve lost. Music speaks to all hearts and enriches our lives. In a way, it is the universal language.
When we sing together, we bind our broken souls together. If every family starts their day with singing, that family will contribute the most to society.
Item – Re – Mi
Music is a great remedy for all ills in society, perhaps even better than St. John’s Wort. Here are just a few examples of songs you might want to add to your repertoire:
“I like to laugh.” Remember when Mary Poppins brought two young sheep to tea with Ed Wynn?
“The world is wonderful.” How can you not laugh when you hear Louie Armstrong’s deep bass singing this song?
“Boom, Boom, crazy isn’t that great.” It reminds us that being stupid is also something to strive for.
“76 Trombones.” You can’t help but march while singing this song.
“The magic dragon.” You can’t go to kindergarten without knowing this lesson.
“Rubber tree.” Songs about hoping and pursuing them.
Speak out for kindness
Chapter 9: Loving Much: Perspectives on the Soul
Deceiving yourself to not love is the worst kind of deception. It is a permanent loss that cannot be shared, no matter how long it takes. — Søren Kierkegaard
Therapists say that until we really get rid of the dark, dark places in our subconscious, we won’t be able to be satisfied with ourselves. They say a person who is truly satisfied with himself must find out all the hidden secrets that make him or she feel unworthy, must find out all the past atrocities committed by his parents.
But what I want to know is, when we go down there searching with flashlights, why don’t we search our own souls?
We spend 20 years unearthing the darkness when right under the next rock lies a world of wonder and brilliance. Yes, I am talking about our spirituality, the transcendent force that lies at the heart of who we are. The light that lies under the next rock is the most powerful force in the universe. It’s Spider-Man, Superman and bodyguard Jesse Ventura gathered into one.
Love is the power of the universe, the condition that allows us to dream of bigger playing fields. Is the voice that constantly whispers, “You can do more.”
Most of us tend to ignore that voice. Instead we listen to the voice whispering, “That’s all.” We are so busy with trivial things that we forget the important things.
As long as we remain materialistic, believing that it is important to look good and not be nice, we will only be able to live small lives. When we leave love standing outside the cold and telling ourselves that facelifts, Land Cruisers and titles career is our life purpose then we have missed the whole point.
We are souls with no other purpose of existence but to carry the love of making the world complete. That’s all we have to do. And we can do it.
The main problem is that we assume that love only exists on Valentine’s cards. Or in romantic movies. That’s right, it’s the right dialogue for a couple. But not for the government and the people. Appropriate love in the bedroom. But, for God’s sake, leave it outside the boardroom.
Leo Buscaglia, who teaches a love class at the University of Southern California, says he and his students look through a lot of books on psychology, sociology and anthropology and find it hard to believe they find only one reference. The only reference to love. Yet it is still something we all need, crave and spend hours looking for.
Dr. Griffith Banning, in a survey of 800 Canadian children, found that the absence of love in children’s lives causes more harm than illness and other goodwill combined.
In a similar study, an American psychologist studied two groups of twelve orphans. The first group was in an orphanage and received little love. The second group was taken daily to a center where they were cared for and loved by a retarded teenage girl. After two years of studying both groups, the psychologist found that all the children in group 1, if not dead, either go to a center for the mentally retarded or retarded. Children in the other group, who receive love every day, know how to exercise on their own, graduate from high school and have happy marriages.
Don’t you think something as important as this should be in our core curriculum? Don’t you think something as big as this should be highlighted every day in schools, businesses, and the US Congress?
When will we invite love back from exile?
People talk about the real world as if it makes more sense than the spiritual world. But dare I say that most of our problems come from underestimating the practical importance, the great power of love.
One day I went to a party for pregnant women. Everyone was in awe of the cute little boots and polka dot diapers. Here a mother-to-be is about to set foot in the biggest new frontier of her life and all we can do is treat her with “materials.” There’s nothing wrong with material things but why don’t we throw a party for expectant mothers where we share the “secrets of love”, the profound mysteries we learn about falling in love. love children? The same should be done with the party for the soon-to-be-married. Sure, the newlyweds will need a waffle maker or a double plate, but don’t they need our warm and compassionate reminder of what love really means? That love is something you nurture by thinking and acting.
Love is a big piece of cheese. That is who we really are. That is why we are here. And if we want to heal the world, we must improve our 9th Love Potion. We must realize that love is the solution to every problem we face, both the problems in our own lives and the problems that exist on a global scale.
And if you think love is a meaningless exercise, check this out: The Mathematical Heart Institute has done many studies proving that just five minutes of thinking about loving thoughts can increase IGA levels, a type of antibodies help boost the immune system, for up to six hours.
Finding love is a lifestyle choice. Of course you can keep filling your mind with nonsense agents of a busy world with nonsense. But you can also decide to uncover the bottomless mystery of your soul. You can tap into a hidden urge that can work wonders and repair defects.
Above all, that is the only thing that matters.
People who live the life they want. — Kenny Loggins
Finding love in the right place
We all want to find love. Everything else is just killing time. — Kenny Loggins
Kenny and Julia Loggins wrote a book about Big Love. The book The Unthinkable Life comes with a music CD and chronicles the first seven years of their ongoing love story. Together, they are defying many of the myths we believe about love. That love doesn’t last. That love will become boring. By committing themselves to what they call a “conscious relationship,” they are rewriting the “rules” of marriage. They are proving that Big Love is not only possible, but can also be a path to healing.
They met while married to someone else. Kenny was married to Eva at the time and Julia was married to an older man who helped her overcome many childhood health problems. For six years, they were just friends. He came to her for nutrition and colon treatment and liked how she honestly dealt with some of the problems he was having. He’s completely open with Julia, revealing his true nature – even the scary parts – because they don’t get a chance to make love. Sometimes they feel attracted to each other, but as Julia reminds Kenny, “Man, there’s going to be too many people in bed.”
Eventually, after both realized that their first marriage was over, they started dating. Immediately they felt a strong bond. Friends advised them to calm down, that it was too early to start a new relationship, advised them to go on a date. In other words, turn your back on love.
There was a time when they listened. Kenny tells her that he needs two months. But when he began to listen to his heart, truly appreciate his intelligence, he began to believe in the power of love. He called Julia after ten days and asked to see her. They have been together ever since.
It is true that they went through many of the crazy times that are common in relationships – jealousy, insecurities, and fear. But through honesty and commitment to the greater truth of love, they can overcome old ruts. The trails scream to us, “If you love me so much, you’re crazy. If you love me then you’re probably stupid, blind, stubborn, sly, or unworthy of me.”
When they get married, they choose a ritual that symbolizes their desire to “be loved a lot, different from ordinary life.” They want the ritual to celebrate freedom from the constraints of society and belief systems that: “Love is not real.”
If I learn anything from my kids and life it is… we are all possible to achieve great things. — Jody Swarbrick
“But on that journey, my family gained strength, faith and courage,” Jody said. We face trials, cry together, but most importantly, we laugh together, learn and grow together.”
In other words, Jody and her wonderful family know how to Love Much.
Many of her adopted children are children that no one wants to adopt. Even their biological parents. Even social service agencies who don’t know what to do with children with multiple personalities or abuse.
Joddy entered where the others said, “My God, that was a disaster.” and said, “Here’s what I can do.”
For example, Tyler came to Jody when he was 7 years old. The boy is not only disabled and deaf, but also has attention deficit hyperactivity disorder. He is now 20 years old and works at a grocery store.
Jenna, Jody’s oldest child, came from Korea when she was 12 years old. She doesn’t know a word of English and because she has polio she can only walk with crutches.
Jenny went to college, became the first disabled resident’s assistant, graduated with a bachelor’s degree in chemistry and biology, and became the first disabled nursing student at the college of her choice. Today she works at the rehab center of a large hospital, inspiring others about what is possible.
Sometimes the challenge for Jody revolves around language barriers. Luke and Andy, twins from Korea, one day ran home from school so fast that they couldn’t breathe.
They shouted: “Mom, take the basket. Mom, take the basket. We have pets. Hurry up mom.
As she stood there, trying to decipher their limited English, Andy began to say aloud, “Mom, the teacher said it’s going to rain dogs and cats tonight. fence, but she misinterpreted it as “rain of dogs and cats”). We will have pets. Isn’t that right, mom?”
Soon she said, “We bought a dog.”
20 years ago, when Jody first adopted Tori from Korea, she was still married. She is the full-time mother of Eric, her biological child, now 31 years old.
If she knew that one day her husband would leave her and she would be a single mother and raise so many children, she might stop and say, “Wow, this is a bit too much for me.”
By accepting a little each day, forgetting about yesterday, and not worrying too much about tomorrow, she can not only feed Teri, who today, instead of being as healthy as Jody promises, has impetigo. and convulsions, hospitalization for bronchitis, pneumonia and asthma — but also Tori’s 27 siblings.
“It’s not easy and I certainly don’t have a ‘typical’ life,” says Jody. But typical is boring!”
Jody’s original dream was to become a pediatrician. She grew up in Cedar Falls, babysitting, volunteering as a nurse at a local hospital, working as an assistant teacher for special children. By the time she was in high school, she knew what she wanted to do. She went to the school counselor and announced, “I want to be a pediatrician.” The counselor looked at her humorously and said, “Men are doctors. Women are nurses.” So she got married and became a mother.
Today she is challenging that school counselor, choosing a double degree in psychology and human services. Then she plans to go to graduate school.
In the meantime, she works as an online instructor for the About.com website for parents of children with special needs. Working from home between 17 laundry loads a day, Swarbrick hosts websites, chats, provides forums, writes articles, and ensures that people get the information they need.
Her children also often offer advice, helping her to give hope to other parents who also have children with disabilities in the home.
“A lot of times I frankly say…tell me what my kids can do, tell me my kids are amazing…because they are and they will accomplish many important milestones,” she said. important. Although they may be small compared to society, they are a parental miracle.”
“Children who are abused or have special needs often don’t have a childhood,” she said. Goals are set on what they need to do or can’t do. In my home, all children are treated equally, with disabilities second only to a child’s needs. The kids are encouraged by me to do silly things, play and laugh. Childish pranks are all perfectly fine. We often believe that children with special needs take a lot of work, but that’s not true. What matters is how you prioritize and plan every day.”
The most important thing, she says, is learning to appreciate the “little things in life” — like family dinners and Friday night movies with popcorn and chocolate chip cookies, all Family events are all marked on the giant family calendar.
Or as Jody says of Living the life you want: “We are all limited by our prejudices. Each of us possesses a God-given gift – qualities that make us shine. We often become complacent because we are unsure of ourselves. We also walk in the ruts created by society and when we reach out of the “norm” our motivation and sanity are called into question. Our fear of the unknown makes us often want to stay in our comfort zone because it seems safe. We have to believe, we have to have faith even when the results are not quite so easy to achieve. We have to go out with that faith and reach for the stars because they are just a knuckles away from us.”
Love the great idea
When we truly love, we are taken to a whole new level. All our worries (worry about what?) are forgotten.
Unfortunately, most of us hear the word love and immediately think of a white dress, black suit, and diamond ring. The tendency to associate love with romance is a blind spot. There are not only millions of people to love (forget about finding the One of your dreams) but also, millions more ideas. You can become an expert on millions of topics (such as the French Revolution or the music of Mozart), you can start millions of searches.
Take Larry Woydziak as an example. A few years ago, this fireman from Lawrence, Kansas decided he wanted to see his state. But instead of just driving across the state, he decided to bowl in all 105 counties in the state. He bought the ball for $1.95 at a thrift store, named it Martha, and hit the road. Sounds very simple, doesn’t it? But with this simple act, he not only made many new friends, but also made many people notice the beauty of small towns.
His wife, Connie, takes a picture of Larry and Martha at each bowling alley and he even runs a website and diary called “Larry’s Down Street Life.”
Or take Joe Martori as an example. The CEO from Sedona, Arizona collects photos of celebrities named Joe – from Joseph Stalin to shoeless Joe Jackson and GI Joe. Photos of these people named Joe (such as Joe Kennedy, Joey Buttafuco, Joe Namath and the little kangaroo named Joey) are on display at Martori’s restaurant called Joey Bistro.
Anyone who can name all of the about 40 people named Joe gets a free meal. And while it’s not a typical love story, Martori was delighted with her one-of-a-kind collection and had an enjoyable time for her clients.
Tony Nave’s great love is cooking. He turned his passion into a fun cooking show. For example, on Halloween, he dressed up as Ozzy Osbourne’s wife and made recipes with squash; at Christmas, he dressed up as Bing Crosby with a pipe. He often opens the show by sitting in a tub full of soap bubbles with a pan on his head and a ladle in his hand.
The point here is that there are so many ideas and so many ways to Love Much. Don’t just sit there waiting for your soulmate. Be crazy in love. Love even if it sounds absurd. Love in every way, in every shape and in every style.
3 big questions
Life is a precious and beautiful thing. you can’t just sit back and watch it go by… you have to rush into it; you have to immerse yourself in it; You can’t keep it in the box. you must taste it; you must use it. the more you use it the more you have…it’s the magic of life! —Kyle Samuel Crichton
Alfred Nobel, the international businessman who came up with the Nobel Peace Prize, did so because he began to ask the big questions. What made him famous before asking these questions was that he invented dynamite and he had no business ethics. When his brother, also a famous businessman, died, the media inadvertently ran Alfred’s obituary. After reading what people wrote about him, he was shocked. “Is this what I want people to say about me after I die?” he wondered. Other questions you can think about are:
1. How do I regain my sense of the sacred?
2. What is the highest potential for a relationship with a spouse or important person in my life?
3. How can I observe the sacredness of today?
Soul training camp
Find your caravan
It’s time for all of us to risk our importance. — Dawna Markova
Exercise: Organize a Watch and Tell program for family and friends. Invite people to bring a favorite poem, a special keepsake, a treasure they hold, or a moving true story._
Rumi calls it a caravan for like-minded seekers. A group of people who share the same philosophy, a desire to save the world. Do you remember the promise in the monthly Bible? All you need are “ten good people.”
Let’s start with the Watch and Tell program. Why is it not a normal event?
About once a week, we should meet up with family, best friends and show them the doodle you drew on the back of the bill or whatever we came up with while waiting at the laundromat.
Adults still come up with a lot of things. We just don’t tell anyone. We don’t think it matters. Especially when the lawn needs to be mowed and the silencer needs fixing.
How much closer we would be if we paused long enough to appreciate each person in the Watch and Tell circle. If we listen to each other’s stories, look at each other’s creations. We all need a community. We need more ways to connect with each other.
When you find your tribe, your ten good people, put your heads together and come up with twelve ways to become an angel.
Angel? Maybe I should explain.
Tasman, my seven-year-old daughter, loves to play masquerade. She’ll put on my shoes, put a fur scarf around her neck, and pretend to be me. Other times, she pretends to be her teacher, the lion trainer or the great magician Tazini, who can make water disappear.
Just as children learn to be adults by pretending, we can learn about love by pretending to be angels. Don’t be surprised if you finally see your wings.
Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take, but by the moments that amaze us.
Are you planning a party? A pre-wedding party or a party for women about to give birth? Or organize a soul party where everyone involved has a chance to spread the love.
There is nothing more wasteful than living an ordinary life. There is nothing more tragic than a person who has lost his charisma. — Mark Eberra
You hear voices. The voice kept whispering, “You can have more than that.” The voice beckons: “Make your life extraordinary.”
Why do you prick your ears when you hear about an artist, activist or anyone doing a GREAT thing, something truly unique? You start to wonder.
Or you feel a little disgruntled. It’s not because you’re not grateful for what you have, like your job, your car, or your credit card, but because you’re constantly asking yourself, “What could be more?”
That’s what Buckminster Fuller wondered seventy-four years ago when he decided to do a little experiment. He decided to experiment with his own life to see what an unknown, penniless individual could do on behalf of humanity. Calling himself White Mouse B, he devoted himself to living the life he wanted.
At the time of the experiment, he was only 32 years old. He is nobody. Bankrupt and unemployed, he has a wife and a newborn baby to raise. His first child, the sister of a newborn baby, had just died. He drank alcohol all day. His life prospects are not very bright. But he decided to forget the past, give up negative thoughts. He wanted to know: “What can one person do to change the world?”
For the next 56 years, he devoted himself to this unique experiment. He risked his life, he asked himself: “What if?
Not only did he become a great architect, inventor, writer and leader, but from 1927 when he started experimenting until his death in 1983, he wrote 28 books, received 44 honors. participated, won 25 patents in the US and really changed the way people see themselves.
That’s what I hope the book Live Life as You Want to have done for you. I hope it has changed the way you see yourself. I hope it inspires you to experiment with your own life asking, “Who can I be?”
We all want to have a meaningful life. We all want an extraordinary life, an exciting life, a life that makes others want to stand up.
I hope now you will go out and be the coolest, funniest, most magical, most beautiful and gentle person you can be.