Chapter 23: Being Honest – Your Code of Conduct
The time will never be just right.”— Napoleon Hill
* Your target:
Can we have great values,
great rules to defend them,
ask the right questions for ourselves,
but not live our values in reality?
If you’re honest with yourself,
you know the answer is yes.
All of us at one time
or another allow our circumstances to govern us,
instead of us having to control our states
and decisions about the meaning of the circumstances.
We need a clear way
to make sure we honestly live the values we’ve chosen,
and we need a way
to gauge whether we’re actually achieving those values in our daily lives.
“Do one thing every day that scares you.”— Eleanor Roosevelt
That young man was excellently successful at the age of 27.
He is very intelligent,
reads a lot and feels he can move the world.
But one day he realized this:
he was not very happy!
Many people hate him
because of his arrogant
and overbearing appearance.
He felt that he was no longer in control of his life,
much less in control of his own destiny.
He decided to take charge of his life
by setting higher standards for himself,
developing a strategy to achieve those standards,
and creating a system to measure the results he achieved each day.
He began to choose 12 “virtue”
12 states that he wanted to experience every day
to make his life go in the right direction.
Then he took out his diary
and wrote down those 12 states,
next to that list he drew squares for every day of the month.
“Every time I violate a virtue,
I’ll put a black dot in the box next to that virtue.
My goal is that there won’t be a single black dot on the list.
Then I’ll know it’s me,
really live with those virtues.”
He was very proud of this idea
and he showed it off to a friend.
His friend said, “Wonderful!
Only I think you should add the virtue of humility to your list of virtues”.
“Your time is limited,
so don’t waste it living someone else’s life.”— Steve Jobs
And Benjamin Franklin laughed
and added the 13th virtue to his list.
I remember reading this story in the biography of Ben Franklin
while I was busy at work in a hotel room in Milwaukee.
Just before that,
I had an idea of the values and their ladder
and I made a list of what I thought were great values for myself
and I thought I would be satisfied living those values.
“Never give up on a dream just
because of the time it will take to accomplish it.
The time will pass anyway.”— Earl Nightingale
But when I think about Ben Franklin’s list of virtues,
I wonder, “Okay, you made love a value,
but do you love right now?
Dedication is a great value yours,
but is the machine making a contribution right now?”
And the answer is no.
I have great values,
but I don’t measure
if I really live those values every second of every minute.
I know I have compassion for people,
but looking back,
I realize there were many times
when I didn’t know how to love people!
I sat down and asked myself,
“What state would I be in if I was most fulfilled?
What state would I want to be in every day,
no matter what?”
Regardless of the environment,
regardless of the difficulties around me,
I will hold these states at least once a day!”
The states I am determined
to keep are friendly,
passionate and funny.
Some of these states are in my values,
some are not.
But I know that if I really lived these states every day,
I would relate to them.
Continue to live your values,
and as you can imagine,
this is quite an exciting job.
I have decided to live according
to those states which I call my Laws of Life.
I also have a sense of satisfaction knowing that
when I live in these states being true to myself.
I live up to my values in that moment.
“Put your principles into action”. -Ralph Waldo Emrson
There are many Laws of Life for you to follow.
What do you think about the life rule of the Ten Commandments?
Or the Boy Scout oath?
Or the Criterion of the Association of Optimists?
You can make up your own Rules of Life by following the existing Rules…
When John Wooden,
the famous UCLA basketball coach,
graduated from elementary school at the age of 12,
his father gave him a seven-point guideline.
John says this credo has had one of the biggest influences on his life and career.
“When you want something,
all the universe conspires in helping you to achieve it.”— Paulo Coelho
This principle he still holds every day of his life:
Jonh wooden’s seven point relationship:
“press yourself the best way”
1. Be honest with yourself.
2. Make every day your masterpiece.
3. Please help others.
4. Be passionate about reading good books.
5. Make friendship an art.
6. Be prepared for difficult days.
7. Ask for inspiration and give thanks for the blessings you receive each day.
“Choose a job you love,
and you will never have to work a day in your life.”— Confucius
Religion Of Association Of Optimists
* Live strong so that nothing can disturb the peace of mind.
* Talk about health, happiness,
and abundance with everyone I meet.
* Make every friend
I feel they have values.
* See the good side of things
and make my optimism come true.
* Think only for the best,
act for the best and expect the best.
* Enjoy the success of others as much as your own.
* Forget the mistakes of the past
and focus on the results of the future.
* Keep a smiling face
and know how to smile when meeting anyone.
* Spend a lot of time cultivating yourself,
so you won’t have time to criticize others.
* Very generous so as not to feel guilty,
very noble so as not to get angry,
very strong so as not to be afraid,
and very cheerful so as not to feel confused.
“Action is the foundational key to all success. ”— Pablo Picasso