Chapter 4: Determine Your Values
The universe is made up of all that exists, including one God,
one principle of existence,
one law shared by all thinking beings,
and one truth. ― Marcus Aurelius
One of the most important qualities of leaders
and successful people in every field
is that they always define their self-worth,
they know who they are,
what they believe in,
and what they stand for.
With a strategic vision,
with the ability to clearly define their goals,
values and ideals,
they always achieve remarkable achievements in
whatever work they strive for.
On the contrary, people who do not understand their self-worth,
they also try to manage,
busy with their work
but often do not achieve everything as expected.
Life is about experiencing yourself inside and out.
It is the core values within you that
have built the image you are today.
All your actions and behavior on the outside are controlled
and determined by your inner values.
Therefore, the more clearly you define your inner values,
the more accurate and effective your outward actions will be.
FIVE PERSONALITY LEVEL
Goals are dreams brought to life. ― Amy Leigh Mercree
Imagine your personality is made up of 5 concentric circles,
representing 5 different levels of personality.
The center of the circle is your values.
From this value center it determines your beliefs,
also the next circle.
If you carry within yourself positive values,
such as love, benevolence,
then believe that you
and those around you deserve
to receive and give such things.
In turn, your beliefs will determine your expectations the third circle.
When you form positive values and beliefs,
you will become a good person.
At that time, you will expect good things to come to you
as well as to those around you.
You will always have a positive,
cheerful attitude and good direction for your future.
The next circle represents the fourth level of personality
which is your attitude.
Attitude is the outward expression
or reflection of your values,
beliefs, and expectations.
When you form values about a good world,
belief in success in life,
and hope for new things to come to you,
you will become happier and more optimistic
when you know other people are also spending your time,
similar feelings towards you.
This also explains the fact that anyone
with a positive attitude always achieves great results in life.
Finally, the fifth circle,
or life level,
is your action.
The actions you show on the outside are a reflection of your values
and beliefs from deep within.
Therefore, what you achieve in life will be largely
determined by what is going on inside rather than by external factors.
VALUE MUST CORRECT WITH THE OBJECTIVE
Goals are the fuel in the furnace of achievement. — Brian Tracy
No matter how wise a person is,
it is difficult to hide all of their thoughts
if we take the time to consider their outward manifestations.
Almost always, if someone’s soul holds values,
if they are positive, optimistic, have clear goals
and future orientation, they will certainly enjoy a happy,
successful and prosperous life in real life.
Aristotle once said that the ultimate goal of man is the desire
to achieve his own personal happiness.
You will be a happy person
if what you show in your outer life is in harmony
with your inner values.
Indeed, when you live according to
what you think is good and right,
you will feel happier and more positive.
In it, your goals and values must be compatible.
When you have clearly defined your own values,
you must think carefully about truly meaningful goals in your life
because this is the launching pad for you to rise
to high achievements,
Conversely, when your goals and values are not compatible,
no matter how hard you try,
you will cause stress,
Therefore, your main responsibility to yourself
in order to create a perfect life is to define
as clearly as possible your values in everything.
WHAT DO YOU REALLY WANT?
A good archer is known not
by his arrows but by his aim. ― Thomas Fuller
Stephen Covey said:
“Make sure that when you’re on the ladder of success,
it’s leaning against the right wall.“
In life, there are many people who have worked hard
to achieve their goals,
but then they do not feel satisfied
or satisfied with their achievements.
Simply because their outward achievements are not compatible
with their inner values.
Don’t let this happen to you!
Socrates once said:
“Life is meaningless if it is not tested“.
As with your values or any other area of your life,
you need to clearly define your true values on a “forward-looking” basis.
Please stop often and ask yourself:
“What is my value in this area?”
In the Bible it is written:
“What profit will a man gain when he gains the whole world,
but loses his own soul?”.
What do you think when you know that
the happiest people in the world are those who live in harmony
with the beliefs and values deep in their souls;
And the most unhappy people are those
who are trying to live against their values and beliefs?
BELIEVE IN INTUITIONS
A goal is a dream with a deadline. ― Napoleon Hill
Belief in yourself is the foundation to greatness.
It originates from listening to one’s own intuition,
listening to the quiet sound in each person’s soul.
People become great when they listen to the inner voices
and fully believe that they are being guided
by an extraordinary power from within.
Living in harmony with your true values
is the glorious path to confidence,
self-respect, and pride.
In fact, almost all human problems can be solved by returning to values.
Whenever you encounter a problem,
look at yourself and ask yourself, “
In this case, how should I compromise my inner values?”
TRACKING YOUR BEHAVIOR
You should set goals beyond your reach
so you always have something to live for. —Ted Turner
How do you know what your true values are?
The answer is very simple.
Because you always show true values through actions,
especially actions when under pressure.
Whenever you find yourself forced to choose one behavior or another,
you will always choose the behavior that
you consider most important and valuable to you at that moment.
In fact, values are organized on a scale from strong
and important to weak and unimportant.
To clearly define your true values and expectations,
you need to prioritize your values.
Once you have a clear understanding of the importance of values,
you can adjust your life to fit them.
LEARN PAST BEHAVIOR
You have to believe it before you see it. ― Aysa Angel
Learning about your past is also a very scientific method
for you to determine your true values.
For example, how did you behave when under pressure?
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How did you choose with your time or money when forced?
Define what can be impact to goal.
Through questions like these,
you will better understand your outstanding values
when falling into that situation.
Dale Carnegie once said,
“Tell me what creates the strongest feelings about a person’s importance,
and I will tell you his entire philosophy of life.”
What makes you feel important?
What increases your self-esteem and pride?
What achievements in life give you a sense of pride and fulfillment?
After answering, with these questions,
you will perceive to some extent the signs of your true worth.
DESIRE IN HEART
The tragedy lies in having no goals to reach. — Benjamin E. Mays
Emmet Fox, an expert in the field of self-improvement,
when referring to the importance of “aspiration in the heart”,
raised a number of questions:
Where is the desire in your heart?
What is the deepest thing in your heart that
makes you want to achieve more than anything else?
Or as a friend of mine once asked,
“What do you want to be famous for?”
To better understand this,
try answering the following questions:
What would you like others
to say about you when you’re not there?
What would you like people
to say about you at your funeral?
How do you want your family,
friends and children to remember you?
How is your reputation now?
How would you like your reputation to be in the future?
From today, what do you need to do to build the reputation you desire?
FORGET THE PAST, GO TO THE FUTURE
The only goals you don’t achieve in life are the goals you don’t set. ― Matt Fox
There are many people because of misconceptions
and misconceptions that they have to pay dearly in life.
When they fall into difficult circumstances,
they have made friends with inappropriate objects
and have committed illegal or socially unacceptable behavior.
Worse, some were even convicted and jailed.
But at some point,
they want to change their own life,
by changing the values they believe in themselves.
This decision helps them change their lives,
leaving the past behind to look to the future.
How about you?
It doesn’t matter where you come from;
Most importantly, where are you going?
The great glorious masterpiece of man is
to know how to live with purpose. — Michel de Montaigne
According to psychologists,
the level of self-evaluation of each person will determine the level
of happiness of that person.
How you rate yourself is determined by your subjective image.
This is how you see and think about yourself
in your everyday interactions with people.
Your subjective image is shaped by your subjective ideal.
It’s the subjective ideal that is drawn from your virtues,
Here’s what psychologists have discovered:
the more consistent your actual behavior is with your ideal behavior,
the more you will like and respect yourself
and because of that, you will feel happier.
On the contrary,
when actual behavior is not consistent with ideal behavior,
then you will not realize your true worth,
and at the same time will feel that
your capacity is not being maximized,
and your happiness level also decreases as a result.
PERFORMANCE AT THE HIGHEST LEVELS
The comfort zone is the great enemy of courage and confidence. — Brian Tracy
The time when you show your ability at the highest level is
when your subjective image is improved,
your self-worth is enhanced,
you will feel happier about yourself and the world around you.
For example, every time you are praised
or celebrated for an achievement,
your self-esteem will increase,
sometimes very high.
You will feel good about yourself and your ideals and successes in life.
Therefore, you should systematically set goals
to enhance your self-worth in everything you do.
You should present yourself
as an excellent person
as you have always expected.
KNOW WHAT YOU BELIEVE
There are only two rules for being successful.
One, figure out exactly what you want to do,
and two, do it. — Mario Cuomo
In terms of work and career, what are your values?
Do you think you also have values such as integrity, hard work,
trustworthiness, creativity, cooperation, dynamism,
progress, and getting along with people?
By embodying these values at work,
you will achieve more success and gain more respect than if you show nothing at all.
As a family, what are your values?
Do you believe in the importance of true love,
constant encouragement and reinforcement,
patience, forgiveness, generosity,
friendliness and consideration for those
who have great influence in your life?
your life? These values will help you live a much happier life.
In the financial sector,
where do your values manifest?
Do you believe in the importance of honesty,
hard work, frugality, perseverance,
education, great performance?
These values will enable you to develop your ability
to lead you faster to financial success.
What about health?
Values such as discipline, self-improvement,
and self-control are related to the regime,
if eating, exercising
and resting are applied thoroughly,
you will surely have an ideal body
and great health as you always desire.
TRUTH WITH YOURSELF
If you want to live a happy life, tie it to a goal,
not to people or things. — Albert Einstein
Perhaps the most important human value is integrity.
Through real life, many people have concluded:
“Integrity is not only a value but it also guarantees all other values”.
This is a very useful lesson for us.
Because when we live consistent with a certain value,
integrity will determine whether we will pursue our goals to the end or not.
The higher the degree of integrity,
the stronger we feel in everything.
Truly great people have always been judged
to have a very high degree of integrity.
They themselves always show consistency
between their actions and their highest values
even when no one is watching.
In contrast, mediocre people always work in vain
and always compromise their integrity,
especially when no one is watching.
LIVE WITH YOURSELF AND OTHERS
Every adversity contains, at the same time,
a seed of equivalent opportunity! — Napoleon Hill
Define yourself today to be a respected person,
someone who is true to himself and to those around him.
At the same time, you should also clearly show your values
in every aspect of your life.
Then, write down behaviors that are consistent with those values,
and be prepared to refuse to compromise for any reason.
Once you have fully taken responsibility for your life,
defined your values,
and set your sights on a perfect future,
you can begin to set clear, specific goals for yourself.
Be ready to reach for the good things in life.
DETERMINATION OF YOUR VALUES
Don’t worry about what others think;
care about what you think of yourself. ― Debasish Mridha
1. Write down a list of 3 to 5 values that you consider the most important in life.
What will you really believe and aim for?
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2. What qualities and values will people see in you?
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education, great performance.
3. What values do you consider the most important
to strengthen relationships
with those around you?
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4. What are your values in the financial sector?
Do you express those values every day?
5. Describe a portrait of a person you think is ideal,
and who you would like to be if there were no limitations.
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6. Try writing a list of things you want your friends,
family, and people around you to say about you in your absence.
7. What would you like to change in your behavior
to live more consistent with your values?
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What you think, so you will become. — Napoleon Hill
Do one thing at a time.
Start the day with a list of things you have to do,
and do the most important things first. — Brian Tracy